Lisa had to make the difficult decision of ending her marriage when she realized she was conditioning her kids to be dysfunctional just as her parents had programmed her. It killed her inside to see the effect of what she was doing in her children. Her therapist told her it would take everything she had to change it, but she knew she had to do it. After an ugly divorce, her personal trainer clients started to express their interest in her coaching them. She built her website and started writing about what she had learned and people responded! She eventually wrote her book ''The Road Back to Me'" and it became an Amazon bestseller. After that, the flood gates opened, she wrote more books and became a certified life coach. She now helps people to get out of the patterns they run and stop begin codependent.

Here's what we talked about:

-How Lisa found out she wasn't crazy but codependent

-Getting into the wrong relationships because the new potential partner looks good on paper

-People-pleasing as a result of feeling unworthy

-Self-care being deemed as selfish by the people in your life

-A marriage not surviving if both people don't grow together

-Going from victimhood to empowerment

-Codependency and the patterns we run over and over again

-Understanding where you come from is the only way to change where you're going

-Attachment vs. codependency

Here's more about Lisa:

Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. Lisa is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on Insight Timer and her podcast, Breakdown to Breakthrough ranks in the top 100 of the mental health category.

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