We create vision boards, write letters, throw pennies in a fountain, set goals, pray and ask the Universe for what we want. Through hard work and determination, we will it into existence… whether it’s a vacation home in Tuscany, the corner office or a picture-perfect family with 2.5 children and a dog named Rover. Often, however, it isn’t the “thing” you actually want. It’s what it represents; the fantasy it fulfills; how it looks from the outside. So when you do get what you “want,” it’s kind of a dud. Then you set your sights on a bigger villa, another promotion, or even a different partner. But what you’re really looking for is nowhere to be found because you don’t know what that is. You just keep filling the hole.

When will you stop forcing and start asking yourself why these things don’t deliver the happiness you seek? In this episode you’ll learn how to connect with your deeper motivation, which is key to understanding what you really want (vs. what you THINK you want). Security, health, love and acceptance all play a role. Through this exploration you may discover you’ve been chasing a red herring, and what you truly want is packaged in a totally different wrapper. Force and fantasy won’t give you what you want. Clarity, trust and letting go of expectations will.

Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget)

Love yourself and connect there. Feel it and then choose—what do I want?

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