The Art of Charm

711: The Art of Talking to Strangers


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“There are no strangers here, only friends you haven’t met yet.” – William Butler

Think about it – at one point in time everyone in our lives was a stranger – even our closest friend.

Whether we are trying to strike up a conversation at a networking event, meeting someone at a bar, or just talking to your barista, the art of talking to strangers comes alive every day.

On today’s episode, we aren’t just discussing how to talk to strangers, but why doing so can improve our lives and increase our happiness.


The Cheat Sheet

  • How can we use the F-E-A-R acronym to help define the types of fear fueling our anxieties? 10:47
  • Fusion 11:11 Expectations 19:26 Avoidance 30:48 Remoteness 34:47
  • What do Silicon Valley CEOs know about the influence of technology and connection? 13:17
  • Why is talking to strangers essential to growing our personal and professional networks? 37:46
  • How does talking to strangers bring out the best in us? 47:00
  • Could simply saying hello be the most underrated icebreaker? 53:57

  • “Most people aren’t going to give you a no, they’re going to respond to a hello” – AJ Harbinger

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    Resources

    • AoC Episode 710 - The Art of Breaking the Ice
    • The Happiness Trap by Dr. Russ Harris
    • “Hello Stranger” by Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton
    • “How to Talk to Strangers” by Kio Stark
    • “Why You Should Talk to Strangers” TedTalk by Kio Stark
    • When Strangers Meet TedBook by Kio Stark

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