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74. You Accept the Love you Think You Deserve: Healing Attachment Wounds + Heartbreak, Choosing Self-Respect Over Validation, & Attracting a Healthy Relationship
You accept the love you believe you deserve. And if you know that you deserve more than you've gotten in romantic relationships but you haven't been able to receive it — this episode is for you.
If you've been around the block getting your heart broken or fearing to let it be loved or found yourself in a thousand different ruts dating people who just don't feel right for you — this episode is a foundation for navigating that.
If there is part of you that feels or has felt incomplete without a romantic relationship, that feels like you're waiting around to find the person you're meant to be with, that longs for wholeness in the union of you and another — I have one piece of advice for you that rings throughout this episode:
Stop looking. Stop searching. And realize that you are already whole on your own. Everything you're looking for is inside of you - including the ingredients it takes to attract that healthy union in your life.
Center YOU. Fall so deeply in love with you and your life, that anyone who opens the door to enter it must meet a standard you've set with the love you give yourself in order to walk in.
Set the standard for how you want to be treated with how you treat yourself.
Become so in love with your hobbies, your friendships, your pursuit of growth - that anyone who enters the wholeness of your life will only compliment it and add value to the bounty you've already created.
This episode is about expanding the capacity for what we believe we deserve through the nurturing of a relationship with ourselves.
We dive deep into the psychology of romantic relationships and what it takes to attract a healthy partnership into our lives, how to keep it, and why our nervous system gets triggered in romantic relationships and I share my story on figuring this sh!t out over the last couple of years.
A meditation aligned with this episode is available in the community, which you can join here xx
Meditation for Self-Love, Compassion, & Acceptance - with Journaling Prompts
If you liked this episode, you'll like these too:
Episode 34: Confidence, Personal Power, & Magnetic Energy - Rising Above Judgement & People Pleasing
Episode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-Concept
Episode 4: Access to You is a Privilege - Navigating All Types of Love & Relationships
Join the Community for Free access all FSO Guidebooks, Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, bonus content, + community group chat connection!
Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation on my Patreon :)
x
IF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3
& Stay Connected through:
MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)
Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitout
Personal Instagram: @222vgf
TikTok: butterflyfountain
Substack
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CHAPTERS:
0:00-5:16: Your Relationship with Yourself Determines What You Accept in a Romantic Relationship
5:16-8:00: Decentering Romantic Love & Centering Yourself: Dating Yourself
8:00-9:30: Why We Let Some Relationships Keep us Small
9:30-10:30: Building a Relationship with Yourself will Always Lead to More Love in Your Life
10:30-13:04: Navigating Heartbreak & Healing
13:04-15:00: Understanding Attachment Styles
15:00-17:30: Anxious Attachment & Protest Behavior
17:30-18:56: Avoidant Attachment
18:56-22:22: Secure Attachment & The Dynamics of a Healthy Relationship
22:22- 25:16: Self-Awareness in Love
25:16- 27:30: The Trap of Dating Apps & Searching for Love
27:30-30:00: Self-Respect > Validation: Letting People Audition to be in Your Life
30:00-32:00: Mistaking Infatuation for Love & Situationships
32:00- 34:00: The Importance of Wholeness in a Relationship
34:00-36:09: Building False Senses of Intimacy has to GO
36:09-38:30: The Power of Platonic, Familial, & Self Love
38:30-40:00: Being Picky, Non-Negotiables, & Not Being Afraid to Walk Away
40:00- 43:00: Healing IN a Relationship & Growing with a Partner, Partnership + Personal Growth
43:00-46:42: The Right Relationship Gives you Freedom
46:42-49:38: Challenging Negative Beliefs about Love & Relationships
49:38-57:40: Attracting Positive & Healthy Relationships
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By Vanessa Fontana
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You accept the love you believe you deserve. And if you know that you deserve more than you've gotten in romantic relationships but you haven't been able to receive it — this episode is for you.
If you've been around the block getting your heart broken or fearing to let it be loved or found yourself in a thousand different ruts dating people who just don't feel right for you — this episode is a foundation for navigating that.
If there is part of you that feels or has felt incomplete without a romantic relationship, that feels like you're waiting around to find the person you're meant to be with, that longs for wholeness in the union of you and another — I have one piece of advice for you that rings throughout this episode:
Stop looking. Stop searching. And realize that you are already whole on your own. Everything you're looking for is inside of you - including the ingredients it takes to attract that healthy union in your life.
Center YOU. Fall so deeply in love with you and your life, that anyone who opens the door to enter it must meet a standard you've set with the love you give yourself in order to walk in.
Set the standard for how you want to be treated with how you treat yourself.
Become so in love with your hobbies, your friendships, your pursuit of growth - that anyone who enters the wholeness of your life will only compliment it and add value to the bounty you've already created.
This episode is about expanding the capacity for what we believe we deserve through the nurturing of a relationship with ourselves.
We dive deep into the psychology of romantic relationships and what it takes to attract a healthy partnership into our lives, how to keep it, and why our nervous system gets triggered in romantic relationships and I share my story on figuring this sh!t out over the last couple of years.
A meditation aligned with this episode is available in the community, which you can join here xx
Meditation for Self-Love, Compassion, & Acceptance - with Journaling Prompts
If you liked this episode, you'll like these too:
Episode 34: Confidence, Personal Power, & Magnetic Energy - Rising Above Judgement & People Pleasing
Episode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-Concept
Episode 4: Access to You is a Privilege - Navigating All Types of Love & Relationships
Join the Community for Free access all FSO Guidebooks, Discounted/Free access to all workshops, monthly guided meditations, bonus content, + community group chat connection!
Free Grounding & Energy Cleansing Meditation on my Patreon :)
x
IF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, RATE THE SHOW ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM! & LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3
& Stay Connected through:
MY NEWSLETTER (scroll to the end of the page to join!)
Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitout
Personal Instagram: @222vgf
TikTok: butterflyfountain
Substack
x
CHAPTERS:
0:00-5:16: Your Relationship with Yourself Determines What You Accept in a Romantic Relationship
5:16-8:00: Decentering Romantic Love & Centering Yourself: Dating Yourself
8:00-9:30: Why We Let Some Relationships Keep us Small
9:30-10:30: Building a Relationship with Yourself will Always Lead to More Love in Your Life
10:30-13:04: Navigating Heartbreak & Healing
13:04-15:00: Understanding Attachment Styles
15:00-17:30: Anxious Attachment & Protest Behavior
17:30-18:56: Avoidant Attachment
18:56-22:22: Secure Attachment & The Dynamics of a Healthy Relationship
22:22- 25:16: Self-Awareness in Love
25:16- 27:30: The Trap of Dating Apps & Searching for Love
27:30-30:00: Self-Respect > Validation: Letting People Audition to be in Your Life
30:00-32:00: Mistaking Infatuation for Love & Situationships
32:00- 34:00: The Importance of Wholeness in a Relationship
34:00-36:09: Building False Senses of Intimacy has to GO
36:09-38:30: The Power of Platonic, Familial, & Self Love
38:30-40:00: Being Picky, Non-Negotiables, & Not Being Afraid to Walk Away
40:00- 43:00: Healing IN a Relationship & Growing with a Partner, Partnership + Personal Growth
43:00-46:42: The Right Relationship Gives you Freedom
46:42-49:38: Challenging Negative Beliefs about Love & Relationships
49:38-57:40: Attracting Positive & Healthy Relationships
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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