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88. How To Assess Emotional Maturity- In YOURSELF! Part 2
Surviving emotionally immature relationships require you to show up, or not show up, in certain ways to preserve the relationship and the attachment. Part of healing and especially if you are considering getting into another relationship, means you need to be able to take a look at how YOU showed up in your previous relationship. This is a shift from looking at how your partner may have showed up right?!
You certainly did not CHOOSE your trauma or abuse, and, if you stayed in it- you want to see why WITHOUT SELF -JUDGEMENT, GUILT OR SHAME, so that you don't repeat it! I know ya'll don't want that!
So hang with me today as I walk through a few things that you can consider and self reflect on this week.
Here are the main talking points from the podcast episode about emotional maturity, particularly focusing on self-awareness and coping strategies developed from past relationships:
Emotional Maturity Education: The host emphasizes that emotional maturity is a relatively new area of focus and not widely discussed, even though it's crucial for people who have experienced destructive relationships.
Patterns of Emotional Immaturity: The podcast highlights that behaviors perceived as emotionally immature are often adaptive responses developed to survive in challenging environments, not personal flaws.
People Pleasing: Discussed as a common trait among those who grew up in emotionally immature environments, often used as a strategy to feel safe and avoid rejection. The host plans to dedicate a full episode to this topic.
Boundaries: The difficulty in setting, holding, and communicating boundaries is tied to childhood environments where boundaries were neither respected nor modeled.
Avoidance of Conflict: Many listeners might relate to avoiding conflict as a survival strategy in abusive relationships or with difficult personalities like narcissists.
Dependency on External Validation: This is connected to the lack of emotional support in early years, leading to a reliance on others for validation.
Black and White Thinking: Described as a survival mechanism in unpredictable or chaotic environments, leading to overly simplistic thinking about people and situations.
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DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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By Amie Woolsey Certified Brainspotting Practitioner, PCC, APSATS-CPC,ELI-MP, C-DGS
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Surviving emotionally immature relationships require you to show up, or not show up, in certain ways to preserve the relationship and the attachment. Part of healing and especially if you are considering getting into another relationship, means you need to be able to take a look at how YOU showed up in your previous relationship. This is a shift from looking at how your partner may have showed up right?!
You certainly did not CHOOSE your trauma or abuse, and, if you stayed in it- you want to see why WITHOUT SELF -JUDGEMENT, GUILT OR SHAME, so that you don't repeat it! I know ya'll don't want that!
So hang with me today as I walk through a few things that you can consider and self reflect on this week.
Here are the main talking points from the podcast episode about emotional maturity, particularly focusing on self-awareness and coping strategies developed from past relationships:
Emotional Maturity Education: The host emphasizes that emotional maturity is a relatively new area of focus and not widely discussed, even though it's crucial for people who have experienced destructive relationships.
Patterns of Emotional Immaturity: The podcast highlights that behaviors perceived as emotionally immature are often adaptive responses developed to survive in challenging environments, not personal flaws.
People Pleasing: Discussed as a common trait among those who grew up in emotionally immature environments, often used as a strategy to feel safe and avoid rejection. The host plans to dedicate a full episode to this topic.
Boundaries: The difficulty in setting, holding, and communicating boundaries is tied to childhood environments where boundaries were neither respected nor modeled.
Avoidance of Conflict: Many listeners might relate to avoiding conflict as a survival strategy in abusive relationships or with difficult personalities like narcissists.
Dependency on External Validation: This is connected to the lack of emotional support in early years, leading to a reliance on others for validation.
Black and White Thinking: Described as a survival mechanism in unpredictable or chaotic environments, leading to overly simplistic thinking about people and situations.
__________________________________________
DATING FROM WITHIN WORKSHOP : Next one MAY 23rd-25th
Missed it? no worries, find the next Workshop HERE
BELIEVING IN YOU COACHING MEMBERSHIP
Increasing your awareness and turning the healing focus towards you takes your healing up a level or two. Group coaching, individual coaching, worksheets, new tools taught each week, support, live sessions recorded, all you need to heal.
INTIMACY WITHIN SELF-PACED COURSE
Walking your through the 7 levels of intimacy were you learn to intimately connect back towards you. Trauma disconnect you, reconnecting can be a beautiful experience and with this self paced course you can take it at your own pace. Workbook included.
MONTHLY DIVORCE Q&A
Join myself and others who are navigating the complexities of divorce and the aftermath that you may not have expected. Come with questions and learn from others as well.
DIVORCE 101 SELF PACED GUIDE
Not sure where to even start? The 'D' word can feel overwhelming to say the least. But lets slow this down a bit as I will help you take the next right step for you, just right now from a place of empowerment.
SHOULD I STAY OR GO GUIDE
I specifically designed this to guide you through one of the most challenging questions you might face in your life. This course isn't just about finding an answer; it's about discovering what that answer means for you and your well-being. Through my own journey and deeply personal decision around should I stay or go, I realized that there is no 'right' choice- but that I make the choice right, by being the chooser of it.
RELATIONSHIP DYNAMIC ASSESSMENT
Book Your Consultation HERE
Learn More About Assessment HERE
Book you Brainspotting session with me HERE
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