After the Affair

89. I Bet You Have Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: How to Spot them After Infidelity


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Welcome to another episode of "After the Affair." I'm your host, Luke Shillings, and today we're tackling a crucial aspect of recovery that many people might not even realise they're struggling with: unhealthy coping mechanisms.


After experiencing the emotional upheaval of infidelity, it's easy to fall into habits that seem helpful in the moment but actually hinder your healing process.

In this episode, we'll explore:

  • What coping mechanisms are and why they are important for your recovery.
  • Real-life examples of unhealthy coping strategies that people often resort to after infidelity.
  • Personal anecdotes from my own recovery journey and the lessons I learned.
  • Signs to look out for to identify if you’re engaging in unhealthy coping behaviours.
  • Practical tips on how to replace these harmful habits with healthier alternatives.
  • Whether you're in the midst of your recovery or supporting someone who is, this episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you move forward on your healing journey. Join me as we uncover the coping mechanisms that might be holding you back and discover healthier ways to cope and thrive after betrayal.

    Key Points:

    1. Understanding Coping Mechanisms: Learn what coping mechanisms are and their role in managing stress and emotional pain.
  • Identifying Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: Recognize common unhealthy coping strategies, such as isolation, excessive drinking, and dwelling on the past.
  • Real-Life Examples: Hear relatable stories and examples to see if you might be engaging in these behaviours without realizing it.
  • Healthy Alternatives: Discover effective and healthy coping mechanisms to replace harmful habits.
  • Practical Advice: Get practical tips and strategies to facilitate your recovery and promote emotional well-being.
  • Resources Mentioned:

    • Books on mindfulness and self-help
  • Journaling techniques
  • Meditation and mindfulness apps
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    Connect with Me:

    • www.lifecoachluke.com
  • www.Instagram.com/mylifecoachluke
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