A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret

By Dani Sumner | Christian Life Coach, Spiritual DirectorHealth & Fitness Mental Health Religion & Spirituality Christianity Education Self-Improvement

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A HOLY MESS | Purpose, Recovery, Trauma, Life Coaching, Shame, Regret episodes

November 27, 2025 208. Happy Thanksgiving 💛
Happy Thanksgiving!
Glad you're here,
Dani

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10 min
November 25, 2025207. When Life Still Feels Heavy: How to Find Some Peace While It’s Still ‘Raining’
What if healing isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… but learning how to find peace while it’s still raining?
While driving down the California coast in a torrential downpour, with full sunshine pouring through the windshield, God gave me a powerful epiphany that changed the way I see healing, peace, and inner resilience.
For years I believed healing meant fixing circumstances, praying away the struggle, or finally getting to an “easier” season. But sometimes the rain doesn’t stop. What can change is our capacity, our perspective, and our ability to hold both suffering and joy at the same time.
This episode is especially for you if you’re tired, overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or waiting for life to calm down before you let yourself breathe again.
Scripture:
Hosea 2:15 — “I will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.”

Joel 2:25 — “I will renew the years the locusts have eaten.”

Song:
“Scars” by I Am They
Quote:
“You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change how you frame it. We’re offered a range of different lenses: acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude.”
— Noelle Oxenhandler
If this episode resonated and you’re ready to find peace in the storm, not just after it, I’d love to support you.
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Let’s talk about where you’re at and how we can work together to help you find more serenity, purpose, and emotional freedom.
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Glad you’re here,
Dani :)

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18 min
November 19, 2025206. Still Stuck After Prayer, Therapy & Self-Help? Here’s Why — And How to Find Purpose & Step Into Your Third Act w/ Therapist Jim Beebe
Ever feel like you've tried EVERYTHING—therapy, retreats, prayer meetings, all the books—but you're still struggling? This episode reveals what might be the missing piece: integrating your body into the healing process.
👉If you’re tired of feeling lost, unheard, or disconnected from your purpose, AND you’re feeling a pull toward “something more” but can’t seem to find your way there, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call and we’ll gently explore what’s getting in the way of the life you know you’re meant to live.
Still feeling stuck after prayer, therapy, and all the self-help? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still feel this way after everything I’ve done?” I hope this episode helps.
Today I’m joined by one of my favorite humans on the planet (and my longtime therapist), Jim Beebe.
Jim’s a wealth of wisdom, life experience and compassion. AND he’s the real deal! I’m so grateful when he shares his time with us on the show! Today we’re talking about my new Coaching program The Third Act, and about why so many of us still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or quietly disconnected on the inside… even though we’ve spent years trying to heal.
We break down the real reasons you might feel stuck, including:
why talk therapy, prayer, and spiritual work can eventually hit a ceiling
how trauma and stress live in the body and nervous system
the triune being: body, mind, and spirit working together
The 3 Acts of your life story, and why so many of us end up circling in Act Two far longer than we need to.
We also dive into what The Third Act really means, and how to step into a more grounded, purposeful, peaceful chapter of your life… one that actually feels like you.
If you’re spiritually-minded, love Jesus, and feel exhausted, invisible, or quietly lost inside (even though your life looks “fine” or even great on the outside), this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a deep sense of hope.
👉 Ready for your Third Act? Schedule your complimentary Discovery Call with me here and let’s explore what’s possible for you in this next season.
So grateful you’re here,
Dani
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35 min
November 12, 2025205. Tired of the ‘Shoulds’? Reclaim Intimacy & Connection with God in 15 Minutes a Day
Hey friend! Today we’re talking about growing our relationship with our Creator, AND why the phrase "quiet time" makes me cringe and how I learned to connect with God in ways that actually work for who HE made ME to be.
If you've ever felt like you're not doing devotions "right" or that your relationship with God doesn't look like everyone else's, this episode is for YOU.
It's time to let go of the shoulds and discover what actually feeds your soul.
What You'll Learn:
✨ Why traditional "quiet time" doesn't work for everyone (and that's okay!)
💪 What a "spiritual workout" looks like and how to create your own
🏃‍♀️ How movement, dancing, and even naps can be part of intimacy with God
📖 Permission to skip scriptures that bring shame instead of empowerment
🧠 The mind-body-spirit connection you can't ignore
Key Quotes:
"You may have been your mom's accident, but you are not God's accident. You are here for such a time as this."
"I don't believe my thoughts until I move my body."
"Scripture was meant to empower you. If there are scriptures tearing your soul apart, don't read them right now."
"I'm so exhausted from trying to figure everything out on my own."
My Spiritual Workout Includes:
Gentle morning movement (12-minute circuit)
Brain dumping & intentional journaling
Dancing to worship music
Nature meditation walks (praying and listening prayer)
Sauna time for body + soul
Rest when needed (yes, naps!)
Ready to Go Deeper?
Book Your Free Discovery Call
If this episode resonated with you, let's talk! I work with women who are tired of religious "shoulds" and ready for authentic intimacy with God.
During our call, we'll:
Explore where you're feeling stuck spiritually
Identify what's blocking your intimacy with God
Discover if coaching together is right for you
Create a vision for your spiritual workout
Create a vision for YOUR FUTURE. You deserve a clear vision for what your heart desires.
No pressure. No shoulds. Just honest conversation.
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Remember: There's no formula for connecting with the Lord. You have PERMISSION to do it differently. You have permission to evolve.
God bless you! 💛
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24 min
November 12, 2025 204. Your Past Doesn't Disqualify You (15 Years Sober Proof)

What's up my people! Today marks my 15th sobriety birthday! 🎉
In this episode, I'm getting real about recovery, purpose, and why your hardest moments don't disqualify you from living a life full of joy and meaning. If you're struggling with feeling unworthy or like your past has disqualified you from your future, this one's for you.
Key Takeaways
✨ Your darkest hours can become your greatest purpose
✨ Nothing you've been through disqualifies you from helping others or having purpose
✨ You don't need to publicize your story to live out your purpose
✨ Healing takes time—be patient with yourself
✨ You're not a vending machine—set boundaries and prioritize yourself
✨ It's OKAY to be happy, joyful, and walk confidently in your purpose
Ready to Transform Your Life?
If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to work through past pain, find your purpose, and build genuine confidence—I'd love to support you!
Book Your Free Discovery Call
Let's talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how life coaching can help you get there.
Schedule your complimentary discovery call
You don't have to do this alone.
Grateful,
Dani

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16 min
October 16, 2025203. Becoming the Version of You That Feels Like Freedom | Feel Peaceful, Excited, and Like Yourself Again
Are you ready to show up as the best version of yourself? Know you need support getting there? Schedule your complimentary call with Dani here.
Ever notice you show up as different versions of yourself depending on who you’re with or what’s going on?
One version feels light and free — the “you” who laughs easily and feels close to God.
Another feels heavy, guarded, or disconnected.
In this episode, I’m sharing how to recognize the versions of you that show up in different seasons — and how to gently choose the one that feels most peaceful, authentic, and you.
You’ll hear:
✨ Why it’s not inauthentic to have different “versions” of yourself
✨ How your environment shapes who shows up
✨ How to spend more time with the version of you that lights you up
✨ A prayer to help you return to peace
This isn’t about doing more. It’s about coming home to who God made you to be.
Much love,
Dani
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Keywords:
how to feel like yourself again
Christian life coach podcast
faith based emotional healing
Christian mindset coaching
rediscover yourself
Christian women midlife
emotional burnout recovery
faith after burnout
reconnect with God
spiritual renewal
how to find peace again
the third act coaching
Dani Sumner podcast
authentic self Christian
overcoming people pleasing Christian
17 min
October 09, 2025202. The 3 S's of Suffering: Service, Silence, and Self-Doubt (How to Break Free After Decades of People-Pleasing)
🐸 THE FROG IN THE KETTLE:
Why do high-achieving, empathetic women (and men) wait until their 50s, 60s, or 70s to find their voice?
Because they're like the frog in boiling water—so adaptable to suffering, they don't realize they deserve better.
This episode explores:
The 3 S's of suffering: Service, Silence, Self-Doubt
Why you self-sabotage when life finally gets good
How to build capacity for joy when you've only known struggle
Why most women don't wake up until midlife (and why that's perfect timing)
If you've spent decades putting everyone else first and finally realized "I'm not even on the totem pole"—this is your wake-up call.
You're not selfish for wanting peace.
You're not too late.
You're right on time.
READY TO STOP BEING THE FROG IN THE KETTLE?
If you want support finding more joy, harmony, and purpose in your next season, schedule a discovery call with Dani here.
So glad you're here,
Dani
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27 min
September 23, 2025201. You're Not Disqualified - Breaking Free from Secret Shame and Regret!
Sick and tired of the past holding you back?--Schedule your free call with Dani here, and talk about your next steps working with her directly.

Hi friend,
This may be one of my favorite episodes I’ve ever put out there. If you’re struggling with shame and regret, please put your airpods on and listen to this episode twice. And if you feel the stirring from God and you want to step into your future without the past controlling you, schedule your free call with me and we can see what your next steps are.

May this episode bless you and help you.
Grateful you’re here,
Dani

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29 min
September 16, 2025 200. The 4 Things I Do When Life Feels Heavy
Why Sensitive People Struggle More (And What Helps)
Hey beautiful friends! Ever feel like you're supposed to have it all together but you're secretly struggling?
This episode is your permission slip to be human.
Fresh off an incredible trip to Ireland, I'm getting real about hitting a melancholy patch and why that's totally okay and most importantly, how to get through it!
Remember: This too shall pass (it may pass like a kidney stone, but it's gonna pass!)
Need Help Creating Your Self-Care Plan?
If you're thinking "Dani, I don't know how to take care of myself," I've got you!
Book Your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call
In just 30 minutes, we'll:
✅ Identify what's draining your energy
✅ Discover what truly fills you up
✅ Create a simple action plan you can start today
Grateful you’re here,
Dani

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20 min
September 13, 2025199. Stop Hating or Being Resentful of Your Past Self (This Poem Will Change Everything)
Welcome back, friend!
I just returned from an incredible trip to Ireland, and while I was there, I heard a poem I had to share with you. It’s by Emery Hall, and I believe it will bless you as much as it blessed me.
If you’ve been beating yourself up for past mistakes, or wishing you could erase whole seasons of your life, this poem will give you a fresh, freeing perspective. Instead of carrying resentment toward your past self, you’ll begin to see her (or him) with compassion — and find peace for the road ahead.
✨ Ready to find the clarity you’ve been longing for but don’t know where to start?
[Book Your FREE Discovery Call Here]
Together, we’ll:
Identify what’s really keeping you stuck

Create a clear, personalized roadmap for what’s next

Take your first step toward peace, purpose, and confidence in your future

Don’t wait another day weighed down by regret. Your next chapter is calling — and I’d love to walk with you into it.
Best,
Dani

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12 min

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