After the Affair

By Luke ShillingsSociety & Culture Relationships

After the Affair episodes

December 07, 2022 12. The Rulebook
Following on from last weeks episode I explore the list of rules that we have for our partners. How they are something that we don't even notice yet they dictate our expectations and ultimately our feelings if left unchecked.

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22 min
December 02, 2022 11. Rose Tinted Glassed or Not
We all see the world through a different lens. Sometimes it's easy to use the analogy of Rose-Tinted Glasses where you only see the positives, this would be great but is often not always the case!

This episode, along with next week's episode will look at the lists we have in our mind that act like a filter ... not dissimilar to Rose-Tinted Glasses. Enjoy!

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13 min
November 23, 2022 10. When Things Seemed Fine
For episode 10, we're doing something a little different.

Whatever it is that you are going through, whatever stage of recovery you are at, there is always someone else out there who is experiencing something similar. Simply becoming aware of this, might just make you feel a little less alone on this journey.

Today I'm having a very open conversation with Mike who experienced infidelity back in 2006.

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43 min
November 16, 2022 9. Rebuild Trust
Such a common question after infidelity, how do I rebuild trust? How can I ever trust again?

I could talk about this subject for hours but I've kept it to around 20 minutes so it will be manageable and accessible to all.
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22 min
November 09, 2022 8. Choosing to Stay
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This week I am answering questions from men who have chosen to stay after discovery of the affair.

Some of the issues discussed are:

- Triggers
- Intrusive thoughts
- Choosing thoughts and seeking evidence
- Knowing that you are always worthy

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21 min
November 02, 2022 7. Don’t Mention the ’F’ Word
Feelings! It's all about feelings.

Feelings/emotions are the fuel for everything we do. In this episode you'll learn what feelings are, why they matter and most importantly... what to do with them!

This episode is relevant to anyone with a brain! Not just those who have been through infidelity.

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17 min
October 26, 2022 6. Unexpected Guilt
When betrayal happens, it's common to assume that guilt is only experienced on the side of the unfaithful partner. Further into the healing process however and sometimes a certain set of circumstances can align and cause the betrayed to have similar feelings, but for different reasons.

Find out more in this episode!

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17 min
October 19, 2022 5. When Words Ignite
Are you are trying to heal from infidelity? But no matter how hard you try, every discussion is like setting off a firework! Then this episode is for you.
Things are rarely what they seem, and that includes your partner.

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18 min
October 12, 2022 4. The Truth
Truth, True and Fact ... are these the same things? In today's episode I'll explore my thoughts around how they affect the experiences we have within our relationships.

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15 min
October 07, 2022 3. Misjudging Others
In this episode I'm discussing the common ways we misinterpret each other, in particular within relationships.

This stemmed from a recent conversation with my sister about how we can make quick judgements, react to that judgement and become blinkered to other possibilities as a result.

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21 min

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The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in…