After the Affair

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  • 32. Through the Lens of Negativity

    When you have witnessed behaviour in your partner that you don't like, how regularly do you use that as a template to judge many of their future behaviours?


    This episode focuses on exploring the impact of negative thinking on our lives and relationships. I share a story of self-judgement and I examine the role of negativity in relationships and offer strategies for cultivating a more positive outlook.

    It also emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and self-care for personal growth and happiness. 

     

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    20 min
  • 31. The Role of Self-Awareness after Infidelity

    Taking responsibility is a message we hear more and more, but where do we start? 


    In this episode, I look at some of the methods I have used personally to improve my own self-awareness and what the true benefits of each are. Also included is a short but effective grounding exercise you can use today (Just not whilst you are driving!)

    To learn more about me and how I can help, visit www.lifecoachluke.com

    or reach out to me directly at [email protected]

     

    20 min
  • 30. The Tech Trap - How Infidelity is being facilitated by Technology

    Join me whilst I delve into the dark side of technology and its impact on infidelity. With the rise of social media, dating apps, and messaging platforms, it has become easier than ever to connect with people outside of committed relationships. But at what cost?

    I explore the way in which technology is facilitating infidelity, from secret social media accounts to encrypted messaging apps and the effects this trend has on relationships and individuals.

    Whether you're in a committed relationship or just curious about the impact of technology on our social lives, this episode is a thought-provoking exploration of a complex and controversial topic.

     

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    Ready to go from feeling paralyzed by betrayal to better than before the affair? Let's talk, book a call with me today at www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-call 

    38 min
  • 29. The Truth behind Unconditional Love

    Feeling love towards others is a choice that we often overlook. Choosing negative thoughts and emotions towards people who do not meet our expectations only hurts us, and it is crucial to understand that we have control over how we feel towards someone else.  In this episode, I share an example of how we can choose to love someone regardless of what they do or do not do, and any feeling is always available to us.

    Choose love, unconditionally.

     

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    Contact me directly at: [email protected]

    17 min
  • 28. Breaking the Cycle

    In this episode, I explore the common cycles of pain and mistrust that often accompany healing from infidelity. Cycles and patterns show up in many different ways and often they are unintended. Through personal stories and expert insights, I discuss strategies for breaking free from these cycles and rebuilding trust in yourself and your relationships.

     

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    17 min
  • 27. Redefining Self Worth - A candid conversation with David Redbord

    In this episode, I sit down with David Redbord, a self-worth expert, to discuss how to redefine self-worth and cultivate a healthy sense of self-esteem.

    David shares his expertise of how to overcome self-doubt and offers practical tips for building a stronger sense of self. We explore the effects infidelity has on your own self worth.

    David's candid and compassionate approach to self-improvement is sure to inspire listeners to take the first step towards redefining their own self-worth. Join us for this enlightening conversation on self-worth and personal growth.


    To find out more about David and the work he does including his 5 steps to self worth guide visit:


    www.SeeYourWorthChallenge.com/Guide

     

    If you have any questions for me, contact me directly at [email protected]

     

    48 min
  • 26. Secrets of an Infidelity Coach

    In this week's episode, I delve into the secrets of being an infidelity coach and how I help couples and individuals navigate the aftermath of betrayal.

    From rebuilding trust to addressing the root causes of the infidelity, I share insights on how to heal and move forward in a healthy way. Plus I also answer questions about the biggest myths of infidelity and what has suprised me most along the way!


    Email me at [email protected]

    Receive the latest insights and tips to overcome infidelity by subscribing here - www.lifecoachluke.com/subscribe

     

    21 min
  • 25. The Power of Limerence

    'Limerence' to infidelity, is like 'Furlough' was to Covid. A word that most people had never heard of, before being unwillingly forced into the situation.


    In this episode I discusses the experience of limerence in extramarital affairs, highlighting its potential for destruction in committed relationships. Limerence is a complex psychological phenomenon that can arise from physical or emotional attraction and displays with intense, unpredictable feelings and actions, leaving little control for those experiencing it.

    Have any questions? Contact me directly at -> [email protected]

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    15 min
  • 24. Jealousy Unmasked

    'Jealousy Unmasked' explores the topic of jealousy in relationships (Including post infidelity). I discuss common sources of jealousy, how it can manifest in different ways, and the difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy.

    I also provide strategies for managing jealousy, such as identifying the root cause, communicating openly and honestly, practicing self-care, setting boundaries, and seeking professional help if needed. 

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    18 min
  • 23. The Danger of People Pleasing

    If you have ever found yourself saying 'yes', when you meant 'no' .... then this episode is a must listen! 


    People pleasing shows up in many relationships and can be a key element in the breakdown of those relationships. Learn what it is, where it comes from, why we do it and what you can do to eradicate it from your life.

     

    Ask me your questions for a future episode - Email [email protected]

    Simply ask your question, make your suggestion and put 'PODCAST QUESTION' in the subject line and I will answer as many as I can on a future episode

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    12 min

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