Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back After the Discard (What Narcissists Do to Keep You Around) - I'm going to explain 10 Things Narcissists Say to Keep You Around, and then I'm going to teach you 10 Ways to Avoid Being Hoovered.
If you are looking to find out what narcissists do to get you back - this is the video for you!
Trauma bonding, emotional pain and cognitive dissonance are all big parts of being in a toxic relationship with someone with NPD - so remember what is really important here: your well-being - your own recovery. Don't fall for the hoover maneuver.
It’s always hard to deal with a narcissist, whether you’re still in the toxic relationship or you’ve recently left it or have been discarded by the narcissist. But due to the narcissist’s behaviors and patterns, there are times when we find ourselves feeling weak, almost powerless to resist their charms - even when we KNOW BETTER.
One of those times is during the narcissistic hoovering phase. So that’s why we're talking about hoovering and how you can deal with it today.
So what is hoovering, anyway?
The "hoovering" technique was named after the famous vacuum cleaner company, and it's one of many common manipulation tactics employed by abusive, toxic narcissists.
This is when a narcissist sort of "sucks" his victim back into the relationship, or some version of it. It often begins innocently enough, sort of subtly, but it always happens with one target - to regain control.
Hoovering usually begins after the devalue and discard phases, when the silent treatment has stopped giving the narcissist pleasure, and when he's ready for more of the supply you've been feeding him all these months or years. Or, it'll start when you've left the narcissist and he fears you won't return.
The idea is that the narcissist needs to reestablish contact with you in order to get the narcissistic supply you're so good at providing.
This is a dangerous tactic, because once a narcissist gets back into your good graces, you'll often find yourself being love-bombed and hearing promises of brighter days ahead - but sadly, they won't last.
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