In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Kimberly Christenson, Chief Content Officer of Promptly Journals, and addresses the question, “BLANK?” Being selfish is doing what’s in your best interest without regard for others. Doing what’s in your best interest, or your families best interest with regard for others is showing self love.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Kimberly through identifying how she can do what’s in her best interest at work, while also showing regard for her co-workers. Relationships are never all about you, and they are never all about the other person. They are about the space in between. It is including caring about others in your decision to prioritize yourself that makes it not selfish.

Promptly Journals

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Promptly on Instagram 

Self-Care Helps Your Relationships

Avoiding Mormon Burnout By Saying No

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

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If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Courtney Brown, Founder and CEO of Cents of Style, and addresses the question, “How do I help myself and my family thrive while caring for a mentally ill child?” Most people who have someone in their family with mental illness need to realize that we have limitations and we need more support. 

Your child’s mental illness is not because of you, it’s not something that you can solve, and it’s not your fault. During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Courtney through how to respond to unsolicited advice from others, how to validate the thoughts and feelings that come with raising a child with mental illness, and ways to build in support.

Cents of Style 

Cents of Style on Instagram

Courtney Brown on Instagram 

Supporting a Loved One With Mental Illness

How To Support a Spouse With Mental Illness 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Hannah Olson, creator of FreckledHan, and addresses the question, “How do I reconcile my call to help empower women with potentially harmful messaging from the LDS church?” What I believe is that the church is reacting against the devaluation of caregiving and they’re doing it in a less than helpful way. Caregiving is valuable work, but the way the church presents it leads to an either or.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Hannah through reframing some of the messaging the LDS church has presented about idealizing motherhood, while also valuing caregiving as a legitimate vocation and life choice for men and women. Overall, who you are and how you live is the biggest way you can make an impact, and being bold about that wherever you have a sphere of influence.

FreckledHan

FreckledHan on Instagram 

Read Dr. Hanks’ popular Mormon Cultural Commentary Blog Articles

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Amberly Lambertsen, creator of A Prioritized Marriage, and addresses the question, “How do I maintain relationships with friends and family who have different political or religious views?” A good rule of thumb is if you know a conversation is going to escalate and not be about understanding each other’s point of view, don’t engage. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Amberly through how to set boundaries when talking with family and friends who disagree, including what to do when discussions move towards personal attacks. They also discuss how to approach differences of opinion within marriage, including maintaining differentiation of self.

A Prioritized Marriage

A Prioritized Marriage on Instagram 

Managing Difficult Family Relationships

Improving Family Communication 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Cami and addresses the question, “How Do I Express Myself Without Feeling Ungrateful?” Messages we receive as children can impact the way we interact in our relationships as adults, and being labeled “ungrateful” or “rude” when we express ourselves can create a fear of speaking up and setting boundaries.

During this episode, Dr. Hanks guides Cami through identifying where her “ungrateful” feeling is coming from and how to take care of younger Cami by setting boundaries now. They also discuss how to navigate family relationships where aggressive communication occurs, including how to implement boundaries without the need for justification or explanation. 

Managing Difficult Family Relationships

Improving Family Communication

How to Be Assertive (Not Aggressive)

The Assertiveness Guide for Women 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Marie and addresses the question, “How do I not become my mother when parenting my own daughter?” Some parents worry that intera ctions and patterns they experienced from their parents will transfer to their own children. It can also be difficult for parents to set boundaries with grandparents regarding what is and is not appropriate to say or do around their grandchildren. 

During this episode Dr. Hanks validates and encourages Marie, sharing that simply thinking about this issue will lower the likelihood of her passing on the things she’s concerned about. She also discusses the importance of not overcorrecting her parenting, and engaging her daughter in all aspects of family life. 

Grieving and Healing Unmet Childhood Needs

When It Comes to Parenting, Worry is Not Love

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Mary and addresses the question “How do I overcome perfectionism in my professional life?” Perfectionism, insecurities, and imposter syndrome can all impact our beliefs about who we are and what we can offer in our careers.

During this episode, Mary shares that many of her beliefs about the need for perfection stem from her childhood. Dr. Hanks guides Mary through a discussion about childhood expectations, how to begin working through those beliefs, as well as how to combat the pull of perfectionism in her current career.

The One Thing That’s Keeping You From Being Happy

Overcoming Insecurities
 
Overcoming Insecurities Free Printable Worksheet

Five Ways to Boost Your Confidence

30 Ways to Boost Confidence Free Printable  

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches Allyson Reynolds, host of The Sisterhood Podcast, and addresses the question “How do I bring more joy into my life during grief and life transitions?” Many have experienced grief and loss over the past year as a result of the pandemic, adding additional stress to life transitions such as moving and the loss of a parent. 

During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about the need for support, connection, and fun, especially during times of grief and pain. She guides Allyson through the process of reaching out to friends and family through deliberate conversations and asking for support, and provides specific ideas for incorporating fun into everyday life.

The Sisterhood Podcast on Instagram
The Sisterhood Podcast 

5 Ways to Develop Resilience

Building Resilience During the Pandemic 

When It Comes to Parenting, Worry is Not Love 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

Thank you for joining me to celebrate 10,000 downloads of my new podcast, Ask Dr. Julie Hanks. I’m thrilled with the response and so grateful to all of you who have downloaded, listened, and reviewed the podcast. Thank you so much for your support! 

Some of the questions answered in this episode include:

- What is a triangle or triangulation? 

- How do I set a good boundary?

- How do I manage my own suffering when other people have it worse? 

- Why is it so easy for me to end a friendship that shakes my trust and is that healthy?

- I need to step away from the LDS church and my spouse is still active. What happens to the kids? 

- How to learn how to accept love for myself and believe people when they say they love me?

- How to get along with and get along with siblings you have nothing in common with?

- How to feel fulfilled as a stay at home parent?

Creating Partnership Families

Managing Difficult Family Relationships

Finding the Middle Ground in the LDS Church 

Rediscovering Yourself While Mothering

Grieving and Healing Unmet Childhood Needs

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.

In this episode, Dr. Julie Hanks coaches her cousin, Tyler, and addresses the question “How do I overcome resentment that I didn't explore options other than motherhood?” Tyler shares her experience growing up in a religious and familial culture that idealized motherhood. Painting a romanticized picture of motherhood as the path to bliss, the cure to loneliness and suffering, and the only path to a purposeful life, is doing young women a great disservice. 

As mothers, we need to include ourselves and what we want in our life. During this episode, Dr. Hanks talks about the cost of idealizing motherhood, the resentment mothers may feel, and shares ways mothers can stop feeling mom guilt and reclaim their identity.

5 Ways to Reduce Mom Guilt

5 Motherhood Myths Making You Miserable

Ted Talk: The Costs of Idealizing Motherhood 

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast, my online courses, and through new events each month. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com

Have you ever thought, “I want to ask Dr. Julie Hanks a question”? Well, now’s your chance! I want to have you on my podcast! Click here to fill out this form and tell me your question. I might just pick you to be on the podcast and receive a free coaching session.

Thank you for listening to the Ask Dr. Julie Hanks podcast. Please click here to leave me a review. And make sure you don’t miss an episode by following me on Apple Podcast and Spotify.

If you have found this information helpful, you can find additional resources on this topic in my podcast and my online courses. Connect with me on social media @drjuliehanks and work with me through joining DJH membership at drjuliehanks.com. For therapy in Utah visit wasatchfamilytherapy.com.