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Today, we sit down with Will Curb, host of Hacking Your ADHD, to talk about dismantling shame, redefining ‘Effort,’ and building strategies that actually work for ADHD brains.From late diagnoses to using stress as a survival tool, the ADHD experience is full of patterns that really start to make sense once you begin to understand your own brain. 

Join Will & Aaron & Stephen as they explore:

•  Why Anxiety became Will’s “go-to” time management tool.
•  How a Radical Acceptance based mindset informs Will’s approach to parenting (and so much more).
•  What happens when we mistake “having a genuinely difficult time” for “not working or trying hard enough”?
•  ADHD Adulting tools and reframes that support long-term growth.
•  How empathy and grace—especially directed at ourselves—can be non-negotiable.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly behind or beating yourself up for not doing “enough,” this episode is a reminder: “Trying” looks different with ADHD—you are making an effort and it shows; your efforts matter.
Catch the full episode on Attention Different—only on YouTube!
  Drop a  if you’ve ever used anxiety as a coping tool. Let’s talk about it!

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Ever feel like you're constantly hitting invisible walls? From job after job where you perform brilliantly until something goes sideways, to lying awake at night unable to turn your brain off, living with undiagnosed ADHD can be intense. Add parenthood to the mix and that "popcorn machine" in your head can finally overflow.

In this deeply personal and practical episode, we sit down with Steev Hodgson, ADHD Life Coach and founder of Damn Healthy Dose, who didn't get his diagnosis until his late 40s during the pandemic. From his breakthrough moment reading ADHD 2.0 to developing tools that help him navigate everything from bike repairs to sensory overwhelm, Steev shares how radical self-acceptance became the foundation for managing his ADHD.

Join us as we explore:

🍿 How parenthood can push ADHD symptoms past the breaking point—and why that could be the wake-up call you need

🚴 The STEER Map technique: moving from reactive frustration to intentional problem-solving (featuring an epic bike tire disaster)

🌊 The SURF method for emotional regulation: stopping the spiral before it takes you under

🎯 Why "intention is the precursor to attention"

🏥 The difference between "I have ADHD" and "I am ADHD"—and why that shift changes everything

✨ How to find your "damn healthy dose" of the qualities others see as flaws

If you've spent years wondering why you keep hitting those same walls despite your best efforts, this episode offers both validation and practical tools for moving forward. Steev's journey proves that getting diagnosed later in life isn't a disadvantage—it's an opportunity to finally understand yourself and build a life that actually works with your wiring, not against it.

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ADHD and self-worth? It’s messy—and deeply personal. From repeated workplace struggles to a constant feeling of falling short, living with ADHD can often make us question our value and capabilities. The world isn’t designed for neurodivergent thinkers, and when you're forced to play by rules that don’t work for your brain, it’s easy to internalize the blame. But what if the issue isn’t you—it’s the system that was never built with your wiring in mind?

In this powerful and validating episode, we sit down with Ryan Mayer, a Certified ADHD Coach and Neuro-Inclusion Consultant, who shares his hard-earned wisdom about embracing your differences instead of masking them. Through honest storytelling and practical insights, Ryan shows us what it means to stop chasing “normal” and start creating a life that actually fits who you are.

Join us as we explore:
🧠 How neurodivergent adults can redefine success after career "failures"
🔥 The role of radical acceptance in living with ADHD
🙌 Why delegating energy-draining tasks is a form of self-respect
👥 How body doubling can supercharge focus and productivity
💬 The importance of dropping the word “should” from your vocabulary

If you’ve ever felt like ADHD is something to hide, fix, or be ashamed of, this episode will reframe everything. Ryan’s story is full of insight, validation, and real tools for thriving.

📌 𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗼𝘄 & 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀!

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

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In this powerful roundtable episode of Attention Different, host Stephen Tonti brings together eight ADHD adults from diverse backgrounds to share their experiences, challenge common misconceptions, and celebrate what makes their neurodivergent brains unique. From late diagnoses to childhood realizations, these candid conversations reveal the complex reality of living with ADHD and the journey toward self-acceptance. As Stephen puts it: "ADHD is not a disorder—we are a group of ADHD adults determined to address the ways in which our unique brain wiring makes our lives more complicated but also to celebrate the traits that make us some of the most creative and exciting members of any given generation."

You'll Learn:

• ADHD is not just about "inability to focus"—many people with ADHD experience hyperfocus, but can't always choose what captures their attention
• The presentation of ADHD symptoms varies widely between individuals and across gender lines, with "masculine" presentations being more visible/disruptive while "feminine" presentations often go undiagnosed
• Many ADHD adults develop complex masking and coping mechanisms to fit into neurotypical systems, often at great personal cost
• There's no correlation between ADHD and intelligence—the condition affects people across all IQ levels
• Late-life diagnosis is common, especially among women, immigrants, and those from families that didn't recognize neurodivergence
• The path to self-acceptance often involves reframing ADHD as an identity rather than a disorder
• Many adults with ADHD wish they had been told earlier: "There's nothing wrong with you," "Weird is cool," and "You are worthy of help"

Resources:

• Children and Adults with ADHD (CHADD) Conference
• Stephen's TEDx talk
• Attention Different

Note: This episode features an authentic, unfiltered conversation about living with ADHD, including occasional strong language.

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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Trina Haynes, founder of My Lady ADHD and co-host of the Brain Waves podcast, joins Stephen and Aaron to discuss her personal journey with burnout and ADHD. As someone who manages multiple businesses, a podcast, social media accounts, and homeschools one of her three daughters, Trina knows firsthand the challenges of balancing an entrepreneurial spirit with the realities of ADHD. In this vulnerable and insightful conversation, she shares how she discovered the concept of burnout and her ongoing strategies for prevention and recovery.

This episode dives deep into the unique challenges faced by late-diagnosed women with ADHD, exploring how societal expectations, people-pleasing tendencies, and perfectionism can lead to chronic burnout. Trina offers practical advice for recognizing burnout symptoms and implementing "bare minimum" self-care practices that can make a significant difference. The conversation highlights the importance of community, particularly for those who have spent years masking their ADHD traits.

You'll Learn:

• How to recognize early warning signs of burnout specific to your own patterns and behaviors
• Why creating a "bare minimum" version of your self-care practices can help prevent total abandonment during stressful times
• How to identify and challenge the "all-or-nothing" thinking that often contributes to burnout cycles
• Why having a community of neurodivergent peers can be transformative for late-diagnosed adults with ADHD
• How to leverage your ADHD traits like empathy and creativity as strengths rather than viewing them as weaknesses
• Practical strategies for setting boundaries and saying no, especially for natural people-pleasers
• Ways to reconnect with childhood interests as a path to rediscovering joy and preventing burnout

Resources & Links:

• MyLadyADHD.com
• @MyLadyADHD on Instagram
• My Lady ADHD podcast
• Shimmer ADHD Coaching
• NeuroDiversion 2025

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

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ADHD and sleep? It’s complicated. From racing thoughts at night to groggy mornings, getting quality rest can feel impossible. In this episode, we break down why sleep matters and how to make it work for you.  

Join us as we dive into:  
😴 Why ADHD brains struggle with sleep regulation  
🧠 How sleep deprivation impacts focus, mood, and executive function  
🌙 Practical strategies for building better sleep habits  
⚖️ The link between sleep, medication, and overall ADHD management  

If you’ve ever wondered, "Why I am always exhausted?", "Is my ADHD making my sleep worse?", or "How can I finally get a full night’s rest?"—this episode is for you.  
📌 Listen now & share your experiences in the comments! 

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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🚀 What if failure wasn’t the end, but the beginning? In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, we dive into the concept of failing forward—turning mistakes into momentum and learning how to navigate setbacks with an ADHD brain.

🧠 What You’ll Learn:
✅ Why ADHDers often struggle with perfectionism & fear of failure
✅ How reframing mistakes can help build resilience & confidence
✅ Personal stories of failure, growth, and unexpected wins
✅ Practical strategies to bounce back when things don’t go as planned

💡 Whether you’ve missed deadlines, forgotten important dates, or struggled with self-doubt, this conversation is for you. ADHD isn’t about getting it right all the time—it’s about finding new ways to move forward.

🎧 Listen now & let’s talk about failing better!

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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In this foundational episode of Adulting with ADHD, we break down the basics of ADHD. What is it really? Hint: It's not just about being hyperactive or unfocused. 💡 Discover how ADHD functions as a difference in brain chemistry, not a disorder, and learn how it shows up uniquely in adults. We bust common myths, explore its impact on daily life, and share insights into navigating creativity, productivity, and challenges with radical acceptance.

🎙️ Hosted by Stephen Tonti and Aaron Smith, this episode is perfect for anyone newly exploring ADHD or looking for a fresh perspective. Whether you have ADHD, love someone who does, or are just curious, join us for this deep dive into understanding the ADHD mind.

Subscribe and stay tuned for more episodes!

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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Struggling to get through tasks that feel boring, overwhelming, or unappealing? Enter temptation bundling—a clever motivational tool that pairs something you love with something you’d rather avoid. In this lab, Stephen, Aaron, and Marlena explore how ADHD brains respond to rewards and why combining dopamine-boosting activities with must-dos can make all the difference.

From working out while bingeing your favorite shows to turning errands into mini-gym sessions, they share real-world strategies and personal experiences that make hard tasks more approachable (and even enjoyable!). Learn how to tailor temptation bundling to your unique needs and set yourself up for success.

💡 Key Topics Covered:

The science of ADHD and motivation
Practical examples of temptation bundling
Why rewards matter more than consequences
How to avoid burnout and frustration
🚀 Bonus: Tips on making your own "temptation bundles" that actually stick!

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share your own bundling hacks in the comments. Let's build a community where productivity meets self-compassion!

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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• Facebook -   https://www.facebook.com/attndifferent
• X -   https://www.x.com/attndifferent  

Staying active with ADHD can feel like an uphill climb, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Stephen, Aaron, and Marlena share their personal experiences, laugh-out-loud moments, and creative hacks to make exercise work for ADHD brains.

🔍 Topics include:

💪Stephen’s take on perfectionism and self-judgment in fitness
💪Marlena’s smoothie accountability strategy 🥤
💪Aaron’s hilarious portable gym ideas (weighted phone checks, anyone? 📱💪)
💪How ADHDers can push through resistance and find joy in movement

Whether you’re a gym rat, a casual walker, or someone just starting out, this episode is packed with relatable stories, practical tips, and plenty of laughs.

🎧 Listen, laugh, and get inspired to move your body—your way.

💬 Let us know in the comments: What’s your go-to ADHD-friendly exercise?

📌 Subscribe for more tips, stories, and humor about life with ADHD!

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We are Attention DIFFERENT not DEFICIT An advocacy and edutainment podcast centered on radical acceptance and neurodiveristy. Attention Different aims to de-stigmatize and build community by exploring the intricacies of living life and "adulting" with ADHD in the modern world. We periodically feature experts, special guests and influencers in the ADHD community.

If you enjoy the podcast please like, share, and subscribe!

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Follow all of these if you want to be inspired in your ADHD journey
•  Website - https://www.attentiondifferent.com
•  Instagram -   https://www.instagram.com/attention_different
• Facebook -   https://www.facebook.com/attndifferent
• X -   https://www.x.com/attndifferent