Being neglected, being abused, being shoved into the world without guidance, care, shelter, or protection wired our attachment systems to be on high alert and braced for danger.

Depending on what feels safest, your attachment system may try to control external things, resulting in anxious attachment.

Or it may choose to avoid the threat all together and be needless and "independent", creating avoidant attachment.

Or, if you're like me, you might experience high levels of anxiety about approaching what you need and strong desires to run away and avoid it, causing you to freeze, and likely fawn.

This is because we did not have the essential protection to explore the world, ourselves, and learn how to relate and care and advocate for ourselves.

This changes today.  Learn in today's episode how to start becoming the protector of the parts within you that need that, and your next step in cultivating real, actual safety in your life.

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FOUNDATION: To exit the survival phase of codependency and enter real healing and creation, you must develop emotional safety, social belonging, and independent self worth. I call these the Three Necessities, and they are what causes your body to start advocating instead of functioning from codependency.  You cannot have peace, freedom, healthy relationships with these solidly in place.

Foundation guides you step-by-step in creating real emotional safety, belonging, and self-worth over 15 weeks.  If you're ready to be done with the pain, shame, and chaos codependency brings to your life, start here.  

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THE CODEPENDENCY HEALING SYSTEM: Neglect and abuse left you with massive gaps in your life, especially in how you trust yourself, care for your needs, your relational skills, and the necessary experience to create expertise in these areas. This is the big work of growing into your adulthood.

Your ability to thrive depends on detecting and filling these gaps using real-time support, comprehensive training, and a living community to practice and experiment in.  The Codependency Healing System delivers this.

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