Betrayal Trauma Recovery

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What's Betrayal Trauma Recovery about?

We aim to alleviate suffering from the consequences of betrayal. If you've been affected by your husband's lies, emotional abuse, pornography use, infidelity, physical intimidation, physical abuse, or other type of betrayal, this is for you. All voices have been digitally altered to protect participants. If you're in recovery and want to share or you have ideas for the podcast, email [email protected]

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3 Ways Your Abuser is Groom...

01.12.2021

Learning the 3 ways your abuser is grooming you may be pivotal stepping stones in your journey to safety and healing. Abusers groom their victims when they manipulate victims and others into thinking that they are making lasting changes in ...

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01.12.2021 3 Ways Your Abuser is Grooming You (& How To Get To Safety) Learning the 3 ways your abuser is grooming you may be pivotal stepping stones in your journey to safety and healing. Abusers groom their victims when they manipulate victims and others into thinking that they are making lasting changes in ...
01.05.2021 Immeasurable Pain: When Husbands Sexually Abuse Their Wives When men sexually abuse their wives, they are rarely held accountable by therapists, clergy, and family - let alone the law. Sexual abuse is a serious crime and victims suffer devastating trauma as a result of their abuser's choices. But ...
12.29.2020 3 Roadblocks That Keep Victims of Abuse & Sexual Coercion Stuck I hear that you are brave. I hear that you are strong. I hear that you have courage in spite of the most difficult odds. You are incredible and brave and strong. You are amazing, and we are proud of ...
12.22.2020 How To Protect Yourself From In-Law Abuse (Plus 12 Ways Enablers Harm Victims) When an abuser’s parents side with him instead of supporting the victim, they are enabling abuse and causing incredible harm in the victim’s life. Tragically, this is an extremely common occurrence for victims of sexual coercion and hidden abuse. How ...
12.15.2020 How Can I Start Implementing No Contact Today? Implementing a no contact boundary can feel overwhelming, impossible, and terrifying to victims of betrayal and abuse. Betrayal Trauma Recovery advocates for the safety and health of all women. Lee joins Anne Blythe on the free BTR podcast to discuss ...
12.09.2020 3 Ironclad Steps To Safely Leave Your Abuser One of the most difficult decisions you may face is deciding when and how to safely leave your abuser. At BTR, we affirm every woman's right to emotional, sexual, and physical safety. For many victims, this means separation or divorce. ...
12.01.2020 3 Ways Healthy Womanhood Helps Victims Of Emotional Abuse Too many men are victimizing women through emotional abuse, betrayal, and sexual coercion. How can victims rise above abuse and oppression, both in their homes and in their society? Tracy joins Anne Blythe on the free BTR podcast to empower ...
11.24.2020 How Can Feminism Help Me Heal From Betrayal Trauma? Can feminism help victims of betrayal trauma? Feminism isn't hating men or demanding special treatment: feminism is simply the belief that women are equal to men and should be treated like human beings. Misogyny and entitlement to women and their ...
11.17.2020 Post-Traumatic Growth: Will I Ever Be Okay Again? One of the most devastating aspects of betrayal trauma, are the terrifying, heart-breaking, and ever-persistent torrents of emotions that make many victims ask, "Will I ever be okay again?" When women are betrayed and emotionally abused by their partners, they ...
11.10.2020 What Is “New Age Bypass” & Why Is It Harmful? When victims of betrayal and abuse are told things like, "You decide whether or not you are a victim" or "What's done is done," they are experiencing New Age Bypass. New Age Bypass, a form of victim-blaming, is harmful to ...
11.03.2020 3 Tips To Protect You From Clergy Sexual Misconduct Clergy sexual misconduct is rampant, hidden, and destructive to victims. When women are abused or mistreated by clergy, they may experience severe trauma, loss of faith, and other devastating consequences. Protect yourself from clergy sexual misconduct by reading the 3 ...
10.27.2020 The Truth About Clergy Sexual Misconduct Victims of betrayal and emotional abuse may look to their faith-communities for support. When clergy engage in inappropriate sexual behavior toward congregants, sacred trust is shattered and victims are left feeling confused, devastated, and, often, ashamed. Dave Gemmel, Associate Director ...
10.20.2020 Dating After Betrayal: 3 Tips For Protecting Yourself From Porn Users Many victims of emotional abuse and betrayal worry that, if they choose to date again, they will enter another abusive relationship. Often, women asked their abusive partner early on if he was a pornography user, and their prospective partner lied. ...
10.13.2020 “I Asked About His Porn Use, And He Lied” Many victims of betrayal trauma and emotional abuse asked their partner, or ex-partner, about his sexual history, including pornography use, before committing to the relationship. Disturbingly, most men lie about their sexual history, especially when it includes pornography use and ...
10.06.2020 You Are A SHEro: Lundy Bancroft On Why You Are Crucial "This issue of ending up involved with an abusive man happens to anyone. There is no special kind of woman this doesn’t happen to. People think, 'Oh, if I’d been like this or like that...' and it’s just not so. ...
09.29.2020 Why Domestic Abuse is Child Abuse: Lundy Bancroft Tells All If you care about your kids, you don’t abuse their mother. If you care about your kids, you can tell that abusing their mother is horrible for them.Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? Many victims of emotional ...
09.22.2020 5 Validating Truths About Emotional Abuse You Deserve To Hear Today Victims of emotional abuse and betrayal are conditioned to believe lies. Lies that tell them that they are not really being abused, that they're overreacting to the abusive behavior, that they're powerless and weak, that they are alone. At Betrayal ...
09.15.2020 7 Powerful Truths About Emotional Abuse You Need to Know Today "I want to let you know that BTR was a lifesaver for me. It was barely over a year ago that I found your organization. Wait, I didn't find you, God brought me to you. It changed my life. I ...
09.08.2020 Why Does Sex Hurt? (It’s Not What You Think) Most of the women in the BTR community are comfortable talking about their emotional pain. Betrayal hurts. Sexual and pelvic pain? That's a different story. It can be awkward and embarrassing to go into detail about such an intimate part ...
09.01.2020 Uncover 3 Disturbing Tactics Emotional Abusers Use & Stop The Cycle "It changes your perspective to realize that the baseline isn’t a good guy that loses it, but the baseline is an abuser who can put on this act, then that mask falls off. I think being able to differentiate between ...
08.25.2020 You Are Not Crazy: Pornography Is Emotional Abuse The devastation and pain that victims of betrayal trauma experience is often minimized because "it's just porn." At BTR, we understand and affirm that pornography use is abusive. Women who experience this deep form of betrayal are experiencing the severe ...
08.18.2020 Is Pornography A Public Health Crisis? If you want to stop sex-trafficking or you’re horrified by child sex-trafficking or child sex abuse, the number one thing that you do is you boycott pornography. That would be the first thing. At the very least you do that. ...
08.11.2020 How To Get To Safety From Emotional Abuse "When you recognize that the person you’re living with is not the person you thought he was, you need to treat it like a 5-alarm fire. It is serious business. You can always walk it back later, but you set ...
08.04.2020 My Husband is Lying to Me: Is This Emotional Abuse? It doesn’t matter the extent of the lie.Anne Blythe, Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Often, women relate that one of the most painful and damaging aspects of emotional abuse are the unrelenting lies, manipulation, and gaslighting. Lies told to cover ...
07.28.2020 Is Emotional Abuse a Domestic Abuse Issue? "Emotional abuse is a domestic abuse issue. It falls under the umbrella of domestic violence."Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery The long-held and damaging societal belief that it's "just emotional abuse" has caused harm to women all over the ...
07.21.2020 He Doesn’t Hit You, But You’re Still In Danger Being emotionally and psychologically abused is harmful enough, but is it more dangerous when the abuser doesn't yell at his victim? Sarah shares her story.
07.14.2020 I Need Help Now! Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Is Here For You “BTR Group is the place you go to when you need to feel heard, you need to feel safe, you need to be able to reach out, or you need to feel loved because this group, for me anyway, has ...
07.07.2020 Why Can’t I See The Emotional Abuse In My Marriage? Emotional and psychological abuse is hard to spot, especially when the abuser never yells, screams or says "mean" things. Marni Bown talks about her experience with this type of abuse.
06.30.2020 4 Ways Guided Meditation Helps Victims of Emotional Abuse “It is not selfish. I just want to reiterate that this empowerment, this is part of how you take care of yourself so you can go out and be the mother that you want to be, or the wife, or ...
06.23.2020 How Meditation Can Restore Your Creativity And Help You Heal From Emotional Abuse “You can’t feel that level of intensity and that level of pain all the time. It’s just exhausting, so you do need a break from it. Meditation is a way to take a break, while also processing at the same ...
06.16.2020 3 Things Victims of Betrayal Need To Know About Self-Care When women discover their partner's secret pornography use, they experience betrayal trauma. Loss, devastation, terror, fury, grief, numbness... are all manifestations of betrayal trauma, and each emotion can be debilitating. VIctims of betrayal can take small steps to begin practicing ...
06.09.2020 Self-Care In The Early Stages Of Betrayal Trauma “You’ve been hit, you’ve hit a window, your plane has gone down. Whatever metaphor you want to use, you need to take some space.” -Trish White, coach and counselor
06.02.2020 The Top 5 Reasons You Should Join Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group “If there is any silver lining that comes with betrayal trauma, it’s the relationships that grow among those who understand and walk this road together.” - Coach Laura, Betrayal Trauma Recovery
05.26.2020 3 Ways ‘Trauma Mama, Husband’ Drama Empowers Victims Of Betrayal “The process of writing this book was the same process that we all go through. We’re trying to figure out what’s happening and then trying to communicate that to someone else. I’d say the hardest part about writing the book ...
05.26.2020 Trauma Mama: Picturing Emotional And Psychological Abuse “The process of writing this book was the same process that we all go through. We’re trying to figure out what’s happening and then trying to communicate that to someone else. I’d say the hardest part about writing the book ...
05.19.2020 Stuck In Trauma From Hidden Abuse, Help! “Sometimes, we have to remind ourselves that this body and this mind and this spirit has gone through a lot. Those aren’t excuses, that’s just truth. The sky is blue, the grass is green, we’ve gone through a lot.” -Shannon ...
05.12.2020 The 6 Stages Of Healing From Hidden Abuse “Hidden abuses are those other types of abuses that you don’t see, that we don’t necessarily have obvious bruises and injuries from. They are the types of abuses that are more covert, and they are hidden. They include financial, emotional, ...
05.12.2020 The Hidden Bruises Of Emotional And Psychological Abuse “Hidden abuses are those other types of abuses that you don’t see, that we don’t necessarily have obvious bruises and injuries from. They are the types of abuses that are more covert, and they are hidden. They include financial, emotional, ...
05.05.2020 3 Ways “Trauma Mama, Husband Drama” Can Help You Today Trauma Mama Husband Drama, written by Anne Blythe and Illustrated by Cristalwolf Lobazul. Scheduled for release on June 1, 2020. Now available for pre-order at btr.org/books.
04.28.2020 4 Tips To Survive Divorcing Your Emotional Abuser "Just to know that it’s normal that, of course, there are things that you’re going to have trouble with, so how can we put measures in place to fill those gaps until you’re ready? It might be a month and ...
04.21.2020 Preparing For Divorce While Hoping He Changes “In this day and age, it just seems like betrayal is rampant, and sometimes it’s financial betrayal. Sometimes, they actually don’t know for sure, they don’t have any proof, but a wife knows the truth. She might not know the ...
04.21.2020 Hoping For The Best While Preparing For Divorce “In this day and age, it just seems like betrayal is rampant, and sometimes it’s financial betrayal. Sometimes, they actually don’t know for sure, they don’t have any proof, but a wife knows the truth. She might not know the ...
04.14.2020 What Is Safety And Why Do I Need Boundaries? “You can talk about safety concerns, but just talking about it or making a list doesn’t help you much, if you don’t take some type of action to keep yourself safe.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
04.14.2020 What Is Safety And Why Do I Need Boundaries? “You can talk about safety concerns, but just talking about it or making a list doesn’t help you much, if you don’t take some type of action to keep yourself safe.” -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery
04.07.2020 3 Ways Abusers Can Work Toward A Healthy Marriage Is a healthy marriage possible after emotional abuse? We believe it is. James, a Center for Peace client, is back with Anne to continue talking about how Center for Peace has given him hope and started him down the path ...
04.01.2020 Center For Peace: 3 Steps Emotional Abusers Must Take To Change Betrayal Trauma Recovery advocates for the safety of women and children. By interviewing three abusive men who recognize their abuse and want to change, BTR hopes to offer insight and information that will help women get to safety, not try ...
03.24.2020 3 Boundaries To Begin Healing From Emotional Abuse When victims of betrayal and emotional abuse understand and implement effective boundaries, they begin a path to safety and healing. Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, shares boundaries from a Christian perspective on the free BTR podcast. Tune in ...
03.21.2020 4 Phrases That Enable Abuse During a Crisis Even though businesses are closing or reducing their hours or modes of service, abusers don’t stop. -Anne Blythe, founder of Betrayal Trauma REcovery During times of crisis, domestic abuse escalates to terrifying degrees. At BTR, we believe that every woman ...
03.17.2020 3 Words From Scripture For Victims of Emotional Abuse The effects of emotional abuse often leave women feeling as though they’re stumbling around in the darkness. The heaviness of the confusion, self-doubt, and self-blame weighs them down as they blindly grasp for the nearest glimmer of light. Anne Blythe, ...
03.12.2020 Abusive Behaviors To Watch For During A Crisis During a crisis, domestic abuse often escalates. Whether it's emotional abuse, psychological abuse, sexual coercion, or physical abuse, BTR wants to help you be prepared to protect yourself in the event of a crisis. Anne shares empowering and validating information ...

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