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February 09, 2022 Jessica Fawn on Classical Tantra, Intentional Pleasure & Doing The Work
Today I bring to you Shakti Tantra teacher (and dear friend of mine) Jessica Fawn onto the show to discuss her journey into sacred sexuality, how it's changed her life, and what it means to live a tantric life.

Jess has dedicated her academic life to studying the phenomenon of women finding power in spirituality. She studied witchcraft, sex magic, and tantra and how these all see traditions women as sacred. She, her body, her bodily functions, are all manifestations of the divine.

Jess now embodies this wisdom of the divine so gracefully and her transmission is heaven-sent.

Topics we cover are:

- Life pre & post tantra.
- What tantra *actually* is.
- Sacred sexuality and how you can get started.
- Living life from a tantric perspective.
- Pleasure, power & the goddess.

And so much more...

Enjoy this episode as we dive into the journey of self-discovery through sexuality & sacred feminine arts.

Connect With Jessica: https://www.jessica-fawn.com/
Follow Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicafawn_/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
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This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
44 min
February 02, 2022Prioritise Pleasure & Make Space For Sexy Self-Care
Another banger poddy episode. Get ready for some tough (yet loving) loving’.

Do you find you’re always too busy for pleasure, or a pleasure practice?
Do you feel like the whole house needs to be clean & everything is in order before you can enjoy intimacy or sx?
Do you experience a wave of guilt after setting boundaries with people (particularly when putting yourself first over others' needs & requests)?.
Do you feel like self-pleasure, sensuality, sexuality, or sx, in general, is just too indulgent & luxurious?
Do you find it hard to find the balance between feeling good and getting things done?

If you answered of any or all of these then oh baby, I have got you COVERED.

In this episode of The Sexual Wellness Podcast, I dive into all these topics and share a range of tough love mindset tools as well as some “bottom-up” embodiment practices to help you rewire old patterns stored deep in the subconscious mind.

Mmhmm.
Is good.

As always please share with anyone who you feel could benefit from it the most and message me any key insights or takeaways!
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
43 min
January 25, 2022How To Have Better Orgasms (Or Have Your First Orgasm!)
Female orgasm 101, baby!

In this episode, I share some invaluable tips on how to set yourself up for the most exquisite pleasure in the bedroom covering topics like;
Pre foreplay, Foreplay
What stops women from orgasming
Creating ritual space (and why it’s important)
How to practice feeling rather than thinking
How to prepare your pussy powers
Celebrating the opposite to orgasm
What to do if you feel rushed by your partner
And so much more.

Get ready sister, this episode is practice rich and your body is going to feel absolutely delish when you're done with it.

YUM.

As always, I love to hear your top takes aways. Wright into my DMs with all your ah-ha moments and how incredible your sex life is becoming. If you loved this episode pleasure share it on your socials or privately with someone who you think would benefit from it the most.

Enjoy xxx

Join Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex
Book a Free Consultation Call: https://laura-ellen.com/sex-relationship-coaching
Follow Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
39 min
January 19, 2022 Have The Best Sex of Your Life in 2022
I missed this so much! The podcast is by far one of the greatest joys in my professional life. Getting to riff on all things sex, love & relationships is kind of my dream. Thank you for being a part of it.⁠
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ARE YOU READY TO HAVE THE BEST SX OF YOUR LIFE?⁠
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Thought so ;).⁠
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In this episode I cover (A LOT, get ready, she's 45 mins long);⁠
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- The there styles of sex (and how to tell which one you're having)⁠
- What stops you from having great sex & how to work on changing your environment.⁠
- Libido, service sx, and how to expand your sxual capacity without feeling like you're broken.⁠
- Building sxual awareness⁠
- Working with a coach or signing up for a program (and which one would be the best fit for you)⁠
- Why your new sx life will cost you your old one.⁠
- Setting pleasure goals for 2022.⁠
- Why great sex is holistic.⁠
- Recreating your relationship to pleasure.⁠
- Redefine your definition of sex.⁠
- Taking a sex break & why this is so powerful.⁠
- Getting clear on your highest sexual self & how to embody her.⁠
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And my love I have a request! If you enjoy this episode of TSWP I invite you to share it with a friend or something who you think would benefit from it most - They'll love you for it.⁠
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Love always xx⁠

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
1:1 Coaching: https://laura-ellen.com/sex-relationship-coaching
Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
49 min
December 15, 2021Claire Eccleston on Postpartum Intimacy
Welcome to this gentle, nurturing episode for those preparing for birth, those who have ever given birth, and care providers who support birthing and postnatal bodies.

Claire Eccleston is a midwife, and craniosacral therapist working within the STREAM philosophy of internal pelvic work and scar tissue remediation post-birth. And together we discuss some important topics within the realms of birthing, motherhood initiations, and gentle postpartum tools to support healing after birth.

Other topics we cover are:
What is STREAM philosophy.
How to connect with your body, vagina/vulva pre-birth, & how this helps with healing.
The healing process after birth & scar tissue remedies.
Adjusting to your new body as an individual & as a family.
Some common mistakes women are making post-birth that don’t support their healing process.
How women can best prepare themselves for a postpartum that honoring of their bodies.
The common hurdles that couples face post-partum.
Recommendations on re-approaching love-making and pleasure after birth?
How couples can stay connected during and after post partum, with the stressors of family life.
How new mums can stay connected to themselves & their pleasure after birth.

And so much more!

Something Claire really lands in this episode is the importance of conversation and having dialogue around the transitions experienced throughout this transformative time. Our intention for this episode is to inform & empower women & couples to have the birthing & postpartum experience that serves their body's wisdom & hearts.

Visit Claire's Website: https://learn.claireecclestonmidwife.com/
Sign Up For Holy Grail: https://learn.claireecclestonmidwife.com/p/holy-ground
Follow Claire on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clairehomebirth/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
49 min
December 09, 2021 How to Stay in Pleasure This Silly Season
Is this time of year a source of stress & overwhelm for you? As December ascends upon us and the silly season festivities draw near, I noticed myself (almost) falling into old patterns around being too "busy" for pleasure.

So I thought what better idea than to call upon my fellow pleasure-queen & friend... Michelle Kasey @_michellekasey_ to discuss some killer tips on how to stay allll pleasured-up this Christmas.

December can be an iffy month for many; family triggers, unfulfilled new years resolutions, jam-packed schedules etc. What if you could hit unsubscribe to all of that and create a season that feels good?

Well, we're here to help you make that happen, sis!

In this episode Michelle & I riff on;
The definition of "staying in pleasure" (you're going to breathe a sigh of fresh air when you hear Michelle speak on this).
Sensual movement, what it is, and how you can start to connect to your own intuitive flow.
How to "pillow" your schedule
Staying in authenticity around family & community
Navigating triggers & opposing views (v. useful at the moment!)
How to maintain a relationship of presence when life gets full
A handful of simple yet profound practices that you can start doing today!

This episode is so permission-giving, with a raw & real perspective on pleasure in modern-day life.

I'd love to know... What's one thing you're committed to doing this season to stay in your pleasure-fuelled lane?

Follow Michelle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_michellekasey_/
Check out Michelle's Website: https://www.michellekasey.com/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
47 min
November 24, 2021How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex
It's common for my clients to speak about feeling a sense of "disconnect" during lovemaking. This can be due to a slew of reasons, and there are no one-size-fits-all solutions, although, there are some common misconceptions around performance anxiety that I address in this episode.

If you desire to feel embodied, confident, and effortlessly oozing with pleasure in your sxual experiences then this episode is for you!

I cover various topics explaining why "disconnect" is normal, but not necessarily including;
Demystifying "headiness"/Shoulder's up living
Understanding your triggers & why you dissociate
The four trauma responses
Anxiety habits & how this creates disembodiment
Self-soothing vs self-care (and how to create your unique (self-soothing sequence)
When it’s actually not safe to be in the body & why trusting your coping mechanisms is the key to success.

I also share a range of tips that you can implement today on;

Effective Meditation techniques
How to notice when you’re disconnecting in the day-t-day
Becoming aware of feelings (And what to do with them)
Breathe medicine
How to own what’s happening with confidence
Requesting space to reconnect

And of course... My fabulous new offering Shadow Seductress and how it will assist you in embodiment & confidence.

Enjoy my loves!
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
41 min
November 18, 2021Shift From Depletion, Numbness & Burnout to Vitality, Pleasure & Freedom
A quickie & a goodie...

The busyness of the silly season is upon us, not to mention a landslide of tense global events & and an air uncertainty. I did a poll recently asking if you were feeling burnt out and over 70% of you said yes - WOW.

Burnout is normal... But not necessary.

In this episode, I cover some radical tips on how to shift away from burnout culture and step into a life of freedom, spaciousness & joy.

Topics include;

Radical self-responsibility
The art of deciding
Assuring change
Mastering shadow work for true liberation
Bravery, courage & going all the way
Food, alcohol, coffee, lifestyle
How to actually ***Make the time***

No excuses K. Link is in my bio xxx

Join Shadow Seductress here: https://laura-ellen.com/shadow-seductress
Follow my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/
Visit the Website: https://laura-ellen.com/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
20 min
October 27, 2021Casual Sex, One Night Stands & Navigating Multiple Lovers
Is it spiritual to have casual sx? Is it OK to date multiple people at once? What if I'm not ready for a romantic relationship but still want physical intimacy? These are questions I get asked all the time! So I've brought you today answering these hot Qs and so many more.

There are phases in life where romantic relationships are off the table and time to just have fun! This episode is designed to help you navigate casual sx relationships in a safe, expansive way where you are rooted in high self-worth and oozing with pleasure. Mmhmm.

Topics include:

True Sexual Empowerment
How to check in with yourself
You’re always manifesting something...
Dating; the self-worth playground
Casual Sx; the boundaries gym
Casual sex & self-abandonment (how to have standards)
Sexual Sovereignty & why self-pleasure is important
Upfront honesty, transparency & consent (this is so important!)
Communication scripts for epic lover relaionships
How to know where you stand in other peoples hearts
Why casual sex doesn’t equal a lack of care for the other person
Aftercare & boundaries
Practicing safe sx & how to communicate with a lover
Exploration, testing, discovering what works and having FUN.

As always, reach out if you have any feedback, I'd love to hear from you!

Join Sensual Sex: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex
Visit my Website: https://laura-ellen.com/
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/
Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
44 min
October 21, 2021 How to Increase Vaginal Pleasure & Sensitivity
You heard me...

The long-requested episode is HERE! In this episode, I share my favorite tips & techniques on how to increase sensitivity and expand your orgasmic capacity for vaginal O's!

The episode is broken down into two core pillars; Stimulation Specifics & Self-training. Topics include:
Why thrusting can interrupt pleasure.
Femme Pleasure positive techniques such as Stilling, Riding, Waving & circling.
Pleasure sharing (you'll love this!)
G pleasure is a region, not a spot.
Shallowing & mindful penetration
The difference between male & female arousal
Engorgement and waiting for that Y E S.
Expanding your capacity for sensitivity & pleasure.
Self-pleasure using hands/yoni eggs/dildos.
Working through pain, tenderness & numbness (yoni de armoring etc).
The difference between internal vs clit0ral pleasure.
Practice makes better!

And so much more...

Enjoy my loves.

Join Sensual Sex here: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex
Follow my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen/

Work with Laura Ellen:
Book a connection call: https://calendly.com/lauraellen/discovery
SELF SOURCED: www.laura-ellen.com/self-sourced
Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
www.laura-ellen.com/yum

Discover DIY Online Courses:
Website: www.laura-ellen.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_laura_ellen

Donate to The Sexual Wellness Podcast:
https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=KJLSUE4X7CCF8

If you’re loving the show and are excited to get this content in the ears of those who need it most, you can offer a one-off or monthly donation.

Never necessary, always appreciated.

This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe
31 min

About Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

From the publisher's feed

Hosted by Laura Ellen, intimacy educator and practitioner with over six years of experience, Better Loving explores the inner and relational landscapes of love, sex, and connection. Drawing on Eastern…