Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

I've taken a slightly more vulnerable approach to this episode. As I launch my signature pleasure program, Sensual Sx, which promotes pleasure, vitality, feminine expression, and having really, really incredible sx... But I'm mindful of the harm that this can cause to women who simply aren't there right now.

We live in a sex-crazed society. One that celebrates the DTF  energy that expects up to be instantly wet & constantly horny. But what about when we just don't want to have sx? What about those periods throughout our life when life gets in the way, our hearts feel heavy and desire is completely out the window?

I'm here to offer a refreshing perspective on healthy sexuality, one that relieves us all of the unrealistic expectations of sx, and gives full permission for our bodies to thrive in their own way, & at their own pace.

Topics include:

- Stress, hardship, pain, and how it affects female desire.

- Getting real about what your motivators are for this (this is a crunchy one!).

- Why low libido is not a valid diagnosis.

- Why it’s OK to not want sx all the time. 

- Is it desire, or are you boared? (Also a crunchy one!).

- The four Sexual seasons & why we need to normalize them.

- Why trust is the biggest aphrodisiac.

- How to say FU to shit that makes you feel contracted.

As well as some insights into my personal experience with desire, or lack thereof.

Enjoy xxx

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It's a learnable skill, babe ;) And I know you got it.

Like, enough of the nice girl BS.
The good girl, the perfect girl, the well-put-together girl, the girl who follows all the rules, the people-pleasing girl… She’s great n’ all.
But there’s more to you than that.

You’re deeper than that.
You’re more alive than that.
You’re more turned-on than that.
You’re more powerful than that.

There’s a part of you that’s been calling, begging, longing to be expressed…
And now you’re ready to let her roar out of you.

YUP... This episode is for you.

Also... THE DOORS TO SENSUAL SX ARE WIIIIDE OPEN LADIES!! And for 48 hours I've created the most irresistible offer... You're NOT going to want to say no to this.

So to celebrate I've broken down 8 core pillars on how to unleash the innate sensual sx goddess within you. 

Topics include:

• Mindset: because great sex starts between the ears.
• Embodiment: Authentic pleasure that caters to your nervous system.
• Pussy Positivity: Completely revolutionize your relationship with your yoni.
• Beyond Self Pleasure: Becoming the lover of hottest, wildest, wettest dreams
• Embodied Consent: Feeling a true yes through the body’s signals
• Anatomy of Arousal: Expanding Your Orgasmic Capacity
• BTCE: AKA Big Throat Chakra Energy
• Seduction & Lust: Becoming The Boss of Your Sexuality

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Mhmm... This week I bring you a modern woman's guide to giving pleasure like a queen! In this episode, I discuss the difference between "jobs" & service sex vs empowered giving from a place of true, authentic pleasure.

This is so much more than cosmo's top ten tips for bl.w jobs + h.nd jobs... You're deeper than that.

You want your loving to be real, and you want your partner to experience that depth too.

You want to exude confidence and feel effortless when giving pleasure, no more performance anxiety.

You want to enjoy, no, freaking REVEL IN going down on your man because it strengthens your bond & opens your hearts to new levels of love.

You want to create unforgettable experiences in the bedroom with your lover because you’re no basic bitch, am I right ;)

This episode is for you...

I talk you through my top tips for creating the most insanely pleasurable c0ck worship practice that will completely transform the way you think and do oral sex, lovemaking, and physical intimacy as a whole.

Lingam Loving Workshop: https://laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving-1
How To Fuck A Goddess: https://laura-ellen.com/how-to-fuck-a-goddess-1
Heart Space: https://laura-ellen.com/heartspace
Sensual Sex Pre-party List: https://laura-ellen.com/sensual-sex-cover

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YUM RETREAT:
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This week on #TheSexualWellnessPodcast I dive into effective foreplay strategies for the feminine soul and how to create that honeymooned style L U S T in any relationship (married or one-nighter).

True foreplay goes far beyond the bedroom and in this episode, I cover the holistic nature of female libido & desire including:

• What puts the brakes or accelerator on female arousal.
• How to establish your safety needs for epic sx.
• How to cultivate mystery & desire (without being avoidant or self sabotaging relationships).
• Holistic libido care
• Environmental/ sensual factors for successful surrender
• Breast massage & heart opening
• Breath, sound & movement techniques for expanded org-smic experiences.
• Toy + vibrators as arousal accessories.

And more…

Check out this episode via the link in my bio or search for The Sexual Wellness Podcast on your fave podcasting app.

How To Fuck A Goddess: https://laura-ellen.com/how-to-fuck-a-goddess-1
Heart Space: https://laura-ellen.com/heartspace
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Work with Laura Ellen:
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Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
Lingam Loving: www.laura-ellen.com/lingam-loving

YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
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Here on popular demand! And such an important topic to cover in the realm of feminine wellbeing. Harnessing your hormones & knowing your cycle is the ultimate harnessing of your feminine superpowers, and today I bring to you an incredible guest to educate us on all things menstrual cycle awareness.

Rachel Garbary is the founder of Inner Seasons - a heartfully curated range of organic herbal teas to support you during each inner season of your menstrual cycle. She is also a menstrual cycle educator & coach on a mission to inspire cyclical connection and body literacy. 

AND... She's a total babe and bestie of mine.

But I didn't bring her on the show just because she's a sister... Rachel's pure, heart-centered passion for women's welling and hormonal understanding is so authentic and genuine that it simply oozes effortlessly into everything she does. Her teas are a gift to my body in every phase of my cycle and her ability to educate women about their body's natural cycles with so much loving compassion inspires me. I highly recommend you follow her for all your daily cyclical living tips and inspiration to live in tune with your feminine body.

Topics we discuss in this episode are;

• What is cyclical connection and why its important.
• The biggest issues women are facing when it comes to menstrual wellbeing.
• How women using hormonal contraception can connect to & tune into their inner seasons.
• Tips on how to support women transitioning off hormonal contraception.
• A deep dive into our inner seasons as women and how to optimize our lifestyle in each phase.
• Insights into libido needs, optimal diet options, and appropriate exercise throughout your cycle.
• How to bring a sense of sacredness to your menstrual self-care through ritual.
• Resources on how to become a cycle awareness superwoman.

And so much more...

As always, I love to hear your feedback so pop over to Itunes to write a review or connect with me with any questions you may.

ENJOY my loves xxx

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Recently I did a questionnaire asking women what really turned them on. Not just in a kinda wet way… IN an OMG-fk-me-now way. There were certain themes that were overwhelmingly repeated.

Wanna see? ;)

These are the mains themes I saw that made a woman feel wet, open & in looove.

• Pressure-less Pleasure - Many women reported being more turned-on & open when they were able to engage in touch & intimacy without sx-pectations.

• Heart-Opening Communication - Honest, vulnerable (and sexy) communication about needs & desires makes the feminine feel safe and free to relax into pleasure.

• Embodied consent -  There’s verbal consent as well as embodied consent which is related to the felt sense. Women reported heightened desire for lovers who were present with and responsive to their bodies yes & no's.

• Attunement - An extension of embodied consent but different. This is about the lover's ability to deeply feel and attune to one another through presence & awareness of body cues.

• Mindful penetration - Mindful penetration is about building sexual tension, connection & erotic energy by waiting at the entrance of a woman for a period of time.

Mhmmm. It's a goodie. Enjoy!

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This one is for the men! Or the curious couples... Or the ladies who are just passionate about all things love, sex & living a turned-on life...

As a sex & relationship coach, I’ve listened to countless singles and couples explain what’s working… and what’s not working. 

The unfortunate truth that we face today as adults is that sex education is, well… a sham basically. What we think great sex should look, be, and feel like is actually far, far away from the truth. So we are literally fumbling around in the dark trying to figure out what that thing is.

Up until this point in my career, I have been working exclusively with women to demystify female pleasure, break down taboos, and unveil the joys of living a life that is full of authentic, meaningful… and fucking downright incredible sex.

And now I’m giving all this gold to you.

Because it takes two to tango, right ; ).

The best lovers I’ve ever had all embodied these certain qualities that took our sex to ecstatic heights. In this episode I break down a couple of these qualities including;

1. Presence
2. Embodiment
3. Freedom
4. Re-writing emasculation & man-shaming culture.
5. Untapped raw masculine power (roooooar!).

It's a goodie.

Any questions?

Hit me --->


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Mhmmm. In this diverse and potent episode, I talk about being a (sexless) well-fucked woman no matter what your relationship status or life phase. 

I often ask couples & singles what makes sex "great" for them? How do they feel when they're having great sex & how this affects their everyday life? Their answers may surprise you as all of these qualities people suggest are not dependant on the physical, frictional experience of sex itself.

All of this data has contributed to the making of this episode where I've distilled down the key components to feeling alive, lit-up & turned-on (no matter where your at) while still honoring your values & needs at the time.

 I've broken this episode down into three different sections:

- How to be W-F'd When you're in an intentional celibacy space (perhaps after a breakup or a significant life-changing event).

- How to be W-F'd When you're in your sexual winter (in or outside of a relationship).

- How to be W-F'd While You're dating.

All categories are unique and have specific guidance including;

-My personal definition of modern celibacy and what to do when you want to keep your energy to yourself.

- How to keep your sexual energy ON and OPEN while remaining boundaried.

- Flirting with life & how to keep your sensual flame alight.

- What to do when you're in a sexual winter (low-no sex drive)

- How to create more a sex-positive and arousal conducive environment in all aspects of your life.

- How to identify what is creating contraction in your day-to-day to bring more balance, harmony & sensual aliveness.

- What to do when you're not sure what turns you on anymore.

- Holistic feminine arousal and looking at your entire environment to see if it is conducive to safety, expansion & sensuality or discomfort, contraction and shut down.

- How to be ooze with sexual sovereignty while dating.

- Self-pleasure artistry.

- Orgasmic energy = magnetic energy

- How to take the neediness energy out of dating & turns it into grounded, secure "I like you but I'm ok either way" energy.

Tune in, drop-in, & enjoy!

Thanks my loves.

Work with Laura Ellen:
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YUM RETREAT:
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NEW PODCAST EPISODE! This week I interview Kat Harris on empowering women of faith to walk their worth, embrace their sensuality & find liberation through femininity and shame-free sexuality. Kat is also the podcast host of The Refined Woman Podcast, online educator, speaker, author, and photographer on a mission to equip women with practical tools to navigate their lives grounded in freedom, vision, and wholeness.

Mhmmm.

Regardless of your personal beliefs or experience with religion, this episode has so much to offer as we cover truly powerful topics such as;

- How to re-write your sexual story in a way that is deeply rooted in love & abundance, while still staying true to your unique values.
- The difference between sensuality, sexuality, femininity (and how to harness each within you)
- Unpacking common misunderstandings about feminism and religion (Christian faith-based).
- How to stay connected to intimacy and your body.
- What is sexuality, who does it belong to, and what does the Bible have to say about it?
- How to embrace your sexuality even when you’re not having sex.

And so many more gems on how to live a happy, healthy, turned-on life while staying integrity with your beliefs.

I’d also like to acknowledge our privilege at this time as females fall into further oppression in parts of the world.

What I’ve come to understand is that no matter how you connect to spirituality, the fundamental laws of sensuality and female empowerment are universal. In essence, it comes down to something much more significant than just sex, it’s our right as women to stand up, have a voice and shine within the world.

Enjoy this truly powerful episode with the exquisite & impactful, Kat Harris.

Check out Kat’s offerings here.

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YUM RETREAT:
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Oh heeey,

In this week's episode, I indulge you in my top ten tips on how to create truly nourishing (and deeply ecstatic!) sexual experiences.

- Why you don't have to try hard to experience ecstatic pleasure

- Why starfish is the best sex position and how to treat sex like Savasana.

- Simplicity & the art of spaciousness

- How to orient your body to pleasure through intentional masturbation

- How to develop the felt sense through feminine embodiment 

- The bliss (and importance) of shadow work & how to get started

- Nervous system support and alignment (trauma & asserting needs)

- How to receive pleasure in the body and delight in your life.

- Why self-trust is the key to epic orgasms.

And more - of course!


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Sensual Sex: www.laura-ellen.com/ss-mailing-list
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YUM RETREAT:
Wānaka 17th-21st Sept.
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