Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

Herpes... A sexual death sentence or an invitation for sexual liberation?

Annette & I vote for the latter, and in this conversation, we go all-in on the how & why.

Shaking that herpes stigma and owning your story is a bold and courageous move. So to celebrate Annette coming out of the herpes closet, we decided to share this hugely powerful, intimately insightful, and downright liberating convo on all things sex after herpes.

In this interview we discuss:

- Herpes, what it is & what it is not.
- OCD "clean culture" & why it's toxic to humanity.
- Why you should never Google "Herpes"
- Shame & its effects on the body.
- How to release shame & end shame cycles.
- The energetics of shame & why you won't attract the right person until you deal with it.
- Reframing herpes and ending the blame game.
- How to be responsible & have vulnerable conversations.
- How to be supportive of yourself & others with herpes.
- Ending the stigma and contributing to a shame-free culture (this is so important!).

A worthy watch regardless of your herpes status. It's on all of us to change the way we view and respond to the diagnosis of either ourselves and/or our loved ones.

If you resonate with this interview I encourage you to share it with any friends & family who may need it too. This topic is SO important and the more people's ears we can get it in the better.

Now, listen away my love, and comment with a !! if you're ready to say BYEEEE to the herpes straight jacket and start living a wildly free & abundant sex life - shamelessly.

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MWA xx

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It's time to end performance sex patterns and embrace your inner vanilla-queen! Exquisite pleasure can be found in the simplest ways, and to help illuminate this topic I've brought the wonderful Bonnie Bliss back on the show.

In this episode, we dive into many topics (too many to wrap up into a title) around authentic pleasure, sexual conditioning, performing vs enjoying, and how to become an A+ starfish receiver in the bedroom (in the most delicious & empowered way).

Topics include:

- Disarming sexual pressure
- Discerning between sexual ego and sexual desires
- Taking the performance out of sex
- Discovering your unique sexual expression
- The simplicity of divine pleasure
- How to truly receive pleasure (and genuinely enjoy it)
- The differences between intimacy and sexual intimacy (and how to establish these within relationships)
- Using the external as a band-aid solution to low libido or desire & how to empower yourself through sexual sovereignty instead.

And so much more....

The nuggets in this episode are bold & beautiful.

If you'd like to listen to other episodes with Bonnie you can check them out here.

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I was going to do this as an Instagram live but the topic is just so damn juicy I had to share it with you all.

Compersion, what the hell is that? And how do we create relationships that allow for freedom and authenticity -while still remaining boundaried and safe?

Jealousy & comparison are the biggest killers of love and libido around the globe, whether that of other women, of your partner's friends/family, or even the dog! I've been there, and now I'm here to show you how to release the reins of control and relax into genuine compersion and love for yourself & your relationship.

This episode is for you no matter your relationship label. I don't believe it's about poly vs monogamy. I believe it's simple about relating beautifully.

In this episode you will learn:

• That jealousy is not "bad" - in fact, it's beautiful.
• How to deal with jealousy when it arises within yourself or your partner.
• The definition of self-love and staying in your own lane.
• What compersion is and how to develop in your body.
• How to create a culture in your relationship that is desire positive and promotes connection instead of distance.

Enjoy, lovers xx

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Did I mention already how Good it feels to be back on the Poddy? DAMN - it's a vibe.

This week is a special Q&A segment of The Sexual Wellness Podcast. Every month I'll be doing one of these so be sure to sign up to my email list to be able to submit your questions for the next episode!

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This week we're talking about the magic of sexual healing - what it is and how to embrace it instead of judge it away.

We cover a very tender topic; Abortion, and how to create a new sexual story after trauma.

I also go into Libido, how to reframe your sexual mindset to one of abundance, how to stoke the embers of your turn on and how to reignite the flame of passion within yourself and your relationship.

There are so many nuggets in this one!

And of course, if you're feeling that burning flame of desire to take radical action, step into your shine and start LIVING your most turned-on life - then we need to talk. Check out Queendom Here:  https://laura-ellen.com/queendom

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YUM RETREAT:
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Oh. My. GOSH.

Season two, baby! And boy am I glad to be here. I knew this time would come, I also knew that when it did my body would feel that is was T I M E in every single ecstatic cell in my body - I was right.

A couple of things first:

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In this delightful new episode of SEASON TWO of the Sexual Wellness Podcast, I talk about how to identify and remove energy leaks in your body, mind + spirit with unapologetic Queen-like energy! This is an important fundamental of pleasure based living and living a life in true alignment with your values + vision.

I also share my #1 tool for body-aware intuition (you're going to LOVE this).

Love, as always xx

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I would say I shed a little tear releasing this grande finale episode but I honestly didn't. I feel so damn aligned in my choices, and I know this podcast will continue to ripple out an effect the lives of many in the future.

Sometimes we have to give ourselves permission to stop and take all the pressure off to see who we are truly meant to become - and oh my goodness is there a lot of becoming going on right now!

This episode is a jam-packed Q&A, filled with golden nuggets of wisdom for you to enjoy & embody. Topics I cover are:

Libido in long term relationships.
Making sex fun again.
Online dating tips.
My personal radical sex routine.
Sexual confidence.
My favorite sex toys.

Annnd of course the biggest news of all! The Giveaway winner review is announced! Here is the winning review:

"I live on the other side of the earth from Laura Ellen and still, her way of sharing on her podcast makes it feels like she’s in my living room chatting with me over a hot cup of cocoa. Listening to her straight-from-the-heart wisdom has made me giggly and passionately massage my breasts at my desk at work without even realising it, purrr like a cat together with her and all the time with tingles all over my body like the pleasure queen she has helped me realise that I am.

Congratulations on finding this podcast. You are in for a juicy treat!!

Prrrrr💦"

I mean, I feel like we need to have warm cacao together after reading this! Congratulations Frika you are the winner (and send me a DM immediately!).

OK, now I feel a little nostalgic...

Thank you x a million to all of the people who have inspired me, collaborated with me and supported me over the last 1.5 years of the podcast journey. 

And thank you x infinity to all the people who messaged me with love & gratitude for the results they were getting out of this content. My whoooole heart <3

As always lovers, enjoy and I'll see in new ways in new offerings soon!

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Welcome to part two of this epic two-part episode about all things orgasm!

We get SUPER juicy with this one, discussing topics like...

* Common myths and misconceptions that block us from accessing epic pleasure
* All the different kinds of orgasm we can access
* How I find pleasure even though I'm working on the computer soooo much lately
* Why a holistic approach to sexuality is essential
* Tools and approaches to increase your sensitivity
* Why most of us hold shame / conditioning around sexuality
* Where to start if you've never had an orgasm or feel super disconnected from your pleasure
* Limiting beliefs I held about my pleasure and my body
* Why pleasure is a skill you can build (and how that makes it waaaay more fun to explore and learn!)
* Why you're not broken and there's nothing wrong with you
* Why you're not meant to feel like sex all the time and ebbs and flows are natural
* Why I no longer keep vibrating devices in my house
* The key to opening to multiple orgasms
* Why letting go of orgasm as a goal gives you waaaay better orgasm!

Mhmmm.

Stay tuned for more information about Yoni Club coming up and do yourself a favor and follow Bonnies immediately.

Visit Bonnie’s website: https://bonniebliss.co/
Join the waitlist for Yoni Club: https://bonniebliss.co/yoni-club/
Follow Bonnie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bonniebliss.co/
Join Bonnie’s Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yoniclub

Always beautiful, take care we’ll see you next week for the next episode.

xx

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YUM RETREAT:
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You guessed it pleasure Queen, this two-part podcast series with the incredible Bonnie is dedicated to all thing orgasm, pleasure, and B E Y O N D.

This week @bonniebliss.co and I deep dive into the world of female pleasure. Bonnie shares with us her eye-opening and whole-body-resounding definition of orgasm, the different types of female orgasm (this will blow your mind), and how to open and resensitize your body to more.. well, bliss.

If you're wanting to expand beyond peak pleasure and into those rejuvenating, full-body orgasmic states, or if you'd simply like to have an orgasm period... This episode is absolutely for you.

We cover a lot in this two-part podcast series, and I believe every yoni-owner would benefit from the magic mic drops in this sensually alive audio.

In fact... I believe every gender, every identity could benefit from the magic mic drops in this sensually alive audio! Because of course... it's not just about sex-centric pleasure... It's about expanding your capacity to enjoy yourself in, and outside the bedroom.

Also, do yourself a favor and follow Bonnies immediately. The waitlist for her upcoming course Yoni Club is open and I'm already on it. Stay tuned into my channel (like seriously keep your eyes peeled) for a special promo code when it launches in August.

Website: https://bonniebliss.co/
Yoni Club: https://bonniebliss.co/yoni-club/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bonniebliss.co/

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YUM RETREAT:
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In typical Laura-Ellen style, I decided to bring even more pleasure to this podcast by bringing on a special guest - Asti Maree!

Asti and I are like two peas in a pod, and this episode is a frank conversation about sex, pleasure, and taking boundaries to the next level for a life that's grounded in respect + integrity.

It's delicious, and of course FULL of mic drop moments that I know are going to sink into your system like honey.

If you're looking to gain a deeper understanding of how you can tap into your feminine (even as a high achieving woman), bring more pizazz into your day-to-day and assert your worth in the world with ease and grace... Then this is for you.

Enjoy xx

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Episode Summary:This week, I’m opening the secret vaults of my coaching work to share how to be an exquisite lover—truly enjoying both giving and receiving pleasure. If you’re seeking better sex or the partner of your dreams but find yourself avoiding certain acts, we need to talk. I’ll guide you through mindset shifts and practical tips to step confidently into epic loverdom, helping you bring more pleasure, presence, and play into your intimate life.

Key Topics Covered:

How to cultivate enjoyment in giving and receiving pleasure

Mindset shifts for confident and skilled lovemaking

Overcoming resistance to acts like oral sex

Stepping into your full erotic presence

Practical tips for becoming a more attentive and responsive lover

Disclaimer:

This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].

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