Beyond the Facade with Choose Recovery Services and Blueprint Institute

Do you ever wonder why you keep repeating the same destructive patterns despite wanting to change? This week Luke tackles a huge question in recovery: Do we actually have free will, or is everything predetermined by our past trauma and brain chemistry? This isn't just philosophical debate—it's about understanding what actually needs to be in place for real transformation to happen.

What You'll Learn:

• The difference between free will and determinism, and why most people get stuck in the extremes

• The 5 essential requirements that must be present for true choice to even be possible

• How to reframe recovery from "just try harder" to creating the right conditions for sustainable change

Chapters

• 01:02 Free Will vs Determinism

• 04:38 Exploring the Extremes and Middle Ground

• 07:26 Requirements for Free Will

• 13:45 Questions to Ponder

Register Now!

• Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

You know the recovery scripts by heart, but when your partner is triggered, it still feels performative and hollow. Sound familiar?

In this powerful episode, Luke welcomes Hali Roderick (fellow Choose To Be coach) and Tim, a participant from the recent Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive. Tim shares how somatic work and community vulnerability can crack open the shells we've built around our hearts, moving us from performative recovery to authentic healing.

What You'll Learn:

• Why recovery scripts fall short and how to embody real empathy

• How body-based healing breaks through emotional barriers

• Why vulnerability in community accelerates healing

Chapters

• 01:06 Meet Hali and Tim

• 03:58 The Purpose of the Help Her Heal Intensive

• 09:36 Somatic Work: The Key to Healing

• 16:15 The Value of Community

• 20:41 The Nervous System’s Response to Trauma

• 24:20 Being Ready For Change

• 26:39 Family of Origin Analogy

Register Now!

• Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Ever wondered why certain behaviors feel impossible to break, even when you desperately want to change? In this eye-opening episode, Luke and guest Laura Fisher dive deep into the hidden world of attachment wounds and how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships and coping mechanisms. 

You'll discover why recovery isn't a destination but an ongoing journey—like walking up a down escalator that never stops moving.

Laura Fisher is a fellow coach at Choose Recovery Services. Learn more about her here and book a session with her here.  

Listen to Learn:

• The importance of understanding your attachment style

• How trauma can create sexual addiction patterns

• Why recovery requires consistent, ongoing effort

Chapters

• 01:09 Welcoming Laura

• 01:44 Understanding Attachment and Its Impact

• 06:44 Attachment Wounds and Their Manifestations 

• 18:52 Rewiring the Nervous System

• 25:31 Somatic Healing

Register Now!

• Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity⁠⁠ is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register⁠ ⁠HERE⁠⁠.

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round .

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Do you find yourself thinking that being tough on yourself is the key to growth? It’s not! This week Luke dismantles seven common myths about self-compassion and reveals how being kinder to yourself can fuel real change, recovery, and connection.

Listen to discover:

• Why self-compassion strengthens accountability

• How self-compassion is a strength, not a weakness

• How self-compassion in moments of failure can spur growth

Chapters:

• 02:07 Understanding Self-Compassion

• 03:29 Myth: Self-Compassion Means Avoiding Responsibility 

• 03:59 Myth: Self-Compassion is Selfish

• 06:30 Myth: Self-Compassion Lowers Standards

• 07:13 Myth: You Have to Earn Self-Compassion

• 08:23 Myth: Self-Compassion is Fake Positivity 

• 09:37 Myth: Self-Compassion Only Works for Good People

• 10:27 Myth: Self-Compassion Means Avoiding Hard Emotions

Register Now!

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

How quickly can someone go from noticing to fantasizing? This week Luke answers a listener’s question about how the brain processes attraction and the resulting sexual response.

Get answers to these three questions:

• How quickly can someone go from noticing to fantasizing?

• Where does the three-second rule fit into the brain sexual response cycle?

• Is it okay to acknowledge that someone is attractive?

Listen to Episode 46 for background on the neuroscience behind the body’s sexual response. 

Chapters

• 01:29 Recap of Episode 46

• 03:24 Question 1

• 05:12 Question 2

• 08:29 Question 3

Register Now!

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

How do you make decisions when you’re not sure you can trust your emotions? This week Luke welcomes Sy Bee back to resume their discussion from last week. They continue exploring the differences between emotionally-based and values-based decisions.

Tune in to hear:

• Sy’s personal experiences of triumphs and failures

• What is meant by “shadow emotions”

• The dangers of letting your inner child drive your decisions

Book a session with Sy

Chapters

• 01:26 Emotionally Based Decisions

• 04:37 Understanding Values

• 08:17 Identifying Personal Values

• 15:16 Exploring the Root of Behaviors

• 20:34 Shadow Expressions

• 27:16 Integrity and Trust in Recovery

• 32:50 Discovering Core Values

Register Now!

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Ever wonder why your brain tells you to quit long before you actually need to? In this powerful episode, Luke and fellow Choose Recovery Services coach Sy Bee discuss how doing hard things can transform your recovery and help you discover your authentic self. 

You'll learn why physical challenges aren't just about fitness, but about building unshakeable confidence that no one can take away from you.

Listen to learn:

• How physical challenges rewire your brain

• The difference between emotion-driven decisions and values-based choices in recovery

• How pushing your physical limits reveals what you’re truly capable of achieving

Book a session with Sy

Chapters

• 01:25 Introducing Sy

• 05:16 Personal Stories of Overcoming Challenges

• 07:36 The Role of Exercise in Recovery

• 13:45 Client Success Story

• 17:16 Building a Relationship With Self

• 29:58 Principled vs. Emotional Decisions

. Register Now!

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

What’s the difference between noticing and objectifying? This week Luke welcomes guest Stephen Thomas (fellow coach at Choose Recovery Services). Their conversation will challenge your perspective on what healthy sexuality looks like and reveal the hidden costs of reducing people to their physical appearance. 

Learn:

• The crucial difference between noticing attractiveness and objectifying someone

• How objectification hurts both strangers and your own partner (even when they're not around)

• Why becoming a "protector" instead of a "consumer" leads to deeper intimacy and authentic connection

Chapters

• 01:03 Meet Stephen Thomas

• 03:27 Defining Objectification

• 16:58 Personal Recovery Journey

• 18:44 Understanding Intimacy Beyond Sex

• 21:59 Objectification in Society

Register Now!

• Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - LAST CHANCE TO REGISTER! This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Are you confused about whether your partner can help you in your healing journey or if you need to do it alone? This powerful episode breaks down the myth that it's an either/or situation.

This week Luke shares an episode he did with Alana Gordon on the Choose To Be podcast. Together they dive deep into the three essential ways partners can support healing—emotional availability, accountability, and co-regulation—while exploring why ultimate responsibility for healing must remain with you. 

Register Now!

• Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah. 

• Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.

• We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com

Have you followed all the recommended steps in your recovery yet still feel stuck? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, betrayal trauma coach, and Director at Choose Recovery Services) joins Luke, and together they dive into the importance of somatic healing. 

Discover how addressing the trauma stored in your body can transform everything about your recovery journey.

Chapters

• 01:10 Welcoming Alana Gordon

• 03:11 Luke’s Personal Story

• 07:33 The Importance of Somatic Work

• 15:13 The Role of Other Modalities 

• 19:46 The Three Brains

• 23:26 Call to Action

Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE⁠

Register Now!

• Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.

• Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women⁠ - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 26-29, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register ⁠HERE⁠.

• Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Learn more and see if you qualify.

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

• Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.

• Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services   

Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

• Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support. 

• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.

• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com