Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belonging

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People-pleasing is the habit of doing things for others that we believe will cause them to like or choose us.  It is a form of worth-seeking that is driven by a fear that rejection defines one's worth.

It is one of the six core expressions of codependency.  

It's opposite is being yourself, asking directly for what you want, and receiving the outcomes.

Learn what to do to disengage people-pleasing and make asking and sharing yourself safer and easier in today's episode!


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 Safety
 Sanity
 Personal Sovereignty
 Trust Yourself
 Know Yourself
 Love Yourself
 Be Yourself
 Share Yourself

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- You'll be discovering your real worth
- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others
- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe people

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- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves
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