So often when you are experiencing a breakup, divorce or separation you feel like you are swimming in play dough, your arms are moving but you are going no where. In this episode Tanya Somerton explores the benefits of working with a life coach and stylist, about gaining clarity on problems and issues you may have found elusive, some of the stigmas surrounding divorce, her book 'The jelly bean jar', working with both men and women and much more.

Tanya Somerton is a divorce expert who together with her team of experts, work with clients to turn the trauma and pain of a divorce around and begin the journey to recovery.

There can be a stigma associated with people who have been through a divorce, that there is something wrong with them, that they are not worthy of happiness, your future does not look bright. Tanya believes divorce does not mean the end of your life but it's the start of something that can be amazing and wonderful.

In Tanya's book 'The jelly Bean Jar' Tanya reveals her blueprint for a successful divorce, from dealing with professionals to save you time and money, the questions you need to ask, and the tricks and tools to set yourself up for future success and independence.

Tanya also offered listeners of Breakup Recovery Podcast her eBook '46 Mindset secrets to turn your life around and become wealthy' for free. Use the coupon code 'podcast' when ordering in the cart process. More about Tanya and what she has to offer can be found @ http://tanyasomerton.com and Facebook: Tanya Somerton - Divorce Angel

Tanya Somerton is a divorce specialist who together with her army of angles, navigate the divorce process to ensure the best possible outcome and framing the future success for clients that are going through a divorce.

After experiencing the many challenges whilst going through her own divorce Tanya decided that the process should be more streamlined. She has developed a one-stop divorce shop where people only have to tell their story once and Tanya engages the necessary experts to work out the best strategy for her clients.

Because divorce is so much more than going to a lawyer, and security both emotionally and financially is a priority for her clients Tanya works on a holistic approach and can look at the situation from a non-judgmental viewpoint and can advise a course of action based on the evidence.

Tanya will look at a person's portfolio of assets and together with a financial advisor and accountant will work out what is best for her client long term taking into account their goals for their future.

Tanya also offered listeners of Breakup Recovery Podcast her eBook '46 Mindset secrets to turn your life around and become wealthy' for free. Use the coupon code 'podcast' when ordering in the cart process. More about Tanya and what she has to offer can be found @ http://tanyasomerton.com and Facebook: Tanya Somerton - Divorce Angel

This is Breakup Recovery's 100th episode where I asked listeners to send in the questions that they wanted me to cover in this special episode. I shared my insights, tips and strategies on a number of topics ranging from 'how do you stop loving some one so much?', 'how do I move on', 'should I follow them on social media' and 'the importance of you'.

There are so many emotions that are going through your body after a breakup. You are possibly stuck and don't know how to move forward, that is why you are listening to this podcast or reading articles, blogs and books to help you to recover and start to feel normal again. The hurt you are feeling can be so intense, you wonder if you will ever mend your broken heart and be happy again.

I don't think it is that easy to stop loving some one, especially if you have spent a lot of time with this person. Or if you have been blindsided by the breakup, you never saw it coming. It can be very difficult to one-day stop loving the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with.

This question 'how do I move on' is universally asked by those that are going through a breakup. So don't feel that you are the only person questioning yourself about how can you move on after your relationship ends. There can be a number of reasons that you feel that you are not moving on or that you are not moving on the way you would like to. In this episode I share some of the top reasons that might be holding you back from moving forward and enjoying life again.

If you are checking their instagram page, snap chat, their twitter account, their face book status, every hour, I want you to ask yourself this question, 'why are you doing this?'. Are you looking for a sign that they are missing you, that their life is a mess, they are so unhappy and can't live with out you? But is this a reality, have you ever seen someone's post saying they are feeling crappy, they are a mess emotionally and they just aren't coping? How is that going to make you feel when you see them out and about with their friends?

After enduring a lengthy, stressful and difficult divorce from her sociopath husband, Stacy Brookman enrolled in a memoir class that changed her life forever. Stacy found when writing her crazy stories down on a piece of paper, she was able to gain clarity about her situation and work out the necessary steps she had to take in order to recover and move on from her breakup.

Writing out your stories after a traumatic and harrowing life situation, can give you insights into what has happened and the courage to move forward. Stacy believes that life storytelling is an incredibly powerful tool for personal transformation. Its not always about the gramma and punctuation, its about pulling the wool from over your eyes, seeing things in black and white so you can do something about your situation.

'Real life resilience' is Stacy's podcast and its mission is to tell stories of recovery from life's most difficult trauma, and by example help people with tough life situations discover how to tell their own stories.

You can find out more about Stacy, read her blogs and listen to her podcast @ www.stacybrookman.com

Jill Sockwell and her co-author Suzanne Riss were both divorced and looking for advice that was uplifting, and inspiring. Answers that were realistic and true to life that they themselves could put into place so they could navigate this challenging process called divorce. They couldn't find this advice or the resources to match their requirements, so they wrote their book 'The Optimist's Guide To Divorce', which is a 'how-to' for people going through a divorce.

Jill describes the divorce process as a marathon not a sprint and there can be a variety of solutions for the diverse challenges that divorce presents. Attitude is everything and it can be so easy to get caught up in the negatives, however if you try and look on the bright side, look for the best in this difficult situation then the process can be a little easier to deal with.

Breaking up can be an isolating experience initially so Jill and Suzanne started their Maplewood Divorce club in March 2103 so that women could come together and support and help each other through the challenging and testing process.

One tip that Jill would offer women going through a divorce is that it's going to get better and look for ways to grown and change for the better from this difficult experience, some days are going to be better than others. Choose to look for the positives and one way to do this is to start a gratitude journal, even when you are not feeling amazing or ok, looking back over what you have written, all the good that is happening in your life will lift your mood

You can purchase the book 'The Optimist's Guide To Divorce' @ www.optimistsguidetodivorce.com and follow on Facebook @optimistsguidetodivorce

Orion went through her own dark moments in life after her breakup from a very abuse partner. She was in a state of depression that lasted years until she found her own way to mend her heart and regain her strength. One of the strategies Orion shared in this podcast was mirror work. A very powerful approach that boosts your self-confidence and increases the love for yourself.

Orion also explored some of the mistakes that single women can make when looking for love again, as well as the importants of self-care and reconnecting to you feminine side. Orion suggested when reconnecting to your spiritual side it is essential to do so from a place of love rather than from a place of fear.

You can connect with Orion Talmay and find about more of what she has to offer and download her eBook 'How to become a love magnet' @ orionsmethod.com

Stephanie Dalfonzo offers some practical exercises that can quickly break up and change habits that are causing you to feel overwhelmed, stressed and anxious. Using these simple yet effective strategies and techniques can help bring you out of depression and into the present moment. Doing things differently does not have to be complicated, long or big, they just have to be of value. Like the restorative yoga pose of legs up the wall, even thought it's a passive pose, combine it with controlled breathing helps lower anxiety and stress and calms the body.

In this episode Stephanie shares real stories and antidotes and guides you through techniques that will release tension and help you to feel better both physically and emotionally. When you are in absolute overwhelm it can be difficult to change your habits but Stephanie has broken these habits into small bite size achievable routines. Stephanie's website is stephaniedalfonzo.com

In times of crisis such as a breakup you need to find techniques and ways to deal with your emotions, if you don't it is very easy to fall deeper into despair. Its not easy to move on when you are experiencing grief, stress and anxiety. In this episode Stephanie Dalfonzo explores the three P's of pessimism that will keep you in a negative state of mind if you don't work on making the simple shifts in your thought process to create lasting changes for the better.

When you are going through a breakup it can be difficult to find gratitude, however if you end your day thinking of the things that you are grateful for then sleep may come a little easier for you. If you spend your time imagining the worst and focusing on what you don't want and what might happen, then that is what will happen, you are attracting more negativity into your life. If you make small changes in your life, stopping the cycle of negativity you will move forward. You can find out more about Stephanie @ stephaniedalfonzo.com and her 4 coping skills link @ stephaniedalfonzo.com/4-coping-skills/

Accepting that your relationship is over and making the necessary adjustments to your life can be difficult. It's human nature to resist change and to cling to comfort. However the more you resist the breakup, the harder it will be to heal and move on and the easier it will be to fall into depression and anxiety. Learning how to accept a breakup you didn't want or expect doesn't mean you have to resign yourself to being single or unhappy for the rest of your life. In this episode I offer some tips and ideas for you to take action and reclaim your identity so you can experience a bright future, heal and move on after your breakup.

Karen Covy is a divorce advisor, mediator, lawyer and divorce coach and her number one tip for people who are going through a divorce is to understand and educate yourself on what you are facing at the front end of your breakup so you will make better decisions during the process. In this episode Karen also shares the top three fears people experience when they are going through their breakups. Fear of not having enough money, fear of how the breakup will affect the children and fear that they will be alone for the rest of their lives. Karen also explores why you should set a goal or an outcome for what you want at the end the breakup process so you can better negotiate and accomplish what you set out to achieve by focusing on what is important to you. Karen's website is

https://karencovy.com