What happens after betrayal turns your life upside down? In this hope-filled episode, Amie and Alana talk with author and expert Tammy Gustafson, LPC, whose new book Broken to Brave maps out the four phases of healing after intimate betrayal.

Together they explore:

• Why early urgency (“Should I stay or go?”) can derail healing

• What the nervous system needs after relational trauma

• Why trust isn't yours to “give back” — it’s his to earn

• The most common places betrayed partners get stuck

• How post-traumatic growth reshapes your entire sense of self

Connect with Tammy:

• Tammy’s website

• Broken to Brave book

Chapters

02:17 Shock and Overwhelm04:21 Why Slowing Down Matters05:19 Stay or Go? 08:08 The Rumble16:47 Trusting Too Soon20:51 He Broke It - He Has to Fix It21:49 What Betrayed Partners Can Control24:02 Post-Traumatic Growth27:43 Permission to Heal Your Way29:49 Rise, Renew, and Restore Retreat

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• Season of Support - Join us for a 4-week webinar series designed specifically for couples who want to stay connected, emotionally regulated, and intentional during the holidays — rather than simply surviving them. December 1, 8, 15, 22. Register to receive the Zoom link.

• Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 

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