Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It’s different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we’ll call Lisa — she was tortured her husband’s lying. Lisa found out about her husband’s affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her question if what her husband was saying was in fact was he was doing.

Join me and relationship coach and founder of Soulify Wellness, Beth Miller to talk about what happens when a cheating partner says they’re committed to fixing the marriage, but acts with the same suspicious, inconsistent, red flag behavior they’ve always had. Lisa is here to share her story.

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For President's Day we are featuring one of our favorite past episodes.

My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks about his guilt and deep self loathing for having this 16 year affair, and about his quandary: should he leave his affair partner who appeared to be falling apart? This is a guilt ridden, shamed and fragile man. Join me to hear his story.

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You find out your spouse has been living a secret life with an affair partner for 4 years while you suffer in your barren, sexless marriage that you hold together for the kids. You immediately file for divorce. Now you’re free and you rediscover your sexuality and erotic fantasies with a new, sexy partner. Sounds dreamy right? Nope. For my guest whom we’ll call Laura, her new relationship became her biggest nightmare: so horrible, so unimaginably awful she’s convinced she can get never find love again. What happens when your new relationship starts to feel as traumatic as your soon-to-be-ex husband’s affair? Join me, marriage coach Beth Miller of soulifywellness and our guest Laura to find out. Be a guest on the show:

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A cheating husband who is remorseful, openly apologetic and more committed to his wife than ever: that’s just one of my guests today. My other guest is his wife who forgives her husband and believes that their marriage is finally a “real marriage” ever since he’s confessed, become sober and committed to intense therapy.

But before this couple got here, the husband (whom we’ll call Greg) did something so outrageous, so manipulative and so underhanded to try and hide his affair, that it’s worthy of cinematic screenplay. In fact his wife Brenda (not her real name) said:

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Turn your mess into your message.

My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart.

But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess and turned it into her message. Join me to hear her journey of turning heart break and betrayal into a unique and thriving relationship app. Clara for Daters is an app that you can use to radically transform and enhance how you date and evaluate your romantic relationships.

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This week we are bringing back a fan favorite. You think you're in a committed relationship. You and your boyfriend are nesting with his daughter and living as a family in what feels like a dream. Then one day your boyfriend is killed in a tragic accident. Overcome with grief, you host his memorial service only to find out that several of the women attending are also in a relationship with your boyfriend. This real life tragedy happened to country music sensation, Stephanie Quayle. Stephanie shares her story in her album called “On The Edge.” Join me to hear this deeply emotional story of cheating, grief and betrayal that Stephanie has kept silent for more than 12 years.

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For years the buzzword was attracting, as in “you attract the partner you have in your life.”

Then the term “manifesting” took over, and suddenly everyone was trying to manifest everything from a dream job to a faithful partner.

But what if deep down your subconscious was on overdrive pulling you toward that person who awakens your childhood abandonment issues, triggers your trauma bond, and then eventually cheats on you! My guest today is relationship pattern expert, Dr. Sajad Vahedi. He helps clients to stop acting out toxic behaviors in a promising relationship by using what he calls a Schema Framework. This Schema Framework ends the toxic patterns, freeing clients to build healthy, intimate, infidelity free relationships. Dr. Vahedi wants to celebrate 2024! Go to his Instagram @drsajadvahedi to find out about limited complimentary sessions he’s making available to

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Think about the chaos that ensues from any love triangle. Is it two people vying for one person’s love, or (at times) is it a melodrama that distracts people from their legitimate life problems? How many times is an affair, whether we are a cheater or a betrayed partner, just a means of distracting ourselves from real hurt and pain in other parts of our lives?

My guest Sandy may be emblematic of this. Sandy invests so much time and energy into her live-in cheating boyfriend even though something immeasurably more important in her life demands her full attention. Is Sandy chasing love or just a dramatic distraction to ease her deep pain? Be a guest on the show:

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Tom "The Suit" Forst has been touring the world as what one critic calls a "blues ass-kicker" for decades. He's traveled the world without his wife as a blues musician and before that as "a suit" in the corporate world. Because of this, Tom has an up close and personal view of how tempting cheating and affairs on the road can be. In our talk, Tom gets vulnerable, raw, and very real as he shares anecdotes about life on the road, and reveals how infidelity has at times become a theme in his music. Fans of Tom "The Suit" Forst will also hear snippets from his latest album the "World Of Broken Hearts".

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Josh and Sharon are two formerly married people whose spouses cheated on them. Before they were married, Sharon’s husband covered up the truth about his debts and failing finances. Then after they married, her husband started an affair with a woman he invited to Sharon’s baby shower. Josh’s wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage. He was devastated and disillusioned by this infidelity, and yet his marriage counselors told him he had no grounds to leave the mariage. Josh and Sharon both lived through the pain of an affair, but just like the blessings of the Holiday season, they unexpectedly found joy and hope after one of the most heartbreaking experiences of their lives. Their stories are a true holiday inspiration! Be a guest on the show:

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