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Episode 130 - Withdrawing from a Relationship

The fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal.

When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and are no longer giving our energy to the relationship. 

Here’s a question you can ask yourself: Have I ever withdrawn from a relationship? How did I get to the point of withdrawing?

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

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Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 129 - Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4

The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding approval and affection, or even punishing in a physically harmful way. 

We are designed for human connection, and we are designed to want our independence and agency. The problem is we don’t know how to get both of those things at the same time. We either give up our independence or we cut ourselves off from others. 

To begin working on correcting this losing strategy, ask yourself the following questions:

1.       When was the last time I withheld affection or approval from someone I love? 

2.       How did I feel after I did that? 

3.       What was I trying to get? 

4.       Did I get what I wanted?

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

CLICK HERE to set up your call

 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 128 Unbridled Self-expression

The third Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Unbridled Self-expression. When you were growing up, was there someone in your home who ruled the atmosphere of the home with the way their words or emotions came spilling out? What was that like for you?

When we allow ourselves to let words and emotions come spilling out onto the people around us, it drives people away, and it gets us the opposite of what we want. Unbridled self-expression is an attempt to get control in a relationship, but if we end up with any control at all, it is a surface level control, not a more connected relationship. 

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

CLICK HERE to set up your call

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 127 - The Sneaky Ways You Are Trying to Control Other People

Part 2 of Losing Relationship Strategies is all about how we try to control the way other people think of us, the way we try to control what other people do, and how we are trying to control situations in our lives because we can’t handle our own anxieties about things not going the way we want them to. 

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

 

If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship. 

CLICK HERE to set up your call

 

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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126 - Needing to be Right

Our brains have a natural need to be right, and that comes from the way we take in our experiences and make meaning of them. We each have a different way of taking in experiences and how we make meaning of them, and that works directly against forming strong relationship connections with others when we fight for our view of the world and refuse to see an alternative view. 

Needing to be right and fighting for that right is one of the losing relationship strategies I’ll be covering the next few weeks. This is part 1 of a 7-part series on Losing Relationship Strategies. 

I’ll be teaching a class on what to do instead of using these losing strategies. The link to register for this class is coming next week.
 

Strategy Call

If you don’t want to wait for the class, set up a Strategy call with me. Use this call to try out coaching and see if it’s a good fit for you, or to work on one relationship problem you’re having. We’ll work for about an hour and you’ll walk away from this call with at least one, but probably two or three different strategies to begin using. I’ll help you to begin moving from transactional thinking to relational thinking. The price for this call will be going up April 2024. Schedule yours right now at the current low price of $25. 

CLICK HERE to set up your call

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 125 Finding the Progress in Your Life

This is part 4 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.

You can accomplish less than you think you’re supposed to in the short-term and much more than you think you can in the long-term.

Relationships are not sprints; they are marathons. Let time work on your side but show yourself how you are progressing along the way. This episode will show you how to do that. 

 

Want some help with what you’re learning in this 4-part series?

Download: The Step-by-Step Guide to Setting a Relationship Goal

I’ll walk you through each of the steps in this podcast series and I’ll give you a system for intentionally creating your day that only takes 5 minutes each day. 

 

Need some help in using this system? Set up a Strategy Call with me. I’m offering 24, 60-minute strategy calls in the first quarter of 2024. The current price is $25, but this price will increase in April 2024. 

CLICK HERE to schedule your Strategy Call

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 124 The What, How, and Why of Setting a Relationship Goal

This is part 3 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.

This episode gets down to the nitty-gritty of what to focus on, how to create a system that works, and how to stay focused on what you want to create and why. 

James Clear, author of “Atomic Habits” says:

“Focus on systems, not on goals. You will not rise to achieve your goals; you will fall to the level of your systems.”

When you focus on the system, your goal becomes an action item and feels more tangible. 

 

 

Want some help with what you’re learning in this 4-part series?

Download: The Step-by-Step Guide to Setting a Relationship Goal

I’ll walk you through each of the steps in this podcast series and I’ll give you a system for intentionally creating your day that only takes 5 minutes each day. 

 

Need some help in using this system? Set up a Strategy Call with me. I’m offering 24, 60-minute strategy calls in the first quarter of 2024. The current price is $25, but this price will increase in April 2024. 

CLICK HERE to schedule your Strategy Call

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 123 Who You Think You Are Determines What You Do

This is part 2 in a 4-part series on setting relationship goals.

This episode is all about using your identity – who you believe you are – to help you make the changes you want vs. trying to force yourself to behave differently than you have in the past. 

Working to change who you believe you are takes more work upfront, but the effects are much longer lasting than behavior changes.

 

Want some help with what you’re learning in this 4-part series?

Download: The Step-by-Step Guide to Setting a Relationship Goal

I’ll walk you through each of the steps in this podcast series and I’ll give you a system for intentionally creating your day that only takes 5 minutes each day. 

 

Need some help in using this goal-setting  system? Set up a Strategy Call with me. I’m offering 24, 60-minute strategy calls in the first quarter of 2024. The current price is $25, but this price will increase in April 2024. 

CLICK HERE to schedule your Strategy Call

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 122 - Setting a Relationship Goal with a Healthy Mindset

This is part 1 of a 4 part series on setting relationship goals. We often set goals from a place of lack or of feeling like we are not enough just as we are. This makes the journey to achieving the goal feel terrible, and we often get discouraged, give up, and then feel worse about ourselves.
In this episode, you'll learn what a healthy mindset looks like when you are setting goals.

Do you need help setting your relationship goal this year?
Download A Step by Step Guide to Setting Relationship Goals
I'll walk you through setting a goal, identifying what will be difficult in achieving the goal, and creating a strategy to overcome the obstacles.

Set up a Strategy Call with me and see what coaching is all about. We'll work on whatever you need help with and you'll leave this call with a clear plan about how to move forward. I'm offering 24 of these calls at the current price of $25. The price will go up in April 2024 or when all 24 calls are gone. Schedule yours today with the link below!

https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19366620&appointmentType=15222184

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Finding Joy Through Generosity - Most popular episodes of 2023

This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year in the "Finding Joy" series, which aired in April and May 2023.

This episode came in as the most popular episode of 2023 – Finding Joy through Generosity.

Want more balance and peace in your life? Want help managing your emotions? Sleeping better at night? Having more energy in the morning? Then you need to take my class – Breathing For Life! You can grab the class this month for only $29 (usually $49).

CLICK HERE to purchase the class

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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