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Episode 138 – What’s the Difference between Coaching and Therapy?

If you have been wondering what coaching is and how it differs from therapy, I dive into that topic in this episode. Therapy has been around for a long time, and many people are familiar with what therapy will help with. Coaching has been around for decades, but only in the last few years has become more common and mainstream. 

If you’re wanting help in your life, but aren’t sure whether to look into therapy or coaching, this episode is here to help you know more about each model and what direction you might want to go. 

Set up a free 30-minute consultation with me to see if coaching is right for you and if we are a good fit to work together. CLICK HERE TO SET UP YOUR FREE APPOINTMENT

 

The Difficult Conversation Guide

In this guide, I’ll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You’ll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. 

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Have a difficult conversation with your husband

Have a difficult conversation with your adult child

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 137 – Have a Difficult Conversation without Your Emotions Taking Over

If you’ve been putting off having a conversation because you get emotional and forget what you want to say, or you break down, or anger takes over, this episode is for you.

It’s most likely no one ever taught you how to talk about difficult topics. It’s also probably likely that no one taught you healthy emotional management skills. If those two things are true for you, stop shaming yourself for not being able to express yourself in the way you want to, and listen to this episode to get some help.

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If you’re wanting to have a difficult conversation with another person, but your emotions take over and you can’t say what you want to say without getting angry or breaking down crying, download:

The Difficult Conversation Guide

In this guide, I’ll help you know what to do before, during, and after the conversation. You’ll also learn some amazing, and easy to learn emotional management skills that you can use long after this conversation is over. 

Click here to download:

Have a difficult conversation with your husband

Have a difficult conversation with your adult child

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Links mentioned in this episode:

Episode 137 – Is it Conflict or Contention?

Episode 127 -Losing Strategy #3 - Unbridled Self-expression

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Episode 136 - A Different View of Forgiveness

Are you someone who gets stuck in thoughts about how you’ve been hurt and have trouble letting go of that hurt? If that’s you, this is your episode. 

In this episode, I’ll give you a different view of why you might be stuck and how to begin moving forward.

Want help processing your difficult emotions so you can get unstuck and finally let that hurt go and move on? Let’s work on this together. Set up a 90-minute coaching call with me and let’s work on it together. You’ll feel so much better after this call.

CLICK HERE to set up your call

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Are you putting off having a difficult conversation because you get emotional every time you try to express yourself? Maybe you cry, or get angry, or say things you regret later, so you avoid having difficult conversations.

If this is you, download The Difficult Conversation Guide!

In this guide, I’ll walk you through how to prepare yourself for the conversation, what to do during and after the conversation. And you’ll also learn some pretty useful emotional management skills that will help you long after the conversation is over. 

CLICK HERE to download The Difficult Conversation Guide – how to have a conversation with your adult child.

CLICK HERE to download The Difficult Conversation Guide – how to have a conversation with your husband.

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 135 - Developing Differentiation with Gina - Client Spotlight

Differentiation is the ability to hold onto who we are in an authentic way when we are staying in connection with other people and doing that in an emotionally and mentally mature way. 

My client, Gina, has been working on developing the skill of Differentiation, and has made so much progress, I want to highlight her and let her share her experience and some of her journey.

Gina shares why she decided she wanted to work on this particular skill, some of the difficulties she went through, and what was especially helpful to her. 

I hope this episode is helpful to you as you go on your own journey in your family relationships. 

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 134 - How to Not Take Your Hard Week Out on Your Family

Have you had a hard week? Do you feel depleted and have nothing left to give? Has your brain and/or body shut down because you just can’t do any more than you’re already doing?

If this is you, listen to this episode for five things you can do right now to begin taking care of yourself. 

You don’t need to take an expensive vacation, go shopping, or get a massage (unless you really want to!). What you really need when it’s been a hard week, is to do a different type of self-care. This is the kind you can do to take care of yourself every day. And these five things will help you increase your capacity to handle the stress of life.

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 133 – Is it Conflict or Contention?

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but contention is not. What do you do when you find yourself in conflict with a member of your family? The way you view them and you will determine if you’re escalating into contention. In this episode, I review the Gottman Institute’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Each of these horseman are red flags that you’re relationship is heading (or already is) in a contentious state 

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Episode 132 – Defensiveness

The seventh Losing Strategy is being defensive. When we get defensive, we are going to war with the other person. We put on our armor and we gather our weapons. Defensiveness comes from our inability or our refusal to take a look at ourselves and self-confront. It is also one of the 4 horsemen the Gottman’s have identified as red flags in a relationship.

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

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March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 131 – Resentful or Costly Accommodation

The sixth Losing Strategy is Resentful or Costly Accommodation. This happens when we collapse who we are into what we think other people want us to be. We deny our own needs and desires, and we give up or refuse to look at what is important to us. Resentment can easily set in when we give us so much of ourselves and deny our own needs. 

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

CLICK HERE to set up your call

 

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 130 - Withdrawing from a Relationship

The fifth Losing Relationship Strategy in this series is – Withdrawal.

When we withdraw from a relationship, we are disinvesting in it. When we are criticizing and fighting, we are still invested in the relationship. Withdrawal is a sign that we’ve given up and are no longer giving our energy to the relationship. 

Here’s a question you can ask yourself: Have I ever withdrawn from a relationship? How did I get to the point of withdrawing?

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

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If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

CLICK HERE to set up your call

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 129 - Punishment and Retaliation – Losing Strategy #4

The fourth losing relationship strategy is Punishment and retaliation. This can show up in covert and overt ways, but at its core, we turn ourselves into a victim of the other person and we are then feeling justified in withholding approval and affection, or even punishing in a physically harmful way. 

We are designed for human connection, and we are designed to want our independence and agency. The problem is we don’t know how to get both of those things at the same time. We either give up our independence or we cut ourselves off from others. 

To begin working on correcting this losing strategy, ask yourself the following questions:

1.       When was the last time I withheld affection or approval from someone I love? 

2.       How did I feel after I did that? 

3.       What was I trying to get? 

4.       Did I get what I wanted?

 

If you want to begin learning some winning relationship strategies, register for my upcoming class:

Healthy Relationships from the Inside Out

March 21, 11:00am MDT

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER

 

If you don’t want to wait for the class, schedule a Strategy Call with me. This is a one-time introductory coaching call, not a sales call. We’ll spend about an hour discussing your issue and you’ll leave with at least one, probably two or three strategies to begin using in your relationship

CLICK HERE to set up your call

 

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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