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Episode 119

This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year with Clarice Paulson and Caleb Price. It was part of the Know, Love, Grow series that aired January, February, March 2023.

This episode came in 3rd in the most popular episodes of 2023 – Knowing your Young Adult, with Caleb Price and Clarice Paulson. Caleb and Clarice are two very honest young adults (who also happen to be coaches) and they are very vulnerable as they open up to a very specific question I asked them. 

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 118

This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year with Leah Davidson. It was part of the Know, Love, Grow series that aired January, February, March 2023. 

This episode came in 4th in the most popular episodes of 2023 – Expectations and Your Family Members, with Leah Davidson

Want more balance and peace in your life? Want help managing your emotions? Sleeping better at night? Having more energy in the morning? Then you need to take my class – Breathing For Life! You can grab the class this month for only $29 (usually $49).

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Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 117

This is a rebroadcast of an episode recorded earlier this year with Aimee Gianni. It was part of the Know, Love, Grow series that aired January, February, March 2023. 

This episode came in 5th in the most popular episodes of 2023 – Finding Love for Who You Are, with Aimee Gianni

Want more balance and peace in your life? Want help managing your emotions? Sleeping better at night? Having more energy in the morning? Then you need to take my class – Breathing For Life! You can grab the class this month for only $29 (usually $49).

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Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

Grab your copy here: DOWNLOAD THE GUIDE

Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 116: How to stop yelling; When other people are offended; My mother is mean – Ask Me Anything Series

Another “Ask Me Anything” podcast where listeners send in their questions to be answered on the podcast. 

Here are the questions asked and answered this week:

Question 1:

You talk a lot about slowing down and I’m having trouble doing that. I have 3 kids under the age of 12. Probably once each day, something happens and I get really upset with them and start yelling, and once I get that out of my system, I feel better, but I also feel worse for how I acted. I think it’s a cycle I don’t know how to break, but I really want to break it. It’s my family that gets most of my anger and I don’t want to keep doing this to them. I can see that they’re afraid of me, but I literally don’t know how to stop. How do I slow down and not yell? 

Question 2:

I am a “tell it how it is” kind of person. I don’t sugar coat anything, I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad, but recently I had a situation where I was in charge of an event at church and I heard that some of the people I was working with were offended. Now I don’t know what to do. I don’t want people to be offended, but this is just how I am. 

Question 3:

My mother is so mean. She says the meanest things to me and then tells me I’m too sensitive when I get upset and tell her she’s hurt my feelings. She tells me I just need to get over it and move on. It’s gotten to the point where I think I need to limit the time I spend with her, or maybe even not see her for awhile. I just can’t take it when she gets to say whatever she wants to and then chalk it up to “This is just the way I am.” And then I feel terrible and am told there’s something wrong with me and I should stop feeling what I’m feeling. I want to have a good relationship with her, but if this keeps happening, I can’t see a future that we can keep going on this way.

Links mentioned in this podcast:

Breathing for Lif

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 115 - Improving Your Relationship with Your Spouse, Being Afraid for Your Kids - Part 3 of the Ask Me Anything Series

Today’s questions:

Question 1:

What does “Clean up your own side of the street” mean. You say this a lot and I’m not sure what you mean or how to do it. 

Question 2: 

If I were going to do one thing that would help me have a better relationship with my partner, what would it be?

Question 3:

I have 3 kids who are 10, 15, and 17, and I am so afraid for them. I’m watching what is happening with our youth right now and how so many of them are leaving their family’s religion. I know I have good kids and I can’t imagine they would decide to leave, but I’ve seen other kids that I know are really good kids that are leaving, so I feel like there are no guarantees. What can I do to help them?

Links I referenced in this episode:

How 2 Love Your Marriage with Aimee Gianni

CLICK HERE

Episode 81 “Know Yourself Through Self-confrontation”

To submit your question to be answered on the podcast:

CLICK HERE

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode #114 - Parenting Problems and Cleaning Up Your Own Side of the Street, Ask Me Anything Series

Today’s podcast consists of questions sent in by listeners. I answer 2 parenting questions:

Question #1

My son is 18 and has challenges with alcohol and nicotine. He is masking his challenges and feelings by checking out of life with both of those. My daughter is 16 and is questioning her faith. She has stopped going to church. I need some help recognizing how to build a better relationship with both of them. They’ve built up many walls and we don’t really communicate much at all. I don’t know what to do next. 

Question #2

I need some help rebuilding the relationship with my adult son. He’s created perceptions in his mind about who I am, and they are not correct. It’s damaging our relationship. I’ve already tried asking more questions, being less judgmental, and showing more love, but it’s not working. I think I need help in finding acceptance for myself and him. 

Links I referenced in the podcast:

Submit a question to be answered on the podcast:

Link for questions

Episode 74: The Pyramid of Influence with Brent Bartel

Episode #18 Parents Hardest Questions Answered

Episode #63 Processing Emotions

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Episode 113 – Expectation Frustration and Processing Emotions

In today’s podcast, I’ll be answering the following questions:

1.       I’m so disappointed in my wife. She is so disorganized and I feel like I’m picking up the slack when I get home from work. If she would be better about having the stuff like the laundry done, picking up the kids toys, having dinner made before I get home, I wouldn’t be so mad. I get so frustrated when I come home every day and it’s the same thing over and over again. This has been going on for years now and it’s just getting worse. What should I do to get her more organized?

2.       I have 5 kids and 3 of them don’t go to church anymore. The other 2 are on the fence and honestly I’m not sure where they will end up. We have a daughter that is gay and she has a partner we love. I’m not struggling with my kids not going to church or having a gay daughter. I still go to church and it’s so hard for me to listen to how other people talk about LGBTQ people. They say the most judgmental things and the worst part of it is that they don’t even hear the words that are coming out of their own mouth and how judgmental and mean they sound. I leave church in tears most of the time. I get emotional when I speak up, and I know if I said something back to the people making rude comments, that I would just cry the whole way through. I don’t know what to do. I feel like the church is my spiritual home, but I don’t feel welcome in my home anymore. It’s a painful place to be. I’m not sure what my question is, but I just want to feel better.

I’ll be running this “Ask Me Anything” series for the month of November 2023. To submit your question and get an answer on the podcast, CLICK HERE

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 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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112: Boundaries – When, What, How?

Boundaries are tricky. We are afraid to make them because we don’t want to risk the relationship, but we’re so angry, resentful, fearful, that we’re doing damage to the relationship by not setting them. Listen to this episode for the when, what, and how of boundaries to help you out. 

Do you have a relationship problem you don’t know how to fix? I’ll be running a new series on this podcast in November, which is the “Ask Me Anything” series. Click below to submit a question and get an answer on the podcast. And (of course) you can remain completely anonymous. 

Ask Me Anything

Boundaries:

Take aways:

1.       Use boundaries sparingly. Usually what you want is for someone else to be different. Unless this is threatening your physical, emotional, mental, spiritual health in some way, it’s probably not a boundary issue.

2.       The strongest, most secure relationships have strong boundaries because boundaries require taking responsibility for yourself, and inviting the other person to take responsibility for themselves. It might be difficult at first to put those in place, but in the long run, you’re strengthening a relationship, not weakening it. 

Challenge:

If you want to practice setting a boundary, start with setting one for yourself. If you’re like most people I coach, you have an inner narrator who is not very nice to you. In fact, that narrator can be downright mean. 

Ask yourself, “Would I let someone else talk to me this way?” I hope your answer is NO. You can say to yourself, “When I hear the mean inner narrator say something not nice, I will tell them, “When you talk to me like that, I will tell myself 3 reasons what you are saying is not true.” Or “When you say mean things to me, I’m going to take 3 deep breaths and remind you that I don’t listen to that anymore.” 

This is the inside-out approach and this is the be

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

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Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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111 - Five Things to Focus on When Your Child Leaves your Faith

When your child leaves the faith you raised them in, it is easy to get caught up in the emotions of fear, worry, sadness, or even anger. None of these emotions will be helpful for you to build and nurture your relationship with your child. Listen to this episode to know where to put your focus instead. 

Listen to the podcast: Processing Emotions

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We’ll be working on how to have more control over your emotional responses to life, how to establish a breathing routine every day in just 10 minutes, how to manage stress and anxiety.

One of the reasons we think the way that we do is because we aren’t managing our emotional responses to our lives, and then our brain is going crazy with those thought tornados, which then leads us to feel more stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and then that affects our thoughts, and the cycle continues. 

A few minutes of breathing every day can really help. 

There are very few body functions we can directly control in order to change how we are feeling. Changing the way we are breathing is one of those. It’s huge. Don’t miss out on this workshop!

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The Five Things to Focus on When Your Child Leaves the LDS Church:

5. Be a safe place

4. Move in closer

3. Stay at the tree

2. Focus on the good fruit

1. Deal with yourself first

Download the Free Guide:
 “The 3-Step Solution to Keeping Your Cool Around Family Holiday Drama”
 Holidays can stir up old patterns and emotions—this guide will help you stay grounded and respond with grace.

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Ready to learn how to manage your emotional reactions? Calm Core is your guide:

Being able to manage your emotional reactions to others is a vital step in repairing family relationships

CLICK HERE TO SEE CALM CORE

Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs.
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Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.
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