In today's episode, I am going to share with you my truest love and deepest fear. It's an exercise that I am going to share with you to help you get to the root of your more controlling beliefs. I'll talk about how these beliefs have played out in my relationships and why I’ve tied so much of my self-worth to attention. I get into the dark side of empathy, how being nice isn’t the same as being authentic, and why so many of the things we think we’re doing out of love are actually driven by fear. I share stories from clients navigating back to friendship when they used to include benefits. I'll discuss how to sit with and handle old traumas while dating or trying to find new partners. If you’ve ever felt invisible, overlooked, or not chosen, this is for you.

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Chapters

00:00 Empathy vs Fear

16:01 Deepest Fear vs Deepest Love Exercise

35:54 Single So Long Now You're Avoidant

42:54 Managing Triggers With Someone New

Some endings aren't meant to be rewritten. In this episode, I get into why it’s so tough to let go and why “spinning the block” usually leads to more chaos. I'll discuss how to find emotionally equipped partners, what it means when a man asks you to hang out but never follows through, and the harsh reality of why holding onto "what used to be" keeps you stuck. If you’ve ever needed the truth about whether that spark is real or just a trauma bond, you are about to get it.

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Chapters

00:00 Waiting For Commitment

25:33 When They Spin the Block

32:45 How to Find Someone Healed

41:47 “I Want to See You” But No Action

48:34 Intense Spark or Trauma Bond?

This week was a rollercoaster, dates, ghosting, old patterns showing up, and life testing tf out me. I follow up about the girl I went out with and how I still felt the energy was off, even though it looked good on paper. I'll give you guys a tool for how to digest a date, which will help you understand your experience. Then I get into a wild story about a four-hour FaceTime that went from “book a flight” to getting ghosted over lowercase letters. This episode is about slowing down, letting go of chasing attention, and learning how to handle rejection even when it's coming in bunches.

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Are you ready to face yourself head-on? Today, I’m breaking down the discomfort and self-doubt that come with being on your own: the second-guessing, the weekends that feel too quiet, and the moments you want to run back to them for comfort. I talk about early-stage dating anxiety, how your avoidance sneaks into both relationships and work, and why relying on someone to “save” you is the fastest way to lose yourself (and them). Plus, I answer a listener’s question on knowing when to walk away from an avoidant partner, especially when their words don’t match their actions.

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Ever catch yourself spiraling in overthinking just to realize it all comes down to a single feeling? In today’s episode, I’m getting brutally honest about why so many of us can’t hear ourselves clearly. We’re so stuck in our heads, chasing validation, playing games, and managing other people’s emotions that we completely ignore how we actually feel. I tell my story about picking up a girl in public, why I almost didn’t text her, and how that moment exposed just how deeply I’ve rejected myself. Plus, I break down what real self-trust actually looks like, why most people are living lives they don’t even like, and how to start making choices that are driven by your body, not your ego.

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I’ve always struggled to stand firm in my decisions. I used to see my trust issues as something outward, without realizing it was never about them ... it was always about me. Today, I'll share my breakthroughs on my journey to building genuine self-trust. I talk about how ego, fear, and expectation can keep us trapped in relationships and situations we don’t actually want to be in. I’ll give you examples from two of my clients, one who’s been struggling to let go of a relationship, and one who feels the pressure of finding marriage while the clock’s ticking. It’s not easy to take the world on alone, but I’ll share how I’ve learned to sit in the discomfort and overcome ego even when it's begging you to run back.

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I’ve been sitting with a lot of uncomfortable emotions this week. It’s hard not to feel some resistance when experiencing major change in your life. I’ve been learning to let go, surrender to how people show up, and recognize that building the most secure version of yourself takes time. I talk about what it means to really let go of safety, and why so many of us cling to relationships that don’t align with what we want. This episode is a wake-up call to let go of anything that is stopping you from receiving what you desire deep down.

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I took this solo trip thinking it would be like a peaceful little reset. But instead, it turned into so much more. This emotional rollercoaster cracked me open in a way I didn’t expect. I talk about what it was like being isolated, completely surrounded by people, having to surrender to all the anxiety and loneliness, and it honestly changed everything for me. As I sat there with all these feelings and finally let them go, something insane happened! This one moment forced me to look at the relationship I was already in and face some hard-ass questions: Am I in this because it feels good and safe, or am I avoiding the truth that it’s not actually what I want? I'll be honest, this part of the story gets messy, but I guess that is for you to judge...

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Chapters

00:00 An Avoidant Takes a Solo Trip (A Wild Ride)

1:04:55 Not Holding Guilt After Showing Up Anxious in Your Relationship

I’ve been realizing how deep my avoidance runs, how I try to control everything just to avoid getting hurt. I talk about a moment this week that really triggered me, some shit came up in my relationship, and I was ready to dip … in the moment I realized that I had to sit with it and be like … am I actually scared of her, or am I scared of being loved? I discuss how I’ve been stuck in the cycle of pushing love away while still craving it, how fear of abandonment has shaped my whole routine, and why I keep people at a distance even when I don’t want to.

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There’s nothing more devastating to your relationships than your own ego. In this episode, I’m breaking down the patterns that keep us stuck in comparison, insecurity, and why nothing ever feels like enough. I’m sharing how I’ve been navigating my own ego, including a real story about an uncomfortable moment in my relationship. I also get into what to do when you’ve outgrown certain friendships or relationships, and why checking your partner’s IG following might say more about you than them. This is a full breakdown on self-trust, ego, and learning how to stop needing external validation.

Chapters:

00:00 Ego Is Lying to You

39:58 How to Navigate Relationships You've Outgrown

49:19 Checking Their IG Following: Harmless or Insecure?

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