You can change, but really how much? In this episode, I share my vulnerable feelings about my current dating life, where I am, how I got here, and why I would describe myself as "serial monogamous without dating." I'll describe how I am doing the work to combat my avoidance, become more grounded, and set myself up for finding genuine love. I also unpack how much your upbringing impacts who you are and how to change the patterns that keep you stuck. It's real, it's funny, and it's personal.

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When you treat a man well and you're consistent, they don't like you, but the ones you don't like are in love with you. What gives? This week, I break down dating's million-dollar question: Why are guys so interested in women who don't put in any effort? Is it attachment style or is it just how men are wired? I'll walk you through my full dissertation on the chase, value, and why we want what we can't have. I also answer a direct question about whether it's your avoidant attachment or if you're just not into them. You guys aren't going to want to miss this one.

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And just like that we are back baby. I went on my retreat, where I learned so much. I'll walk you through the whole experience, from being so down bad the week before I left (numbing myself hard), all the way through the cheese and mayo sandwiches we ate during the week, as well as the biggest takeaways I had. My view of myself is different. I feel enlightened, my energy has shifted, and I know how to handle myself so much more. It was like summer camp for geeky men who want to deepen their understanding of self. The things I'll do for self-growth.

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Quick heads up, but I will be gone next week for a 7-day consciousness retreat. In this episode, I talk about going through scarcity in both relationships and finances, stressed nights where I can't sleep, and a book someone sent me about the power of the subconscious mind. I'll talk about self-discovery and how to use your most important currency (attention) to further understand yourself. I'll break down why it's so hard to change someone's perception of you, and if you should let your avoidant ex back in.

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What's more important your goals or your peace? Do you feel you can only have one or the other? Today I attack the difference between wanting and needing something, and the desire for success/relationships while still being grounded in the present. I also bought a DJ set I couldn't afford even with no end goal in sight. I answer listener questions about men not being intentional, hitting up your ex, and why dating feels insane right now.

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You don’t just want a relationship … you want a relationship with someone attractive, with solid values, who can actually meet you where you are. If you want that type of love you need to have a level of confidence that lives up to the request. In this episode, I'll talk about why I feel more confident than I've ever have (despite worse external results). I’ll break down the difference between being intentional versus calculated, why you need to get comfortable being misunderstood, and how to practice being vulnerable. I answer listener questions about early dating confidence, handling rejection, and overcoming the fear of being perceived. To be more comfortable being yourself, you got to be yourself.

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I was definitely yelling a little bit this episode, but sometimes you guys like that shit. I share a lot of great nuggets about living in the now and understanding how our mental fantasies keep us trapped. I talk about my recent feelings of disconnection and how I processed those emotions to understand where I needed to take a risk. I'll break down why you need to stop asking questions and start making statements about what you want, and how to navigate dating speed without losing yourself. Today, you will learn to ask the hard questions and get really honest about what you want.

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I used to feel so anxious and insecure. My life was filled with drama, but now I'm realizing it's hard to find many moments when I don't feel peace. In this episode, I'll talk about how every struggle in your life is self-inflicted, why drama isn't happening to you, and how to break free from the insecurity and anxiousness that is destroying your life. I'll address questions around rejection oversensitivity, comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, and why you keep attracting avoidant men.

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In this episode, we're going to start surface level, and then we're going to get deep. I start by talking about leaving corporate life and never looking back, then I'll reflect on a question about what men learn when they sleep around a lot. Then we get into the hard stuff. Why do you feel lonely? Why do you feel like a burden? I'll talk about the deep work of eliminating loneliness from your life and what it means to believe you're significant even when nobody's around. I'll break down the difference between living from survival versus wholeness, why you need to get comfortable with the mundane, and how to stop needing external validation to feel whole.

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What do you want? Not on the surface, I'm talking deep in your soul... In this episode, I'll talk about the uncomfortable introspection of being alone with yourself, how love is confused with attention, and what I believe love truly is. I'll talk about being honest with people even when it's hard, and how difficult it is to live in your truth. I answer listener questions about avoidant men wanting to be friends after they've already rejected a relationship, telling someone to their face that you're not that interested, and how to navigate your own feelings of insecurity when it comes to wanting and asking for commitment from your situationship.

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