What do you do when it seems like they want you but not a relationship? Or when they judge your past even though it had nothing to do with them? In this episode, I'll talk about setting boundaries even when it scares you, how to confidently slide into DMs (with some wild personal examples), and how to avoid letting your insecurities destroy your self-worth. I'll also cover how to reframe comparing new people to your ex for elevating your standards and what to do when they make it seem like they want you but not a relationship.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: A Listener Sets a Boundary

06:16 Guys Judging You For Your Past: Valid or Invalid?

19:50 Handling Your Insecurities in Relationships

27:09 How to Slide in the DMs

37:22 Reclaiming Standards After Being Left by Someone You Loved

50:56 They Want You But Not a Relationship

Ever feel like your relationship is amazing, only for reality to suddenly hit hard? In today's episode, I'm sharing my rollercoaster week filled with unexpected conflicts, triggering conversations, and deep emotional reflections. We'll unpack why relationships often shift after the honeymoon phase and how confronting issues head-on can either strengthen your bond or clarify your true needs.

Plus, I'm answering listener questions: How long is too long to wait for someone to commit, and are you settling out of loneliness or desperation? It's a brutally honest chat about boundaries, authentic communication, and knowing when to hold on or let go.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Is the Honeymoon Phase Over?

44:32 How to Know if it's Too Hasty to Move On From Someone'

51:07 Audience Question: Desperate When You're Lonely or Fresh Off a Break up

To be or not to be, commit or not to commit ... that is the question. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the different phases of commitment, the real dating timeline, and the characteristics of a potential genuine relationship. Then, I go on a giant rant about men following girls on Instagram: what’s normal, what’s shady, and when it’s a straight-up red flag. Also, I tackle a listener’s dilemma: why does she keep attracting men who are already taken? (Did someone say homewrecker?) Let’s go to work!

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: Commitment Timeline When Things Are Going Well

26:38 How Can I Tell Avoidant Man is Not Interested vs Needs More Time

43:09 Man's Perspective on Guys Following Girls on Instagram

58:14 If You Tend to Attract Men That Are Committed

Ever wonder why someone hesitates to commit, even when everything seems perfect? In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my struggles with commitment, exploring the fears, insecurities, and avoidant tendencies running through my brain. I discuss the myth of rushing into relationships and how true love demands patience and authenticity. I also tackle a listener's question about how to know when you're truly ready to date again after a toxic relationship (with an avoidant).

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro: How Long Should You Wait to Commit?

9:56 Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men | Inside the Mind of an Avoidant

55:20 How Do You Know You're Ready to Date Again After Dating An Avoidant?

Learning to let go and receive love is so underrated. It's a hidden hardship you must face if you're actually going to make a relationship work. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down a big question: How long does it take for a man to know if he likes you? We’re talking about the natural timeline of attraction, why rushing into relationships backfires, and the difference between genuine interest and love bombing.

Plus, I’m answering a listener's question about why showing up authentically can sometimes feel like chasing. Are you overperforming? Or are you just being real? Let’s get into it.

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Chapters:

00:00 Intro Receiving Love

10:33 How Long Does it Take a Guy to Like You

28:50 Why Does It Feel Like Chasing When I am Being My Authentic Self

53:40 When is Oversharing Too Much

Is that anxious feeling just your attachment issues flaring up, or is it a sign to walk away? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why avoidant people cycle in and out, when to communicate vs. when to cut someone off, and how to actually enforce your boundaries (without getting caught in the push-pull game). Plus, I’m answering a listener question about managing no-contact when you still have to see your ex every day.

Chapters

00:00 Welcome

3:00 When is the Right Time to Avoid Someone

39:13 Why Do Avoidant Men Ghost After Coming Back

49:59 Dealing With No Contact When You Still Have to See Them

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Ever feel like the harder you try, the worse it gets? Today's episode starts with a hard lesson in letting go of control and learning not to force anything in your life. Then, I tackle your submitted questions. Y'all provided some great ones, some sus ones, and everything in between.

I’ll give my two cents on why we all seem to measure every new person against our ex. Spoiler alert: it’s not a bad thing! I'll break down how to relax into dating, let things flow, and actually attract what’s right for you. We’re also getting into performance anxiety (in and out of the bedroom), the truth about healing before love, and whether texting your ex on their birthday is ever a good idea. And yes, we’re even talking about my worst pregnancy scare.

Plus, the real reason you should thank your ex (even if they sucked).

Chapters

00:00 No Forcing Things

15:18 Comparing People to Your Ex

26:07 How Many People I Have Gotten Pregnant

30:03 Would I Rather Date A Girl With A Big Personality or Chill One

35:20 Should You Text Your Ex For Their Birthday

41:21 Would I Rather Date Older or Younger

45:24 Overcome Performance Anxiety

50:24 Do You Need to Heal Before Entering the Right Relationship

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Do you get easily triggered? One of the biggest struggles that you will face in finding or maintaining secure relationships is a lack of awareness of how your past trauma affects your current reactions. I've always known that I could be reactionary, but I never really understood it until today. In today’s episode, I’m taking you inside the work I’ve done to break the cycle of fear, abandonment, and over-performance in relationships. We’re talking about understanding your emotional triggers, handling rejection with confidence, and why your fear of looking “needy” is keeping you stuck. Then, I’m reacting to some wild dating takes from Threads, I am going to break down the debate on whether healthy men are actually bad texters.

Chapters

00:00 - Breaking Free from Insecure Attachment

46:39 - Reacting to Wild Dating Takes on Threads

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Buckle up, it's avoidant attachment week. In today's episode, we are NOT talking about how to deal with an avoidant partner, but what to do if you ARE the avoidant partner! And let me tell you, many of you are more avoidant than you think you are. Let's get into what makes someone avoidant, why you struggle with intimacy, and how to finally find the love you have always wanted.Plus, I’m answering a listener’s question: How do you get to a place where you actually want to date again after a toxic relationship? Chapters00:00 Intro & Today’s Topic02:30 Signs You Might Be Avoidant10:15 How Avoidant Attachment Starts18:45 Why Avoidants Struggle in Relationships29:00 Breaking the Cycle40:45 Listener Question50:10 Final Thoughts & TakeawaysWork with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/⁠⁠

You start off mysterious, independent, and playing it cool—then you finally show real interest, and suddenly, they’re gone. What the hell happened? In today’s episode, I’m breaking down why people crave the chase, the science behind dopamine in dating, and why some people are addicted to uncertainty. You’ll learn why their mixed signals feel so intoxicating, how to spot the difference between real attraction and those who love to play the game and the mindset shift you need to stop taking rejection so personally.