Confidence

The talking stage: where red flags look green, and commitment is always just another day away. In this episode, I explore the science behind why we often lose our good judgment during this phase and why attachment tends to deepen after sex. Managing feelings during this phase can be challenging, so here are some steps to help you navigate the anxiety of dealing with uncertainty and hot-and-cold partners. Then, we have a most unexpected update on a long-standing story for the OG podcast listeners: the tea is hot.

17:11 Steps to Detach in the Talking Stage

41:25 An Update for The OG Podcast Listeners

What happens when you catch feelings for someone who might not see you the same? Do you share your true feelings or play it cool? In this episode, I share a story of catching quick feelings, noticing inconsistent behavior, and the hardship of sharing your vulnerability while trying to balance holding great boundaries. I then tackle your question on how to heal self-abandonment after experiencing losing yourself in an unhealthy relationship. Someone also submitted the statement, "I've worked on myself so much now I'm unrelatable and addicted to being alone." This week's audience question is about deciding if she should confront her ex on a major lie, which she found out after the breakup. Once you think you have it figured out, you probably don't, but that's okay because dating is fucking hard.

Are you stuck in a hot-and-cold relationship? Did they say they weren’t ready, but you still can’t seem to let go? Today, I’m going to help you get the power back! I will give the exact steps necessary to knock them off that pedestal and get the respect you deserve. I also got a question from a listener about what to feel if they do come back. We'll talk about the uncomfortable truth about power dynamics in relationships and how your worthiness dictates the energy you receive back from your partner. Plus, I’ll share some straight-up feedback on a situation from one of you where your end goal with your current partner isn’t lining up. If you’re feeling stuck, we’ll cover exactly how to move forward when you’re at a standstill.

00:00 How to Take the Power Back

26:36 Should You Take Them Back?

35:15 Audience Question

This week, I will take you through everything you need to know about anxious attachment. I start by describing how people might develop anxious attachments from childhood. From there, I’ll walk you through practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs, manage that hypervigilant inner voice, and learn to spot—and choose—more secure partners. I also get into why anxious people typically get caught in the negative dating cycle of meeting new people and never being chosen. Welcome to your wake-up call to lean into yourself, set better boundaries, and show up as a partner worthy of love.

You asked me, "If an avoidant is hot and cold... saying he loves me, then ghosting me... is there any way to get his initial version back and rekindle the relationship? He reminds me of you, Chris."

Yikes!! (Spoiler alert: You're not wrong!!)

This week’s episode is a full deep dive into avoidant attachments and the nuances of dealing with an avoidant partner.

I start by breaking down the two types of avoidants: disorganized/fearful avoidant versus dismissive avoidant. I'll explain their differences and how you might develop these attachment styles. I also open up with a very personal story about my own experience leading to my own avoidant tendencies.

From there, I'll give you the full playbook on communicating and setting boundaries effectively with an avoidant partner. Together, I will help you determine if getting your relationship back on track with an avoidant is possible.

If you're currently dealing with an avoidant—or see yourself in the avoidant attachment style—you’re going to love this episode.

Being single ain't easy, but you know what’s even harder? Thinking that being single means you can’t be happy. In this episode, I dive into the toughest parts of being single and how to handle them. We’ll talk about the discomfort of sleeping alone, the lack of intimacy, the fear of never finding your person, comparing yourself to others, and—most importantly—how to fall in love with your life as deeply as possible.I also follow up on a question from the last episode about motivated men.Yeah, it can feel lonely sometimes, but I’d rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn't feel like home.

13:30 Overcoming the Hardships of Being Single

25:16 Sleeping Alone

39:02 Lack of S*x

43:36 Fear of settling vs. not finding a relationship

50:15 Biological Clock and Comparison

58:07 How to Love Yourself

As much as I have always been genuine and authentic on this podcast, there have been some things I have been resisting discussing. This week, I share my true, vulnerable feelings and experiences that I have neglected to open up about. I then get into your questions; we are going to be talking about how to find the cl*t, strategies for short kings looking to cuff, my biggest first date turn-off, and a situation where a woman is trying to understand why her soul mate who has so much potential will not get it together. I don't love showing my less positive emotions, but it is time I drop the ego and take off the mask.

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This week, I asked you, "What's your #1 value in a relationship?" But before we dive into that, have you ever wondered how to stop attracting toxic partners? I’ve got the solution. In this episode, I walk you through a powerful exercise that uses your past relationships to help you uncover your dating blind spots. Turns out, those toxic partners taught us something after all!We’ll also talk about the top values women want in a man and how we can align your behaviors to receive them. Plus, I tackle some big questions like: Why does a man who seemed so nice suddenly turn cold and defensive? How can we communicate better? And do men really sabotage relationships to protect themselves?There's a lot to unpack, so grab your journal, and let’s get into it!

22:41 Women’s number one value in relationships

36:19 Audience Question: Men Struggling to Communicate

47:48 Do men really self-sabotage to protect themselves?

In this episode, we cover three main limiting beliefs when it comes to relationships. These include finding a balance between independence and dependence, trust issues, and giving too much energy but not receiving it. We then talk about the taxi cab theory, debunking any myths and affirming the truths that come with it. Men aren’t capable of commitment and women are jaded… who’s to blame?

Chapters

00:00 Limiting Beliefs in Relationships 

48:23 Taxi Cab Theory

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In this episode, we explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery, growth, and independence. We'll share powerful insights on building a life you love without waiting for a partner, finding joy in your company, and using this period to pursue your passions and goals unapologetically. We’ll In this episode, I'll explore how to be genuinely happy while single, embracing this time as an opportunity for self-discovery. I share my 3 step method to align your mindset and actions during this period of your life for maximum growth and peace. I then take on audience questions regarding intellectual stimulation, someone's fiance missing her birthday, and my thoughts on eating ass. It is time you embrace the singlehood and create a life for yourself that is 100% unapologetically you.

Chapters

1:01 How to be Happy While Single

43:46 Audience Questions

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