Confidence

I used to feel so anxious and insecure. My life was filled with drama, but now I'm realizing it's hard to find many moments when I don't feel peace. In this episode, I'll talk about how every struggle in your life is self-inflicted, why drama isn't happening to you, and how to break free from the insecurity and anxiousness that is destroying your life. I'll address questions around rejection oversensitivity, comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, and why you keep attracting avoidant men.

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In this episode, we're going to start surface level, and then we're going to get deep. I start by talking about leaving corporate life and never looking back, then I'll reflect on a question about what men learn when they sleep around a lot. Then we get into the hard stuff. Why do you feel lonely? Why do you feel like a burden? I'll talk about the deep work of eliminating loneliness from your life and what it means to believe you're significant even when nobody's around. I'll break down the difference between living from survival versus wholeness, why you need to get comfortable with the mundane, and how to stop needing external validation to feel whole.

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What do you want? Not on the surface, I'm talking deep in your soul... In this episode, I'll talk about the uncomfortable introspection of being alone with yourself, how love is confused with attention, and what I believe love truly is. I'll talk about being honest with people even when it's hard, and how difficult it is to live in your truth. I answer listener questions about avoidant men wanting to be friends after they've already rejected a relationship, telling someone to their face that you're not that interested, and how to navigate your own feelings of insecurity when it comes to wanting and asking for commitment from your situationship.

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She apologized for not texting me back, then didn't text me back at all. In this episode, I get into what happens when someone you're down for gets inconsistent and why your reaction to it matters more than theirs. I break down the exact regulation technique I use to calm down my nervous system. I also share a powerful client story about a woman who realized she's been using relationships to regulate her nervous system her entire life, and why that's keeping her stuck in situationships. Then I respond to a listener navigating feelings for a coworker who didn't choose her. This episode is about understanding your relationship triggers and becoming way more grounded through their bullshit.

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A girl didn't text me back for 12 hours, and my stomach dropped. In this episode, I get raw about the self-doubt that creeps in when I put myself out there, and why the smallest rejection can trigger the deepest fear. I break down how to actually feel your feelings instead of just thinking about them, why self-improvement is often driven by insecurity, and what scares me most about committing to someone. I also answer fire questions from a listener about my dating patterns, what I look for in a partner, and my longest relationship. If you've ever felt that pit in your stomach when someone doesn't text back, I'll show you exactly how to handle it.

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What happens when you're honest, vulnerable, and real... and still don't get what you want? Let's talk about showing up authentically and why it doesn't always work out the way you hope. I'll share two raw stories from my own life: getting stood up after putting myself out there, and ending things with someone I genuinely cared about because something just wasn't aligned. I break down why most people don't actually know how they feel (spoiler: thinking isn't feeling) and why your fear of being "too much" is really just fear of not being enough. I also walk through a listener situation about feeling worthless after a guy asks for space. If you've ever felt like you're the problem, been scared to speak from the heart, or stayed in something that felt good but wasn't right, this one's for you.

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I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you’re feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself.

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Have you ever been surrounded by people (even in a relationship) and still felt alone? That’s because loneliness isn’t about being alone, it's what happens when your sense of self is tied to something outside of you … so when connection disappears, you feel like you disappear. In this episode, I break down why most people feel lonely, why we’re scared of it, and how a lot of us are way more codependent than we think (we just call it “love” or “attachment” to make it sound prettier). I also asked you guys what you’re battling internally in your love life right now, and I respond to the stuff I see nonstop: why being single after a long relationship feels brutal, why it’s so hard to let go when someone makes you feel whole for the first time in forever, and why the second they switch up, you’re desperate to get that feeling back. Then I get into what “doing the work” actually is. This episode is a bid to help you start trusting yourself and letting go of the fear of being misunderstood.

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People think self-love is taking yourself on a date or going to the gym, but that's just the surface. In this episode, I share what true self-love is and how to practice it. I'll break down the difference between desire and attachment, and I'll go through the components of our emotions and how we project our feelings onto others instead of owning them ourselves. I share a specific example of how I was triggered in my relationship, how I reacted (needy, angry), and had to take a step back and work through my reaction. Through my personal example, I'll help you unpack your triggers and fears in a relationship and how to overcome them. It's a brand new season (and new year), buckle up because we are going deeper than ever before.

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Last episode of the year, it has been a heck of a journey, and we have a great one for you. I start with a personal story of letting go of unintentional connections and the difference between high standards and seeking perfection. I'll tell you why your situationship might seem okay, but how it might actually be blocking you from true love. Speaking of which, I then share a powerful conversation I had with two close guy friends, one recently engaged, and how hearing him talk about feeling inspired by his partner shifted something big for me (I think it will for you too). Finally, I then reflect on: “I’m single and healed… and now I don't want anyone." We will see about that! See you on the otherside.

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