Connection Codes

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January 14, 2025A Blueprint for Financial Peace in Any Relationship with Dan and Kay Ockey(148)
Tera sits down with Dan and Kay Ockey, founders of Centsei, to talk about the emotional and practical side of finances in relationships. From overcoming $20,000 of debt in their early marriage to building a system that has helped thousands of couples find financial peace, the Ockeys share their journey of vulnerability, teamwork, and transformation. They discuss the shame that often surrounds money, the power of partnership, and offer steps to turn financial stress into strength. This conversation is for anyone ready to rewrite their financial story.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online⁠

Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Connect with Dan and Kay:
Centsei Finance: https://www.centseifinance.com

Kay on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-ockey-b24066158

Dan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniel-ockey

Schedule a Free Consultation: https://tinyurl.com/2y5je9e4
Chapters:
00:00:00 - Big goals, bigger hurdles: Setting the stage

00:00:12 - Dan and Kay’s unfiltered story begins

00:01:14 - Why this conversation changes everything

00:01:55 - A hidden debt: Their financial awakening

00:04:56 - The moment everything came to light

00:11:02 - From argument to agreement: The turning point

00:13:36 - The napkin plan that started it all

00:17:29 - A crash course in financial teamwork

00:18:57 - What makes a money partnership thrive

00:22:04 - Vision boards for your bank account

00:23:45 - Love, support, and shared money dreams

00:26:15 - Breaking free from the budget autopilot

00:26:41 - How to channel anger into action

00:29:01 - Real clients, real transformations

00:32:18 - The raw power of emotional honesty

00:43:49 - Wrapping up: Resources for your money journey
48 min
January 07, 2025Dream Big, Start Small: How to Build Momentum in 2025(147)
The Connection Codes team has a conversation about the transition into 2025, sharing their insights on goals, community, and the intentional steps they’re taking for growth in the new year. They discuss the importance of connection, both within relationships and with oneself, and the small, actionable changes that can create meaningful momentum. Tera shares her word of the year—see—which is about the power of truly seeing others and allowing herself to be seen. Glenn explores the balance between responsibilities and creative passions, while Phyllis opens up about the role of community in supporting life changes. Together, they invite you to reflect, take small steps forward, and avoid staying stuck in fear or perfectionism as you navigate your own journeys into the new year.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 – The Spark of 2025: New Year, Same Us?

00:00:44 – When Lamps Were Stage Lights: The Origin Story

00:01:15 – Dream Boards, January Guilt, and Echo's Goals

00:02:45 – Community: Why We Resist What We Need Most

00:04:53 – Intentions Without Action Are Just Wishes

00:07:55 – Isolation, Loneliness, and Late-Night Subscriptions

00:09:59 – From Isolation to Joy: The Year in Review

00:12:08 – One Word for 2025: S-E-E

00:14:33 – Balancing Dreams, Writing Novels, and Life's Checklists

00:16:48 – The Wheel That Keeps Us Grounded

00:23:23 – Zoom Calls, Fear, and a Barn in 2020

00:24:14 – Behind the Grainy Camera: Trusting the Unknown

00:24:44 – The Quiet Impact of Tera and Wes Wages

00:27:55 – Community Isn't a Buzzword—It's a Lifeline

00:31:46 – Imperfect Starts, Perfect Timing

00:34:04 – Momentum: The Small Steps That Move Mountains

00:43:19 – Teamship: When Everyone Carries the Load

00:46:03 – The Invitation: Start Small, Start Now
48 min
December 31, 2024 Letting Go of a Life We Built: Behind the Decision(146)
Tera Wages, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill continue their conversation about how they’re navigating life’s big transitions. They reflect on the decision to sell their home of 11 years, the emotional and physical toll of letting go, and the unexpected challenges of rebuilding a new normal. Through stories of fear, exhaustion, and fleeting moments of clarity, they share how community, small steps, and vulnerability carried them through one of the most disorienting seasons of their lives. Together, they offer a reminder that meaningful change doesn’t always feel good in the moment, but it’s worth every step.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters
00:00:00 – When the Calendar Resets, So Do We
00:01:39 – The Moment After the Big Leap
00:04:24 – What We Learned From Letting Go of Stuff
00:12:24 – Sometimes Help Looks Like a Hurricane
00:17:16 – Prepping a House, Prepping a Heart
00:22:20 – When the Offer Comes Faster Than Expected
00:25:41 – A Table, A Family, and One Last Brunch
00:26:04 – Laughter Echoes in Empty Rooms
00:27:02 – Things We Didn’t See Coming
00:28:20 – Saying Goodbye Isn’t One Moment
00:29:27 – New Holidays, Old Traditions, Big Emotions
00:31:51 – When Curiosity Feels Vulnerable
00:33:46 – Processing the Aftermath
00:40:54 – The Exercise That Held Us Together
00:46:51 – What Comes After Goodbye
55 min
December 24, 2024How to Stop Resentment from Ruining the Holidays(145)
Tera and Wes talk about the challenges of staying emotionally connected during the busy and often chaotic holiday season. They openly share moments of guilt, shame, and loneliness, showing how quickly small interactions can turn into emotional disconnect if left unaddressed. They discuss using the Core Emotion Wheel to break cycles of resentment and miscommunication. It’s not about avoiding conflict but recognizing the moments when connection is slipping and choosing to lean in—whether it’s over wrapping gifts, missed cues, or moments of unspoken bitterness. This conversation isn’t about holiday perfection; it’s about showing up for each other, even in the mess.

Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help

Chapters:
00:00:00 – When Christmas Hustle Meets Emotional Chaos

00:00:51 – Why Wes is Here (And Why Tera Thinks People Don’t Like Her)

00:02:35 – The Tool That Saves Conversations Before They Explode

00:09:32 – Holiday Stress: Silent Resentment’s Best Friend

00:15:25 – The Moment Connection Feels Like an Uphill Climb

00:16:45 – Guilt and Anger Aren’t Just Gift-Wrapped Feelings

00:17:42 – The Core Emotion Wheel in Real Time

00:18:09 – When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

00:19:35 – The Fastest Way to Stop Emotional Drift

00:20:40 – Sexual Loneliness: The Emotion No One Talks About

00:25:33 – Small Moments, Big Repairs: Finding Compassion Again

00:26:37 – Staying Connected When the Calendar Feels Impossible

00:30:02 – Joy, Gratitude, and a Holiday Sign-Off
32 min
December 17, 2024How Pain Became My Compass for Change(144)
Phyllis and Dr. Glenn Hill, alongside Tera Wages, reflect on years of caregiving, immense responsibility, and the hidden toll of staying too long in life’s boiling pot. As she shares moments of unexpected joy, pain, and tough decisions, Phyllis talks about how recognizing and addressing pain can lead to profound change. Tera joins the conversation, helping frame the journey of shifting from “I can’t” to “I can,” challenging all of us to confront our own boiling water and embrace the courage to pursue a life that truly serves us.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 – Shattering the “I Can’t” Mindset

00:01:05 – Cracking the Code to Connection

00:01:36 – Pain as a Silent Companion

00:03:34 – A Life-Changing Family Call

00:04:43 – The Whisper of Help

00:08:18 – When the Pool Collapsed

00:12:30 – A Breath of New Perspective

00:15:49 – The Joyful Weight of Change

00:20:12 – Confronting the Fear of Letting Go

00:24:56 – Untangling Emotions for a Fresh Start

00:30:16 – A Call to Courage
35 min
December 10, 2024How to Stay Curious When it Hurts(143)
Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis dive right into the deep emotional impact of hurt and how it shapes our decisions, often leading us to throw out meaningful connections. They discuss the origins of the phrase “throwing the baby out with the bathwater” and share examples where unresolved pain led to disconnection—from friendships to church experiences and even political divides. The Connection Codes team discusses the importance of staying curious, processing emotions like hurt and fear, and choosing connection over isolation. This is a very powerful conversation about making your way through personal and communal hard situations while holding onto what truly matters.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/wheel
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help
Chapters:
00:00:00 - The Weight of Hurt Unpacked

00:00:52 - Meet the Voices Behind Connection

00:01:23 - Baby, Bathwater, and a Bigger Problem

00:05:51 - Stories That Still Sting

00:11:55 - Science Meets Hurt: The Brain’s Alarm

00:13:14 - Love in the Time of Pain

00:17:35 - Faith, Hurt, and a Bigger Picture

00:22:28 - When Churches Stop Listening

00:24:45 - Conversations That Change Everything

00:26:33 - Moving Through Pain, Step by Step

00:29:02 - How Pain Creates Growth

00:32:39 - Politics, Curiosity, and Connection

00:35:52 - Healing Starts with Acknowledgment

00:43:11 - A Final Look at Connection
51 min
December 03, 2024When Emotions Sneak Up On You(142)
Tera, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis talk about the surprising ways emotions can surface and the impact they have on our lives and connections. Phyllis shares a deeply personal moment when a Broadway play unexpectedly brought her to tears, triggering memories and grief she hadn’t felt in years. Tera, Glenn, and Phyllis reflect on the Connection Codes principle that emotions happen to us, often without warning, and how embracing this truth can lead to deeper connection and healing. They also discuss how society often misjudges emotional responses, and why learning to honor and process our feelings—rather than suppress them—can transform relationships and self-understanding. Don’t miss this heartfelt conversation that reminds us how emotion shapes our human experience.
Links and Resources:
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠
Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-help⁠⁠
Chapters
00:00:00 - The Connection Codes Unveiled

00:01:23 - Phyllis Faces Unexpected Emotions

00:03:02 - A Play That Triggered the Past

00:05:16 - Grief Through the Lens of Broadway

00:08:57 - Supporting Emotions in Real Time

00:15:10 - The Depth of Emotional Pain

00:18:58 - Navigating Intense Emotional Waves

00:22:24 - A Stranger’s Unsettling Encounter

00:24:32 - What Drives Human Behavior

00:27:25 - Exploring the Core Emotion Wheel

00:30:52 - Emotions from New York Adventures

00:36:59 - Wrapping Up with Encouragement
39 min
November 26, 2024What Fear Can Teach Us About Unity with Sharon McMahon(141)
Tera sits down with Sharon McMahon, widely known as America’s government teacher, to discuss the power of fear as a driver in politics and history. They discuss how emotions influence decision-making, the importance of warm relationships in bridging divides, and the steps individuals can take to create meaningful change in their communities. Sharon shares insights from her journey, highlights from her new book, The Small and the Mighty, and advice for navigating today’s polarized world.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach
Connect with Sharon McMahon:
Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com

Sharon on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonsaysso

Here’s Where It Gets Interesting Podcast: https://sharonmcmahon.com/podcast

The Small and the Mighty by Sharon McMahon: https://sharonmcmahon.com/book
Chapters
00:00:00 - Meeting Sharon McMahon: America’s Government Teacher

00:01:59 - A Bold Leap into Education and Public Service

00:06:23 - How Fear Shapes History: Lessons We Need Today

00:12:30 - Fear as the Catalyst: Understanding Its Political Grip

00:17:41 - Politics Powered by Fear: Unpacking its Influence

00:27:14 - Uniting in Division: Strategies to Find Common Ground

00:29:08 - Social Media's Role in Isolation and Connection

00:34:08 - Big Impacts, Small Actions: How to Make a Difference

00:39:36 - Building a Legacy in a Digital World

00:40:46 - Stories of Unsung Heroes: Honoring Quiet Courage

00:51:13 - Supporting Roles: The Glue of Great Achievements

00:52:29 - Closing Reflections: Lessons to Take Forward⁠
57 min
November 19, 2024Why Conflict May Be the Key to Closeness with Jordan and Erika Koop(140)
Erika and Jordan Koop are back with the Connection Codes team to discuss creating meaningful connections within relationships and communities. From their initial struggles with applying Connection Codes to their eventual success in fostering a culture of emotional fluency in their northern Canadian community, their story gives you a look into both the challenges and rewards of building relational resilience. The conversation goes into the impact of vulnerability, the reality of conflict in close relationships, and steps for bringing transformative tools to others. The Koops show how connection can thrive even in the midst of personal and communal challenges.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠
Connect with The Koops:
Erika and Jordan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/questforthecore
Chapters
00:00:00 – The Start of a Connection Revolution

00:00:29 – Meet Jordan and Erica Koop

00:01:27 – A Message from Northern Canada

00:03:42 – The Koops’ Path to Connection Mastery

00:05:35 – Overcoming Barriers to Build Community

00:06:14 – The Key to Group Dynamics Success

00:09:01 – Profound Impacts of Connection Codes

00:16:10 – Personal Growth Through Emotional Challenges

00:27:17 – Navigating Shame and Fear in Relationships

00:28:30 – Exploring Emotional Cycles and the Pit of Despair

00:29:47 – Why Real-Time Emotional Processing Matters

00:31:23 – The Blueprint for a Supportive Community

00:34:33 – Vulnerability’s Role in Deepening Relationships

00:38:57 – Steps to Foster a Culture of Vulnerability

00:40:55 – Tangible Stories of Vulnerability at Work

00:45:12 – Empowering Community Builders with Resources

00:50:31 – Wrapping Up with Encouragement
54 min
November 12, 2024Why We Ignore Our Own Needs—and How to Stop(139)
Tera Wages and Echo Vetter Hill are discussing the realities of emotional awareness, exploring how emotions show up in our bodies and what they’re really telling us. They talk about the link between sensations and feelings, the purpose behind emotions like anger and sadness, and why we often resist our own needs. Together, they look at how facing pain can lead to real growth and how connecting with our emotions can transform relationships and self-understanding. Tera also guides you through the Core Emotion Wheel, giving you a look at a tool for identifying and processing what’s going on beneath the surface.
Links and Resources:
Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠
To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠
To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ ⁠
Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠
Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:
Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: ⁠https://substack.com/@echohillvetter⁠
Echo on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter⁠
Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: ⁠https://calendly.com/echohillvetter⁠
Echo’s LinkTree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter
Chapters:
00:00:00 — Start of the journey with Connection Codes

00:00:35 — Discovering needs with Echo Vetter Hill

00:02:42 — Emotions decoded: What do they do?

00:07:16 — Sensations and self-awareness

00:13:02 — Emotions stored in the body

00:19:14 — Differentiating acute and chronic emotional pain

00:27:40 — The surprising strength of anger

00:35:52 — Building connection: The real practice

00:36:35 — Embracing vulnerability with emotion

00:38:30 — Recognizing and managing hurt

00:38:51 — Weighing pain against growth

00:44:38 — Facing sadness and navigating loss

00:47:59 — Loneliness exposed and finding support

00:55:19 — Guilt, shame, and rewriting our actions

00:59:55 — Unlocking the Core Emotion Wheel

01:06:45 — Final reflections and encouragement
1 hr 13 min

About Connection Codes

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We often find ourselves stuck in a cycle of miscommunication and frustration. We don't know how to convey how we feel OR we burst out and create even more pain. Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill have spent years researching human connection and how to break that cycle. The Connection Codes is the guide to helping couples and individuals conquer conflict and it is the tool to break the cycle of pain and live in peace together.