A crucial and often not taught or discussed aspect of healing and growth is valuing, praising, and appreciating our efforts REGARDLESS of the outcome.

Growing up, my worth and my confidence were deeply tethered to outcomes.  If the outcome was the "right one", I was worthy, safe, loveable, and could trust myself.  If the outcome was the "wrong one", shame, self-distrust, and repentence was in order.  There was no *actual* room for error, mistake making, or discovery despite all the talk about there actually being room for it.

This made my healing work very, very impossible. I was deeply oriented to getting the "right outcome" to please the healer or teacher.  I was not oriented to my own discovery.

To heal this, I began a practice of praising and appreciating my efforts.  

Learn how this works in today's episode!

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