Dating Intentionally

It's my wedding week! In this episode, I discuss how to know/decide that your partner is the one - meaning the person you will be with long-term and/or get married to. Even if you don't want to get married, this episode will walk you through the factors of deciding if the person you're with is someone you want to be with for the long haul. I address the mistakes we make along the way when making this decision and the pressure we put on ourselves. I also talk about how I decided/knew my fiance was the one and why I don't believe there is just one person for everyone.

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Whitni Miller, a couples’ intimacy coach and sex educator. We talk about desire discrepancy, speaking up during sex, and keeping it spicy in the bedroom. 

You’ll hear about how Whitni helps clients with different levels of desire start the conversation and work through it together. And Whitni provides a ton of tips for people pleasers who don’t want to fake orgasms anymore. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about differing kinks and sexual likes early on. 

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About Whitni: Whitni Miller, also known as Bde.moves, is a distinguished figure in Queer couples' intimacy coaching and sex education, boasting over four years of expertise in guiding individuals and couples toward authentic pleasure. Grounded in principles of radical self-acceptance and relational communication, Whitni fosters transformative experiences, empowering clients to embrace their desires with confidence.

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In this episode, you'll get advice for starting and maintaining a long-distance relationship. I included advice from listeners who have successfully dated someone long distance, as well as advice from my own experience doing long distance for a year in my last relationship. You'll hear about how it works in the early stages of dating and how to strengthen and develop a long-term relationship even when you live far away from each other.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Ella Dawson, a writer and author, talk about what it’s like dating after leaving an abusive relationship and being diagnosed with an STI. She has made it her mission to break the stigma around herpes and other STIs because they’re a lot more common than you’d think. In this episode, Ella explains how to bring up STIs in a way that won’t result in an awkward silence or breakup. Ella also shares her advice for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing an abusive relationship and what tools you can use to prevent another relationship like that. And we chat about Ella’s new book, But How Are You Really? and what inspired her to write a novel! 

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About Ella Dawson: Ella Dawson is an NYC-based sex and culture critic whose work has been published by Elle, Vox, and Women’s Health, among others. She was once internet famous for having herpes, but that’s a whole other story. Ella is proudly bisexual, very anxious, and aspires to adopt a kitten. Follow her on social media and on Patreon as @brosandprose.

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I believe dating can be fun. In this episode, you'll hear eight different ways to enjoy the process more so you can stop deleting and redownloading dating apps every month. Some of these tips are practical, like tweaking your pre-date routine. And some tips are more about your mindset, like why you need to stop trying to be liked. I also included a bunch of the BEST date ideas according to you, the listeners. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about what to do when someone says "let's be friends" after a few great dates.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Celia Gurney, a writer and creator who covers demisexuality and asexuality. We get into Celia's journey and how she discovered demisexuality, different resources that helped her along the way, and different levels of attraction. You'll hear about primary attraction vs. secondary attraction and how to approach dating if you need to develop an emotional connection first.

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Celia Gurney is a writer, educator, improviser, and content creator who just spent two years in France, where she co-founded an improv comedy collective. Her essay about discovering and embracing demisexuality can be found at Mangoprism.com, and links to everything else are on her Instagram (@ceelia_later). 

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Get ready to be inspired! In this special episode (yay 101 episodes!), you'll hear from 5 members of this community about how they've found success in their dating lives. Success in dating is NOT just about finding a relationship (or whatever you're looking for). We can define it however we want. I'm so excited to have made it to over 100 episodes of this podcast, thanks to YOU, and so I wanted this episode to be about your successes.

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In this episode, you'll hear from a Dating Intentionally listener named Sara who decided to take her future into her own hands and start a family on her own before meeting her fiance on Bumble. Sara walk us through how she decided to have a child on her own at age 40, then through her experience dating (even though it was so short - she met her fiance quickly)! I love this story because it's important to hear experiences from folks who don't follow what society deems is the right path (meet someone, get married, then have kids). You can do it in whatever order you want/makes sense for your life.

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In this episode, you'll learn about the most important thing you can do while single if you want to enjoy dating and learn how to detach from the outcome: embracing your life without a partner. I talk about how to date NATO (not attached to the outcome) and the major steps you can take to lower the stakes in your dating life. I speak from experience as I share the reflection questions I used to dream up an amazing life for myself without a partner... while looking for one simultaneously. Don't skip this one if you're single and want to shift your mindset.

QUESTIONS:

* If I don’t like it here, where should I live? 

* How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be? 

* How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?

* What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?

* How will I show up for the people in my life? 

* How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?

* If I don’t meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own? 

* If I don’t get married, what does the best version of my life look like?

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In this episode, you'll hear from Jemma Sbeg, the host of The Psychology Of Your 20's! We get into the psychology behind comparison and feeling behind, the paradox of choice and dating apps and navigating dating in hook up culture. Jemma shares the top two things daters need to be focused on if they want to get into a relationship, and tips for what to do when your date says they want to "go with the flow." I hope you enjoy this conversation!

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About Jemma Sbeg: Jemma hosts The Psychology of Your 20s, which has over 27M downloads. Jemma is a psychology graduate and mental health advocate and is able to reach a diverse audience of all ages through her unique perspective, personal journey, and mental health awareness. With her finger on the pulse of youth culture, Jemma tells it like it is and is constantly working to break social constructs and stigmas. 

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