Dating Intentionally

If there's one mistake to avoid in early dating, it's following each other too early. In this episode, I explain why it's best to wait to connect on social media, how it amplifies our anxieties, and how it breeds miscommunication. I also share best practices for navigating connecting on social media in the early dating stages and how to talk about it. At the end of the episode, I answer two dating dilemmas about not feeling attracted to people right away and what to do when the people you date aren't prioritizing dating. I also share personal updates.

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In this eye-opening conversation with writer Jessica Slice, you'll learn what it's like to date with a disability and chronic illness. We get into so much in this episode, like when to disclose a disability, tips for using dating apps, where dating apps fall short when it comes to inclusivity for disabled folks and tips for what to do when you encounter someone in your dating journey who has a disability. We also talk a lot about Jessica's amazing new book, Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up and Settling Down while Chronically Ill and Disabled.

Book link: https://www.amazon.com/Dateable-Swiping-Settling-Chronically-Disabled/dp/0306832739

Modern Love piece: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/19/style/modern-love-he-cared-so-i-broke-up-with-him.html

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About Jessica Slice:

Jessica Slice is a disabled author and essayist who has published essays The New York Times's Modern Love column, in Alice Wong's bestselling Disability Visibility, The New York Times, The Washington Post, Hippocampus, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and HuffPost.

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So, after a few months of listening to this podcast, you find yourself in a new relationship. Yay! Now, what do you do? This episode is about the four main things to focus on in the early stages of a new relationship after you've decided to officially become a couple. Listen and learn how to make the most of the honeymoon phase and keep learning about each other and integrate each other into your lives. I also get into handling conflict in the early stages of a relationship. At the end of the episode, I answer a dating dilemma about seeing someone on a dating app after they tell you they're not ready for a relationship.

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What kinds of questions are you asking on dates, and are they the kind that will help your date open up? In this episode, I talk to Topaz Adizes, Founder of The Skin Deep and creator of the Emmy award-winning series {The And} about how to have deeper, more intimate conversations. We get into the types of questions that lead to deeper conversations, tips for listening and more. This was such an insightful conversation!

Also - I am now partnering with The Skin Deep and offering a discount on their product, {The And} card decks! Check out their dating question card deck here. https://collabs.shop/co9ejf 

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About Topaz Adizes:

opaz Adizes is an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. He is an Edmund Hillary fellow and Sundance/Skoll stories of change fellow. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW; featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary. He is currently the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. Topaz studied philosophy at UC Berkeley and Oxford University. He speaks four languages, and currently lives in Uruguay with his wife and two children. For more about The Skin Deep, visit TheSkinDeep.com.

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If dating were easy, this podcast probably wouldn't exist. This episode is packed with reminders and mindset shifts to help you stay positive on your dating journey, even when you keep striking out. I discuss believing vs. hoping, checking our own expectations, and examining the reality of what's actually happening in your dating life, despite how it feels.

At the end I answer two dating dilemmas! One is about maintaining a FWB while looking for a long-term partner, and the other is about talking to your partner about a phrase they keep using that bugs you.

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It's always so interesting to hear dating advice from a different perspective. This episode features Blaine Anderson, the founder of Dating By Blaine who was recently featured on Shark Tank! Blaine spills the tea on what men look for on women's profiles on dating apps, why they're hesitant to approach women in public and what women can do to be more approachable. We also broke down her adorable meet cute story with her husband, who she met at Barry's Bootcamp. This conversation was truly eye-opening, and one thing is clear: everyone has really similar challenges in dating, regardless of gender and sexuality.

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I'm switching it up this week with a new format! I answer five of your dating dilemmas. Submit your dating dilemma below to have a chance of getting it answered on the pod! In this episode, I answer questions about needing more words of affirmation, making the decision to pursue single parenthood in your mid-30s, how to define the relationship, dealing with a dry texter in early dating, and what to do if you're not getting past the first date. I also talk about how I've been dealing with rejection lately, even though I'm not currently dating.

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Shame holds us back from what we truly want and need in dating, sex, and relationships. Jessica Stahl shares how she transformed her shame into something else - something way more empowering in the form of a feminist cartoon named Vanillacooldance, which takes on taboos around female sexual pleasure, normalizing bodies, speaking up for yourself in dating, and so much more. Jessica and I talked about how she created VCD, how to address shame around sexual pleasure, and how to speak up for your needs. We also discussed how to have more self-compassion and heal from a toxic relationship with self-development.

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You've done so much healing work, so why do you still feel so emotionally triggered? In this episode, I get into why you still feel so emotionally triggered in some situations, despite all the work you've done on yourself and how to manage it in a relationship. I talk a lot about what has triggered me in my current relationship and how I deal with it. At the end, I share wedding updates! Three months to go.

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Today's episode features the amazing hosts of Dateable Podcast, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. They have been sharing their dating advice for 8 years with thousands of daters everywhere. We get into super practical tips for having better conversations on dates, the importance of screening your matches, and the mindset shifts you need to be more curious and less attached to the outcome. We also talk about the common thing that successful daters have: wanting a relationship, not needing one, and knowing what your "north star" is in dating. At the end, we do a rapid-fire round of "Is it a red flag if?".

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About Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are the co-hosts and creators of Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. As active daters turned dating insiders, they’ve interviewed thousands of daters and world-renowned experts over the last decade to understand why we date the way we do. But more importantly, with this information, share how you can rise above modern dating culture, get out of this dating apocalypse, and DIY the love life you’ve always wanted. Subscribe to Dateable on all podcast platforms and visit dateablepodcast.com and @dateablepodcast as your go-to source for modern dating.

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