Dear Midlife...

Azaria Menezes aka The Pussy Fairy is a successful Sex and Relationship coach that works with women, moms, and couples to bust through sexual or emotional blocks, so that they can feel turned on, ecstatic, and orgasmic in and out of the bedroom. Azaria is fueled by a passion for supporting women and couples to be their authentic selves during intimacy and in their relationships so that there is way more room for pleasure, connection, and desire. She loves supporting her clients to re-ignite that spark back into their sexuality or relationships so that they have the capacity to fall more in love with themselves and/or each other.

Azaria has been featured in Cosmopolitan multiple times both online and print, Mindbodygreen, Thrive Global, Kinkly, Giddy, Yahoo, Jack and Gill adult, multiple podcasts, and has hosted workshops at various Universities.

She also hosts the podcast: "Getting Intimate" where she brings practical ways to invite more pleasure into your body relationships and sex life. You can find Azaria on Instagram @azaria.menezes

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Are you ready to ditch midlife mediocrity and own your own destiny? You need a no-nonsense blueprint and a supportive tribe to help you make small changes that lead to BIG transformation. At dearmidlife.com you'll find…

Accelerated Education: Fast-Track your midlife journey by tapping into the community for expert knowledge and quick growth. No apologies, just strategic moves.

Supportive problem solvers: Join a tribe of badass women who are your go-to support system, ready to tackle challenges together with grit and girl power.

Unapologetic Friendship Fuel: Gain unwavering support and genuine connections through a strong inner circle cheering you on and holding you accountable every step of your midlife journey.

Hello Dear Midlife Listeners…this is a new approach to our interview format in which we have a panel of 6 women together to discuss the topic of dating in midlife. We expect to use this format periodically to infuse new voices into the conversation. Our goal was to make the dialogue feel like happy hour with your best girlfriends. True to our "no holds barred" approach, the conversation is very honest and authentic and dwells on topics that people often question in their own minds, but may not be willing to talk about. In this episode we explore questions such as:

• Does Sex Require an emotional connection?
• Why does society dictate that a monogamous relationship is the only approach?
• How do we change the social or even internal narrative about what is ACCEPTABLE and what is taboo in dating and relationships?
• How do we create a space for ourselves and for our partner in which  we can openly communicate our needs to ensure that intimacy is a pleasurable experience for both parties…and then
• How can we reconcile these choices with own morals, values and beliefs?

So, girls….let's get real and raw…grown folks only for this episode!  If you enjoy the conversation , please take the opportunity to leave a review and share the episode with a friend. 

If YOU want to be part of our tribe, visit our website at dearmidlife.com where you will gain access to tools and resources that will give you the momentum you need in midlife. Here you'll find a no-nonsense blueprint and a supportive tribe to help you make small changes that lead to BIG transformation. Dear Midlife can provide you…

Accelerated Education: Fast-Track your midlife journey by tapping into the community for expert knowledge and quick growth. No apologies, just strategic moves.

Supportive problem solvers: Join a tribe of badass women who are your go-to support system, ready to tackle challenges together with grit and girl power.

Unapologetic Friendship Fuel: Gain unwavering support and genuine connections through a strong inner circle cheering you on and holding you accountable every step of your midlife journey.

Meet you in the middle! xo Trinity and Shelby

Dr. Mariza Snyder is a functional medical practitioner, women’s hormone expert and the author of eight books: The newest book, The Essential Oils Menopause Solution, focuses on solutions for women in perimenopause and menopause and the #1 National Bestselling book, The Essential Oils Hormone Solution, focuses on balancing women’s hormones naturally.  Other bestselling books are: The Smart Mom’s Guide to Essential Oils and The DASH Diet Cookbook.  

For the past twelve years, she has lectured at wellness centers, conferences, and corporations on hormone health, essential oils, nutrition, and detoxification.  She has been featured on Dr. Oz, Oprah Magazine, Fox News Health, MindBodyGreen and many publications. Dr. Mariza is also the host of the top rated Essentially You Podcast, (with over 3.5 million downloads) designed to empower women to become the CEO of their health. She is here with us today to have a candid conversation about what the heck is happening to our bodies as we face peri-menopause and menopause…what are the signs and symptoms and what steps we can take right now to see quick results with things like weight gain, exhaustion and brainfog.

Check out her website, drmariza.com, for women's hormone tips, including recipes and remedies.

Check out Essentially You Podcast here: Essentially You Podcast in iTunes

To find more of Dr. Mariza:

• FB: @drmarizasnyder
• Twitter: @drmariza
• Instagram: @drmariza
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drmarizasnyder
• Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/drmariza/

Girl! We know you want to feel good inside and out. If you're are feeling tired and burned out, visit our website at dearmidlife.com to tap into the tools and resources you need to gain midlife momentum. You will find a no-nonsense blueprint and a supportive tribe to help you make small changes that lead to BIG transformation. Dear Midlife can provide you…

Accelerated Education: Fast-Track your midlife journey by tapping into the community for expert knowledge and quick growth. No apologies, just strategic moves.

Supportive problem solvers: Join a tribe of badass women who are your go-to support system, ready to tackle challenges together with grit and girl power.

Unapologetic Friendship Fuel: Gain unwavering support and genuine connections through a strong inner circle cheering you on and holding you accountable every step of your midlife journey.

Desmond Blackburn spent 15 years selling technologies and helping companies define their organizational strategies and achieve their goals. But, then one day he got stuck and couldn't move forward. He knew what he was capable of, he knew what he had to do, but just couldn't get it done. So, he decided to "wave the white flag" and hired his own personal life coach and got done in 4 months what he'd been trying to accomplish for 5 years.  Needless to say, his coach helped him to lay out a strategy and hold him accountable for that strategy. Helping others in the same way appealed to Desmond and he shifted his career trajectory to take on the role of life coach. Leveraging a life coach can be a powerful experience to help individuals see their blind spots, identify goals and accelerate achievement of those goals.

90% of Desmond's clients are women just like you. Highly successful, juggling ALL the balls and doing an amazing job…but, who might just feel a bit stuck.  In this interview, he identifies the role "perfectionism" plays in standing in the way of progress and gives practical tips to overcome this unsustainable state of mind. He reminds us that what once worked, may no longer serve you and that progress is more important than perfect.

These recovering perfectionists/"Type A" gals loved the juicy tips and bits of wisdom Desmond shares with us in this episode:

1. What once worked for you may no longer be serving you.
2. Perfectionism is NOT sustainable.
3. A healthy desire for excellence is NOT the same thing as "perfectionism" The person with the healthy desire for excellence values progress over perfection.. A perfectionist tells themselves only when I am putting the arrow through the bullseye every time can I be happy.
4. The message we are telling ourselves "If I'm perfect you will love me" is not consistent with what society values, which is authenticity.
5. When we lean into being our authentic selves…that is where we find community. There will always be someone who will say…man, you're dealing with THAT…? Me too!
6. Engage a coach or a therapist for a fresh set of eyes to help you see the sides of yourself you cannot see.
7. You get to determine who is "qualified" to offer you feedback/advice. Sometimes relationships come into your life for a reason and a season.  Maybe its time to "take new applications"

To claim a 1-hr complimentary session visit Desmond's website at:

Website | coachdesmond.com

Also...check out his E-Course titled "I Hate Sales" and his book titled "How to Fire the Devil as Your Life Coach" (available as an audio book, paperback or e-book).

Ladies, we don't know about you, but we've been striving for perfectionism for far too long and falling short. We are TIRED and felling burned out. If you feel the same way and need a change of pace, then tap into our tools and resources at our website dearmidlife.com to gain the midlife momentum you need.

Bri Collins is the owner of BCRN Aesthetics, one of Houston's leading advanced aesthetic injectors.  Bri is a Registered Nurse and uses her experience and extensive training in leading her team to be some of the best in the industry for natural and believable injectable services. BCRN Aesthetics is always evolving and leverages the newest procedures with the team's dedication to education, medical training and friendly personalities to make the services  and professionalism this med-spa offers highly sought-after in the Houston area. Bri is not only an entrepreneur, but also embarking on midlife motherhood. Please join us as Bri shares her journey to being one of the leading providers of injectable services and provides us key tips for using these techniques safely to look and feel our best.

You can find Bri and book an appointment by going to her website at: https://www.bcrnaesthetics.com/  or find her on IG @bcrnaesthetics

Girl! We are all striving to be the best version of ourself on the outside and on the INSIDE! If you know that you are meant for more and are feeling lost or stuck, we can offer you the tools and resources to move forward and find your purpose. Are you ready to start prioritizing yourself and learn to become your own HERO? Tap in to our toolkits and tribe of badass women to gain the momentum you need in midlife by visiting our website dearmidlife.com.

Amy Denson is a retired professional athlete who was diagnosed with her 2nd autoimmune disorder in 2016. She went from playing professional basketball all over the world to battling professional fatigue and not even recognizing herself in the mirror. From her rock bottom moment, she felt that there had to be a better way and relied on the mindset she built as a professional athlete to pave the way to feeling like herself again--and even better! Currently, she is certified as a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner (NTP), specializing in thyroid health, striving to support women in advocating for their health, getting their energy back, and feeling like themselves again!

This is a message that is near and dear to my heart. I am confident that so many women are needlessly suffering.

Please listen to Amy's words of wisdom and key takeaways and become an advocate for your own health:

1. The most important key to good health is stress management.
2. Be an advocate for your own health. You are the only expert of your own body.
3. Focus on whole, single-ingredient foods.
4. Weight loss should be a biproduct of you gaining energy.
5. Getting to the root cause of your issues will take time and is often trial and error. Be patient. You're worth it.
6. It's not ONLY about what you eat, but also about how you eat. Listen to your body and eat mindfully.
7. Eat in a calm state. Chew your food. Put your fork down between bites.
8. Have a savory breakfast.

You can reach Amy for coaching support at:

[email protected] or find her on Instagram @coach.amyrae

Girl, it's time to get your life back on track! If you're struggling to find your purpose and are feeling lost or stuck, we know how you feel. We once found ourselves trying to figure out who we are and what brings us joy and lights us up. You know what?! We found it and we're here to share that wisdom with you. To discover the secret to remembering who you are and figuring out who in the hell you're meant to become, visit our website at dearmidlife.com to join so many women who are just like you as we strive together to level-up our midlife. Can't wait to meet you in the middle.

It's true…our world is getting harder and harder to navigate, but not always because of what's happening on the outside of us, but instead because of what's happening inside our very own minds. Everyone on this planet needs a little help navigating through this space. I've no doubt that those of you in our audience have experienced so many difficulties in your lives.

Our guest today, Mesha McKittrick, has experienced her fair share of life's challenges, as well.  She became pregnant at 14 and then suffered the loss of that child at a young age, navigated and, ultimately left, a codependent and abusive relationship, lost her father (who played a significant role in her life), struggled through significant financial setbacks and manages a busy life as a wife, mother and mindset coach.

Mesha believes that you cannot control the things that happen in life, however, but you CAN control how you react to what happens to you in life. So, today we'll explore some of the pivotal challenges in life and how to move through them by curating and surrounding yourself with the right support and leveraging the power of a positive mindset to keep moving forward and live your best life. 

In this episode, Mesha reminds us that: 

1. We all have our own “lists”. In other words, everyone’s life is full of difficulties. We choose how we face those struggles.
2. Who you are becoming is more important than who you’ve been.
3. Treat a child as if they already are the person they are capable of becoming.
4. There is power in asking “why”…don’t be a “whyner”.
5. Look to your past for proof that the struggles you’ve endured so far have shaped who you are as a person. This will help you to overcome future hardships by knowing there is a purpose behind them.
6. We have to influence our subconscious mind with our conscious mind and make deliberate choice.

You can find Mesha on Instagram  @myfriendmesha and listen to her podcast “Mindset Check With My Friend Mesha”

Have you lost yourself in taking care of everyone else? Are you experiencing ALL the changes that midlife has to offer?! :) Are you wondering, "is this all there is to life?" The answer is NO! You've got so much more life to live and we're here to help you remember who you are, and figure out who in the hell you're meant to become. Tap into our toolkits and resources at dearmidlife.com to guide you on this journey to rediscovering yourself. You don't have to go it alone...you'll also find a supportive tribe of women to lift you us and support you along the way. We can't wait to meet you in the middle!

Can you recall a situation in your childhood that has had a lingering impact on your life even today?  The trauma could be something large. Perhaps, you were verbally, mentally or physically abused by a trusted family member. Perhaps, the trauma seemed small at the time. Maybe you once got lost riding your bike and feared you might never find your way home. We may not even realize the way these traumas form talk tracks in our brain and continue to underpin our behaviors in ways we can't genuinely understand. 

As an adult, you may start to recognize, question and unpack some of those triggers that cause you to behave a certain way.  That is exactly where guest, Krista Biglin was a couple of years ago. She is a wife, mother of 3, nurse and now sex and relationship coach. She had suffered a number of physical ailments and setbacks and was, simultaneously, attempting to heal a broken marriage when she enrolled in the sex and relationship coaching course. Little did she realize that her journey to heal her marriage would cause her to, first, learn to heal herself. 

As women, we often dismiss our signs and symptoms and trudge on with life intent on taking care of everyone else… putting our own personal health on the back burner. Krista is here today to help us undertand the importance of listening to our minds and bodies and how to put the proverbial "oxygen mask on our selves first.  And when we start listening, how to uncover and heal our past traumas so that we can start living fuller, more meaningful lives. In this episode, Krista reminds us that:

1. It takes time….time to learn how to slow down….time to learn how to rest.
2. No one knows you like you know you and sometimes the only way to heal, is to go within.
3. Sometimes past traumas get "stuck" somewhere in our bodies and we just need to do something to move that negative energy.
4. The universe and your body is trying to tell you...and you need to listen to the signals.
5. We need to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first and prioritize your own health.
6. We are responsible for our own happiness and we've got to do the work to heal and elevate yourself to higher vibration living.

Are you feeling lost or stuck? Follow this podcast for more amazing insights and resources on how to redefine your midlife. If you want more insights, advice, and support, tap into our toolkits at dearmidlife.com. It's time to start prioritizing yourself and become your own hero

Tianna Miller was always physically active however, she credits genetics for her constant struggle with weight, even at a young age. After several comments from friends and family members about her size, she decided to pop in her mom’s old Jane Fonda video and completed her first workout at age 7. It was then that she turned her aspirations to becoming a fitness instructor one day.

Tianna achieved her objective of becoming a personal trainer and threw herself into supporting and guiding her clients to achieve their goals. However, when asked about her own ambitions, she realized that she’d been pouring so much of her energy into others, she had been neglecting herself.   She turned her sights on entering a bodybuilding competetion and placed in 3 categories in her first show.  

She’s a firm believer that hard work beats talent and that grit pays off. She wants  listeners to know that she is committed to this way of life, but it has not been easy. Like many of her clients, she’s been there. She’s cried and canceled dates because none of her clothes fit. She’s been chastised by friends, family members, co-workers, acquaintances, and people on social media about her size and body. And she says “IF I CAN DO IT, YOU CAN DO IT.”  Her favorite “Tianna Tip” is, “You’ve got what it takes, but it’s going to take everything you’ve got.” 

In this episode, Tianna teaches us:

1. Strong is the new skinny.
2. The hardest part is getting started. You don’t have to be great to start…but, you have to start to be great.
3. If you’re sick, you go to a doctor. If you want to be fit, you need a fitness trainer.
4. Make an appointment on your calendar with yourself to ensure you get in your workout every day.
5. Abs are made in the kitchen! Get rid of the sugar…No more twinkies or bon bons, ladies.
6. It's all about balancing diet, cardio, yoga and weightlifting.  Cardio burns fat while you’re doing it. Weightlifting helps you to continue to burn fat, even once you’ve stopped working.
7. Get it in where you can fit it in.
8. Hiring a fitness trainer can cost less than Starbucks…so get out there and invest in YOURSELF!

It is time to invest in yourself! We're not just talking about getting your health back on track. We're talking about getting your LIFE back on track. Do you feel like you've put so much time and attention into loving and holding space for everyone else that you don't even know who YOU are anymore? We're here to help you find yourself and your purpose in life. Join our tribe of fierce women at dearmidlife.com and gain access to tools and resources that will help you to rediscover yourself and what brings you joy.

Christina Tinker is a learning and development leader, leadership coach and facilitator, a published author and continues to explore and evolve herself. Her tremendous and diverse career includes traveling the U.S. and Europe implementing corporate training programs for some of the most prestigious global organizations and spending more than a decade as a senior Sales Executive and top performing revenue contributor in three of the most revered technology firms in the world.

However, like many of us, while Christina was successful in her roles, she felt somewhat unfulfilled and continued to open her mind and her heart to accept new opportunities that felt more authentic and generated more contentment.  Christina reminds us that we are all able to re-write our stories if we can quiet the noise enough to hear the call to what is next. In the last decade, Christina launched a non-profit organization, speaking to hundreds of young people, teachers, and coaches on the topics of work-life integration, mental health awareness, and the link between wellness and productivity.

Her recently published book, Hope for Recovery: Stories of Healing from Eating Disorders is now available through all major book outlets. A native Texan, Christina and her husband Jonathan, along with their three children Alex, Andrew, and Anastasia, have lived in Virginia for the last five years. In her next chapter, Christina and her family will be relocating to Nashville, Tennessee this summer as Christina and Jonathan tackle new professional opportunities in the healthcare industry. Christina approaches the tough but joyful tasks of marriage and motherhood with the same tenacity and fierce love she brings to her work life every day. And she is here today to help walk us through these transitions she’s made in life, how she’s gotten grounded and clear on her authentic self and to share her perspective on how she’s been able to find her own inner light. 

In this episode, Christina teaches us:

1. Experience lifelong learning, which is entirely possible (if you're willing) and is enjoyable and fun.
2. Get quiet, Listen and intentionally follow when the invitations are offered
3. Discover what is the “Unmet need” for why you think it (life) has to be hard?
4. Find like-minded women and communities
5. Learn to be still so that you can reflect on what feels good and authentic to you
6. Learn to play again

Are you feeling unfulfilled? Do you KNOW that you are meant for more? Girl, we've been in your shoes and it's time to level-up your game. We know it is hard! As women, we've been taught to put EVERYONE else first! But, it is time to prioritize yourself and become your own hero. Go to our website, dearmidlife.com, to gain access to valuable tools and resources that will guide you along the way. Jump into the conversation with our tribe of supporters who will hold your hand through every challenge.