Decoding Attachment Styles

By Annalisa BahadurHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

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Decoding Attachment Styles episodes

September 23, 2024 Avoidant Attached Broke Up Suddenly
This is a common phenomenon that most people with an anxious attachment style will experience if they dated someone with an avoidant attachment style. That is of the Avoidant Attached person suddenly running away after a conflict or breaking up. It can be really confusing for their partner and this episode helps us to appreciate why they do it and what we can do.
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September 18, 2024 Avoidant Overwhelm With Texting. Why?
This episode helps you to appreciate why and Avoidant Attached person may feel overwhelmed with text messaging and what it means when they don’t respond right away. This episode also helps you to make some decisions through awareness and how to approach texting with an Avoidant Attached partner.
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14 min
September 11, 2024 When TO reach Out After 3 Months Of No Contact
It’s tricky to know when to reach out to an avoidant attached partner. This episode. helps you to make that decision, but also talks about whites. Important to stay away and what happens in the minds of an avoidant attached partner as they’re taking space. It also helps you to appreciate what you can do in this time.

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July 15, 2024 WHY AVOIDANT ATTACHED CHEATS
Avoidance styles play significant role in shaping our behaviors and interactions in relationships. Individuals with an avoidant attachment style, may struggle with intimacy, emotional closeness, leading to challenges and maintaining healthy connections with their partners. One common issue that may arise as infidelity or cheating with Relationship.

Understanding why someone with an avoidant attachment style may cheat requires a closer look at their underlying motivations and behaviors.

This podcast aims to address that question.
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June 27, 2024 7 REASONS AVOIDANT ATTACHED AVOID CONFLICTS
You’re probably trying to understand why it is your partner does not engage in conflict or worse, they walk away when a conflict begins. What can even be a little more confusing as when they return without discussing the problem at all; pretending like it never happened in the first place.

This episode tries to bring about some awareness to what happens in the mind of those with an avoidant attachment style during times of conflict. It’s also aims to share some reasons for their actions.
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June 04, 2024 The Human Behind The Avoidant
We’re all very interested in what happens in the mind of a person who’s got an avoidant attachment style. This podcast may be for you if you’re also one of the many, who is interested in knowing what is going on behind the walls.
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May 28, 2024 BLACK CAT- GOLDEN RETRIEVER & ATTACHMENT STYLES
The goal is not to mimic the energy of a golden retriever or a black cat, but embrace our authentic self and build secure attachments that allow us to be vulnerable, connected, and truly seen in our relationships.

If you’d like to know more about this, this is the podcast for you.
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9 min
May 06, 2024 Does The Attraction Return - Avoidant Attachment
The question is does the attraction return after an avoidant ex partner leaves the relationship. And how long does it take for that attraction to return if it does.

Remember, it’s also important to take into consideration of what the relationship was like and why it ended.
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April 26, 2024 TAKE CONTROL IN HOW YOU DATE
Consistency is incredibly important when we’re trying to build a healthy foundation for a healthy relationship. However, the way we react and responded. The very beginning of dating will set the tone for what to expect in a relationship. If you are on the dating scene or you’re about to get on it this is the Podcast for you.

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April 02, 2024 WHY AVOIDANT ATTACHED PERSON NEED SPACE AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP
You might be confused as to why your avoidant attached partner needs as much space or perhaps why they detach and disappear for days. This episode may shed some light and help you assist them.

If you have an avoidant attachment style and it's kept you from forming meaningful lasting relationship, perhaps this episode will help you manage the fears of opening up to a partner.

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About Decoding Attachment Styles

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I talk about the push and pull in relationships. The anxious spiraling. The person who needs to talk about everything right now and the person who would rather have the conversation sometime in…

2037.

I've lived some of these relationships myself. I used to be anxiously attached, and understanding my own attachment was part of how I learned to become more secure.

But somewhere along the way, I became just as fascinated by the other side.

Why do people do what they do?

I've been asking that question for as long as I can remember.

As a kid, I used to get into trouble for asking “why?” Apparently repeatedly asking adults for the reasoning behind their decisions wasn't considered charming.

But I genuinely wanted to understand. Why was this expected of me? Why did people behave the way they did? Why could two people experience exactly the same situation and walk away with completely different versions of what happened?

Decades later, I'm still asking those questions.

I've studied psychology and attachment, read the textbooks and research, observed thousands of conversations about relationships, worked with people struggling with these patterns, and lived plenty of them myself.

And one of the ways I came to understand attachment was to imagine that we were each handed a survival script.

There are four broad scripts: anxious, dismissive-avoidant, fearful-avoidant and secure.

The script influences what feels safe to us. What feels threatening. How much closeness we want. What we do when we're afraid. How we communicate, fight, pull away, pursue, ask for reassurance, protect our independence, set boundaries and love other people.

It doesn't explain everything about a person, and attachment isn't destiny.

But once you start recognizing these patterns, they're very difficult to unsee.

That's what this podcast is about.

I'm sharing what I've learned from psychology, research, observation, my work, and my own life - not so we can put everyone into four neat little boxes, but so we can understand each other better.

And then do something useful with that understanding.

Sometimes that means communicating differently. Sometimes it means setting a boundary. Sometimes it means working on yourself. Sometimes it means understanding why someone behaves the way they do without continuing to accept the behavior. And sometimes it means letting go of the outcome altogether.

So if you're fascinated by attachment, or you're simply trying to understand why your partner, ex, parent, sibling, friend, or even you keep doing something that makes absolutely no sense to you...

welcome.

This is exactly what we're going to talk about.