Decoding Attachment Styles

By Annalisa BahadurHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

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February 27, 2025 Avoidant Pulls Away When You Ask For Validation
Why and Avoidant Attached pulls away when you ask for validation and what you can do. This Podcast addresses that.

Grab your pen and paper because this is going to be a podcast that helps you to give yourself the validation and build a happy and healthy relationship with your Avoidant Attached partner.
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48 min
February 21, 2025 Boundaries After Breakup
In this episode, we dive into the complexities of navigating boundaries and expectations after a breakup between an anxious and avoidant attachment style.
Join me as we explore the challenges of reaching out, the importance of self-awareness, and how to set healthy boundaries while honoring your emotional needs.

Whether you're reflecting on past relationships or seeking clarity in the present, this episode offers insights into healing and growth after attachment-driven dynamics.
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32 min
February 19, 2025 Why Boundaries Aren’t Working
You’ve probably been trying to set boundaries with your Avoidant Attached partner for a while now, but feel like you’re not getting anywhere. Or perhaps you make a little bit of progress when you’re upset and you see a little bit of change but then things go right back to way they were.

I get it. It’s frustrating. You’ve probably even thought that you can’t do this anymore and you’re probably emotionally exhausted with it all.

This episode talks about why boundary setting isn’t working and how you can actually get it to work.
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16 min
January 31, 2025 Signs of Avoidant Attachment
Learning about the avoidance attachment,

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be one of the hottest topics. This episode helps us to uncover everything we need to know about our Avoidant Attached partners.

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33 min
December 17, 2024 Actions For Boundaries- Not Words
Many times we think that we have to set our boundaries by speaking up. What I find is that by showing our boundaries we get more results. In this

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17 min
October 30, 2024 My Avoidant Attached Partner Shuts Me Out With Sex
It can be heartbreaking when we are rejected when making an attempt to be physically close to a partner. In this episode, I answer one of your questions on if sexual desires differ as per attachment style, and what to do when a partner rejects your initiations for physical intimacy.

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10 min
October 29, 2024 Is Avoidant Attached Responsible For Showing Up? Can Premature Birth Account For Anxious Attachment Style
It is frustrating when our partner knows what we need, and they are still unable, sometimes unwilling, to provide that for us. Are they responsible for how we feel and how can we go about our lives in the relationship when they are still unable to step up? This Podcast answers that question.

Another question answered here is, how much does being a premature baby add to our anxious attachment or our avoid attachment.

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18 min
October 27, 2024 When Avoidant Attached Gets Overwhelmed With Work-Life Balance
We may be adding pressure to the relationship without even realizing it. Sometimes it’s difficult for us to balance our work and our relationship, as relationships by itself is a difficult to navigate and manage. This episode helps us to understand what can go on the mind of an Avoidant Attached person when they’re feeling too overwhelmed, and what may be the reason they may choose to end a relationship. Help us to navigate to our own emotions.

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21 min
October 24, 2024 How To Heal Insecurities
Healing, our insecurities, can go a very far away and helping our relationships to flourish. Insecurities can add a burden on the relationship and can lead to an inevitable end.

This podcast covers how we could heal our insecurities which are linked to our attachment styles. This podcast will give you tips and exercises to do as well as explain why these work.

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24 min
October 22, 2024 Narcissism and Avoidant Attachment Style
It can be confusing when you’re with someone who’s got to avoid attachment style and they’re acting like what we believe a narcissist would act like. This episode clears that up for us and helps us to embrace the person with an avoidant attachment style with compassion, and run as far away as we can from someone who’s got a narcissistic personality disorder.
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21 min

About Decoding Attachment Styles

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I talk about the push and pull in relationships. The anxious spiraling. The person who needs to talk about everything right now and the person who would rather have the conversation sometime in…

2037.

I've lived some of these relationships myself. I used to be anxiously attached, and understanding my own attachment was part of how I learned to become more secure.

But somewhere along the way, I became just as fascinated by the other side.

Why do people do what they do?

I've been asking that question for as long as I can remember.

As a kid, I used to get into trouble for asking “why?” Apparently repeatedly asking adults for the reasoning behind their decisions wasn't considered charming.

But I genuinely wanted to understand. Why was this expected of me? Why did people behave the way they did? Why could two people experience exactly the same situation and walk away with completely different versions of what happened?

Decades later, I'm still asking those questions.

I've studied psychology and attachment, read the textbooks and research, observed thousands of conversations about relationships, worked with people struggling with these patterns, and lived plenty of them myself.

And one of the ways I came to understand attachment was to imagine that we were each handed a survival script.

There are four broad scripts: anxious, dismissive-avoidant, fearful-avoidant and secure.

The script influences what feels safe to us. What feels threatening. How much closeness we want. What we do when we're afraid. How we communicate, fight, pull away, pursue, ask for reassurance, protect our independence, set boundaries and love other people.

It doesn't explain everything about a person, and attachment isn't destiny.

But once you start recognizing these patterns, they're very difficult to unsee.

That's what this podcast is about.

I'm sharing what I've learned from psychology, research, observation, my work, and my own life - not so we can put everyone into four neat little boxes, but so we can understand each other better.

And then do something useful with that understanding.

Sometimes that means communicating differently. Sometimes it means setting a boundary. Sometimes it means working on yourself. Sometimes it means understanding why someone behaves the way they do without continuing to accept the behavior. And sometimes it means letting go of the outcome altogether.

So if you're fascinated by attachment, or you're simply trying to understand why your partner, ex, parent, sibling, friend, or even you keep doing something that makes absolutely no sense to you...

welcome.

This is exactly what we're going to talk about.