Decoding Attachment Styles

By Annalisa BahadurHealth & Fitness Mental Health Education Self-Improvement

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Decoding Attachment Styles episodes

August 18, 2025 Is Space Without Contact Okay?
Is it okay for your partner to take space and drop off the face of the earth without responding to your texts or calls? Not if you’re in a serious committed relationship. This podcast explains why and what you should do.

If you’re avoidant attached and want to know how to ask for space without your partner getting upset- listen to this podcast.

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44 min
August 11, 2025 How Long Does Rebound Relationships Last
This episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex.
The episode talks about why Avoidant Attached jumps into soon after a break
up, what their intentions are when returning to and what you can do to prevent yourself from becoming rebound.
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55 min
August 07, 2025Why Avoidant Get Into Rebounds
This is what we are talking about today-
Why avoidants rush into rebounds
The negative consequences of rebound relationships
Whether avoidants come back to their ex
What their (often anxious) partners should do
Healthier alternatives for avoidants
How secure individuals handle breakups and rebounds
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43 min
June 30, 2025 How to Set Boudaries When Giving Another Chance
Setting buddies after giving someone a second chance can feel tricky. We want to let them back into our lives but how do we do it with light lagging them take us for granted again.
This podcasts answers that question.
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27 min
June 25, 2025 Don’t Feel Like The Priority? Listen to this
We all want to feel like the priority in the relationship but this is often not felt when in a relationship with an avoidant attached person. But is this only with a avoidant attached partner or can an insecure (anxious or avoidant) attached feel that way with a secure attached as well. This podcast helps to break down a few possible reasons you may not feel that way.
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31 min
June 20, 2025 Simple Way To Know Your Attachment Style
It can be confusing spotting your attachment style or knowing exactly which is your partners attachment style. This podcast simplifies the attachment style so you can understand them and appreciate how and why they show up in your every day life. You’ll also have a better understanding of how and if your partner can trigger a different attachment within you.

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14 min
June 16, 2025 How Co-Dependency Ruins Your Relationship But Doesn’t Have To
Do you find you’re in a co-dependent relationship that is affecting your relationship? Maybe you need them too much, or perhaps you don’t want to need them as much but don’t know what to do.
This podcast shares how our attachment styles show up in co-dependent relationships and what you can do to manage it.
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19 min
May 29, 2025 Should You Stay Single and Wait For Secure Attached Partner
Should you leave early Relationship and heal or stay single until you find someone who is securely attached? Is it that simple? Better yet, would it be best to heal your attachment style while still in a relationship or while waiting for someone who is securely attached, I believe that might be a better bet and in this podcast, I share how to attachment styles or formulated so that you have a better understanding of the work that you’re gonna wanna do in order to heal that attachment style and find yourself that securely attached partner.
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19 min
May 24, 2025 Understanding and Healing Avoidant Attachment.
One of the most sought after answers in our time now is how to manage a relationship with an Avoidant Attached person and, what is really going on in their minds. This episode helps an Avoidant Attached person understand themselves better, as well as starter healing journey. It also helps those who are interested in understanding and appreciating their avoidant attached friends and partner better.
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30 min
May 21, 2025 What Are The Signs That An Avoidant Ex Is Forever Gone?
This is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today’s episode we answered these questions 👇…and more…

What are the signs that an avoidant ex is forever gone and the relationship has ended
Man has been living a double life. He’s been in two relationships while messaging other women. What should I do?
Do avoidant people honestly love and care about you, or is it just a game?
If I have awareness that I am an anxious attached person and my partner is fearful avoidant, how can I make this work?
How to not be a manipulator?
Would telling a dismissive avoidant I now see my partner in our disconnection and break up with them help mend things?
Is there a way to reignite the spark after you’ve lost interest or should we give up?
How to work on anxiety and overthinking?
What does it mean when an avoidant attached keeps replying to you but says they have no idea what to say?
Why do avoidant give mixed signals and vague responses when asked for honesty?
Why can’t an avoidant tell their ex to leave them alone and go away?

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1 hr 3 min

About Decoding Attachment Styles

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I talk about the push and pull in relationships. The anxious spiraling. The person who needs to talk about everything right now and the person who would rather have the conversation sometime in…

2037.

I've lived some of these relationships myself. I used to be anxiously attached, and understanding my own attachment was part of how I learned to become more secure.

But somewhere along the way, I became just as fascinated by the other side.

Why do people do what they do?

I've been asking that question for as long as I can remember.

As a kid, I used to get into trouble for asking “why?” Apparently repeatedly asking adults for the reasoning behind their decisions wasn't considered charming.

But I genuinely wanted to understand. Why was this expected of me? Why did people behave the way they did? Why could two people experience exactly the same situation and walk away with completely different versions of what happened?

Decades later, I'm still asking those questions.

I've studied psychology and attachment, read the textbooks and research, observed thousands of conversations about relationships, worked with people struggling with these patterns, and lived plenty of them myself.

And one of the ways I came to understand attachment was to imagine that we were each handed a survival script.

There are four broad scripts: anxious, dismissive-avoidant, fearful-avoidant and secure.

The script influences what feels safe to us. What feels threatening. How much closeness we want. What we do when we're afraid. How we communicate, fight, pull away, pursue, ask for reassurance, protect our independence, set boundaries and love other people.

It doesn't explain everything about a person, and attachment isn't destiny.

But once you start recognizing these patterns, they're very difficult to unsee.

That's what this podcast is about.

I'm sharing what I've learned from psychology, research, observation, my work, and my own life - not so we can put everyone into four neat little boxes, but so we can understand each other better.

And then do something useful with that understanding.

Sometimes that means communicating differently. Sometimes it means setting a boundary. Sometimes it means working on yourself. Sometimes it means understanding why someone behaves the way they do without continuing to accept the behavior. And sometimes it means letting go of the outcome altogether.

So if you're fascinated by attachment, or you're simply trying to understand why your partner, ex, parent, sibling, friend, or even you keep doing something that makes absolutely no sense to you...

welcome.

This is exactly what we're going to talk about.