Narcissists will claim to know a lot. They will appear certain. And yet, many of the things they claim to know are... unknowable. Or it is not possible for them to be as certain as they are. In this episode, I share some thoughts to avoid falling for the "certainty = credibility" trap.

What happens is we apply a risk / reward analysis to narcissists and toxic relationships? The results are eye opening. Join us for another multidisciplinary take on toxic relationships.

I just came across an article "what words can destroy a narcissist" on some website. I think it was generated by AI. And it was full of really toxic ideas and thought structures. I recorded my debunking of these ideas that WILL backfire on anyone who tries them.

I really dislike when people take advantage of others. And it's important to recognise bad and unhelpful ideas.

Cults and Narcissists use nearly identical manipulation tricks that are very effective - until we recognise them and debunk them. In this episode I share 6 of these tricks they play and make some suggestions to make yourself less vulnerable.

Here is a sneak preview of some ideas I explore in the book I am writing on narcissism. I finally found an angle I think is relevant and would love to hear what you think. I list the 11 mistakes below.

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The mistakes are:

1. Wanting to diagnose

2. Wanting to understand

3. Wanting to fix them

4. Wanting to not see the obvious

5. Wanting to believe it's our fault, i.e. it's fixable and it's something we did

6. Wanting to always learn more (become obsessed)

7. Wanting to not let go

8. Wanting to believe someone has the answers

9. Wanting a simplistic answer (worldview)

10. Wanting to be validated

11. Wanting a distraction

Narcissists use convoluted / stupid thinking to manipulate others and defend low quality ideas. Once we recognise HOW narcissists think, it becomes easier to avoid being manipulated and to avoid embracing low quality ideas. In this episode I share 11 of these ideas and debunk the.

Is therapy helpful after being with a narcissist? Is all therapy equal? What are some things to look out for? What was my experience working with a therapist through a breakup WITHOUT being aware of narcissism? I share some thoughts on this topic.

In short, I recommend working with licensed therapists who have experience dealing with personality disorders, otherwise you run the risk of the "both people contributed to the problems". This usually is true, and it is very different when one person is pretending to be someone else.

When a friend's new partner starts employing Isolation Tactics, or Loyalty Challenge, when they are trying to create conflict between the friend and their Support Group, what is really going on? And if you put down boundaries, are you being unreasonable or… Doing the right thing? Tune in to find out!

Narcissists use Rupars to gaslight us. The technique is obnoxious, and effective, and can make us hallucinate they are right, and we are wrong.

So what is a Rupar, how does it work, and how can we avoid getting rupared by #narcissists?

Why don't narcissists admit when they get something wrong? There are two reasons. Until we understand them, we are likely to try to get them to see things from our point of view. That is exhausting and frustrating.

But once we understand why we can't work through things with them, it becomes easier to stop wasting our time and energy.