Have you ever found yourself in a heated moment with a loved one, wondering, "How did I get here?” and “Can we get past this?" 

We often jump right into defensiveness and blame the other person for what WE might be feeling, which immediately disconnects us. 

But what if you took a u-turn and used it as an opportunity to better understand the other person and most importantly, better understand YOURSELF?

A rupture in a relationship can be a golden opportunity to build an even stronger, more resilient bond with them and yourself. 

In this episode, I'm joined by my dear friend and licensed marriage and family therapist, Tina Hartney. Together we explore the topic of relationship repair and how to build stronger connections through effective conflict resolution.

In our conversation, you'll learn:

• How connecting with your body’s reaction during a conflict can increase your emotional intelligence and help you learn to communicate your feelings more effectively.
• Why "blame, shame, and defensiveness" are the DEATH of healthy communication and of the repair process.
• What does it mean to make a "U-turn” and how can you use it as a self-reflection tool that can shift how you approach conflicts? 
• The power of using "I" statements, active listening, and validation in resolving conflicts and promoting understanding between partners.
• Why some people might struggle with an “apology” and the difference between a head and heart apology.
• 4 strategies for improving your communication skills during a conflict to foster healthier connections with your loved ones.

Join us and find out how we can turn your relationship conflicts into opportunities for growth and deeper connections. 

Our previous interview was "Debunking Therapy Myths" on  7/20/23

XO,

Laurie

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Tina Hartney

​​Tina is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  She works with adults, specializing in couples therapy and trauma.  Tina is a Certified Bioenergetic Therapist, a modality that combines somatic and relational work.  She’s also trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Gestalt, and is an EMDR practitioner.  Tina has been training in Internal Family Systems and is very excited to offer this style of work to her therapeutic toolbox.  Tina’s office is in Hermosa Beach,

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