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In this heartfelt episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Jamie Buzzelle, a certified parenting coach and founder of The Repairent Coach. Together, they dive into the critical role of 'repair' in parenting, especially during and after divorce. Jamie explains the art of true apology and accountability with children, focusing on how to mend relationships through impactful communication. Her practical advice empowers parents to navigate their own emotional responses while fostering trust and resilience in their children.

Jamie emphasizes that parenting is more than a role—it’s a relationship that requires intentionality, patience, and humility. She walks listeners through real-world scenarios, sharing strategies to model healthy behavior, communicate openly, and repair the inevitable ruptures that happen along the way. Jamie also shares the significance of separating intention from impact, a crucial step in truly validating children’s feelings and building lasting trust.

Whether you're in the throes of divorce or simply navigating the daily challenges of parenting, this episode offers transformative insights on how to heal, grow, and reconnect with your children. Tune in for a powerful discussion that highlights the importance of grace, empathy, and intentionality in parenting through life’s toughest transitions.

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Olivia Howell: Hello, hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter—because as we know, divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today, we’re here with one of our Fresh Starts experts to discuss one of my favorite topics: parenting. Jamie, can you tell us who you are and what you do?

Jamie Buzzelle: Hi, I’m Jamie Buzzelle, and I’m a certified parenting coach. I run The Reparent Coach, where I help parents reconnect with their kids. My work spans from expecting parents who want to get ahead of challenges to parents with adult children who may be experiencing disconnects. My goal is to help parents of all stages prioritize their relationship with their children.

Olivia Howell: That sounds amazing! We’re definitely going to have you back because there’s so much to unpack, especially when it comes to adult children of divorce. But today, I really want to focus on your specialty—repair. Can you explain what repair is and why it’s so important in parenting, especially during and after divorce?

Jamie Buzzelle: Absolutely. Repair is the art of learning how to apologize and take accountability. Many people don’t truly understand what an effective apology looks like. It’s not about defending yourself or explaining your intentions—it's about acknowledging the impact of your actions. This concept is crucial for rebuilding trust in any relationship, whether it’s with your child, spouse, friend, or colleague. Parenting is, at its core, a relationship. To make it successful, you must prioritize it, regardless of your child’s age.

Olivia Howell: I love how you frame that. Repair is a skill that applies beyond just parenting. You mentioned that parents often struggle with separating intention from impact. Can you elaborate on that?

Jamie Buzzelle: Of course. When parents apologize, they often want to explain their side to reassure their kids that they’re not bad people. But an apology should start with acknowledging how your actions impacted the child, full stop. Once the repair has happened, you can later discuss your intentions if the child is open to it. But separating those two elements is key. It helps children feel seen and heard, which builds trust and emotional safety.

Olivia Howell: That’s so insightful. I’m sure a lot of parents struggle with balancing those dynamics. Let’s discuss a practical scenario. Imagine a parent who’s newly separated, feeling overwhelmed, and on a phone call with a lawyer when their child comes in asking for a snack. The parent snaps, yelling, 'Get out!' How should they approach repairing that interaction?

Jamie Buzzelle: Great question. First, it’s essential to address body language. Get down on the child’s level to reduce the power dynamic and make them feel safe. Then, say something like, 'Hey buddy, can I talk to you about what happened?' Kids are resilient, but you still need to model accountability. Say, 'When I yelled earlier, that wasn’t about you. I’m sorry for yelling—it’s not your fault.' Stop there. Don’t explain your stress. The goal is to validate their feelings and take responsibility.

Olivia Howell: That’s fantastic advice. You’re so right about modeling behavior. Now, what if kids overhear their parents fighting? How can parents approach that kind of repair?

Jamie Buzzelle: Acknowledge it directly. Say, 'Hey, I’m guessing you heard mommy and daddy fighting. That must have been scary. I’m really sorry you had to hear that.' Allow them to express how they feel, and make sure to reassure them that it’s not their fault. Always be honest in an age-appropriate way and let them know they are safe. It’s vital to validate their emotions rather than dismiss them.

Olivia Howell: You’ve given us so much to think about. I’m truly grateful for your insight. If people want to learn more or work with you, where can they find you?

Jamie Buzzelle: I primarily work via Zoom, so I can connect with anyone. You can find me at thereparentcoach.com and on Instagram at @thereparentcoach. I share practical advice on parenting, repair, and maintaining healthy relationships.

Olivia Howell: Wonderful. Thank you so much for being here, Jamie. Your perspective on repair is truly valuable, and I know this episode is going to help so many people.

Jamie Buzzelle: Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it!

In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Rose Pulver, owner of The Thoughtful Home Maryland, to explore the emotional side of organizing during a divorce. Together, they discuss why creating a peaceful home environment is a crucial step toward healing and rebuilding, and how the physical act of decluttering can bring a sense of emotional relief.

Rose shares her insights on managing the overwhelming attachment many people feel toward belongings during a transition. She emphasizes that it’s okay to take your time with the purging process and reminds listeners that professional organizers can work with a variety of budgets and needs. With self-compassion and intentional systems, the path to a calmer, lighter home becomes much more achievable.

Throughout the conversation, Rose offers practical tips for creating manageable routines, storing sentimental items without cluttering your space, and reducing mental friction during a stressful season. Whether you’re mid-divorce or simply craving a reset, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and inspired to take small, sustainable steps forward.

Learn more about Rose Pulver and The Thoughtful Home: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-thoughtful-home

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Olivia Howell: Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because as we know, divorce happens and then you start fresh. Today, we're here with one of our Fresh Starts experts, Rose Pulver, to talk about a topic that often gets overlooked in divorce: the purging and healing process. It's something that’s truly entrenched in every corner of the divorce journey. So, Rose, can you introduce yourself and tell us what you do?

Rose Pulver: Well, first of all, thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here and chat with you today. My name is Rose Pulver. I’m the owner of The Thoughtful Home Maryland. We are a professional organizing company, and we specialize in helping busy families, professionals, and people going through life transitions elevate their lives through premium organizing services. We come in and help them organize their spaces—whether it's a small project or a complete overhaul—with the goal of helping them find peace and functionality in their homes.

Olivia Howell: I love that. We sometimes forget that our home is our safe space, and it’s important for it to feel good. And organized for one person might not look the same for someone else. I’d love for you to touch on that because I think there’s a bit of a stigma that hiring an organizer is only for wealthy people, but it seems like most organizers work with everyone. Is that true?

Rose Pulver: Yes, absolutely! There is an organizer for every budget and every situation. Most organizers are happy to work with you if you share your budget and your needs. It’s very much like hiring a personal trainer—you get better results with accountability and guidance. I think it's such a worthwhile investment in yourself and your space.

Olivia Howell: That’s a perfect comparison! Now, I want to jump into our main topic today. When you go through a divorce, there’s a lot of stuff, which is part of why we founded Fresh Starts—because there is just so much to manage. We get so emotionally attached to certain things, especially things that were part of a wedding registry or history with that person. And it’s easy to just pack it up and store it away. But then, you’re literally carrying that stuff into the next chapter. What can we do to emotionally separate from those things?

Rose Pulver: That’s a great question. I think it really depends on the person and where they’re at in the grieving process. It is a transition—it’s part of processing the end of that chapter. Some people are incredibly attached to items, and that’s okay! I always tell my clients, 'Give yourself grace.' If you’re not ready to get rid of it, put it in a labeled box and store it away. Revisit it in a year or two. There’s no rush.

If you are ready, I suggest doing it in stages. Maybe put it in storage for 90 days and see how you feel. If it’s still triggering or too much, that’s fine. Revisit it later. But if you’re feeling detached, it might be time to let it go. I’m a big fan of purging—I love getting rid of things that no longer serve you. If it’s tied to your ex and doesn’t bring you joy, you have zero obligation to keep it.

Olivia Howell: I love that. It’s all about giving yourself grace and moving at your own pace. So, let’s talk about how an organizer can help. If someone is moving to a new apartment or, like in my case, splitting everything up, how do you help with that?

Rose Pulver: It’s all about identifying what’s staying and what’s going. I come in and do a full assessment, categorize everything, and figure out what belongs where. We create systems, organize spaces, and make it functional. If you’ve got 20 spatulas, we might say, 'You probably only need two!' We go through everything, purge what you don’t need, and create a system so everything has a home. It’s about making life easier and more manageable.

Olivia Howell: I love that. Systems are everything! And I appreciate that you said it’s rarely clean when you’re going through a divorce. That’s so true. I remember when I was going through mine, my house was a mess, and I didn’t have the emotional capacity to manage it. Having someone come in without judgment is so huge.

Rose Pulver: Absolutely! I always tell people that organizers are judgment-free. We’re just there to help. It’s all about giving you the space to breathe and find peace again.

Olivia Howell: So true. I’m so grateful for organizers like you who make it all seem manageable. Before we go, I’d love for you to share some words of encouragement for anyone listening who might be going through a divorce.

Rose Pulver: Of course. My biggest advice is to give yourself grace. Your feelings are always valid, and it’s okay to take your time. You don’t have to do everything at once—just take it day by day. When you’re ready, the process of purging and organizing will come naturally.

Olivia Howell: That’s beautiful, Rose. Thank you so much for sharing your expertise. I know people listening are going to find this so helpful. You can find Rose and The Thoughtful Home over at Fresh Starts and learn more about how she’s helping people create peace and functionality in their homes.

Rose Pulver: Thank you so much for having me. This was wonderful.

Olivia Howell: Thank you, Rose. We appreciate you!

In this powerful episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Amy Slate, also known as the Breakup Broker—a real estate agent who specializes in guiding women through the emotional and logistical challenges of selling a home during divorce. With years of experience and a deep understanding of the divorce journey, Amy offers compassionate, practical advice for making smart real estate decisions during one of life’s most stressful transitions.

Amy and Olivia discuss why choosing the right realtor is crucial when emotions are high and timelines are tight. From helping clients get on the same page to navigating the nitty-gritty of paperwork and negotiations, Amy explains how having professional support makes a huge difference in the outcome—both financially and emotionally. She shares tips on preparing a home for sale, creating realistic expectations, and the importance of slowing down and taking things one step at a time.

Whether you’re in the thick of your divorce or just beginning to consider what comes next, this episode will leave you feeling seen, supported, and informed. Amy’s blend of empathy and expertise is a must-hear for anyone facing the tough decision of selling a shared home. Grab a cup of coffee and tune in—you’re not alone, and there’s a clear path forward.

Learn more about Amy Slate here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-breakup-broker

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Olivia Howell:

Let’s jump in. Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce—with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because divorce happens… and then you start fresh.

Today, I’m so excited to introduce one of our Fresh Starts experts with quite possibly the best business name ever: Amy Slate, also known as The Breakup Broker. Amy, can you tell us what you do?

Amy Slate:

Sure! I’m a real estate agent licensed in both Massachusetts and Florida. I work with all kinds of clients, but my focus is helping women who are going through divorce, separation, or breakups. I guide them through the complexities of selling a home during this major life transition.

Olivia Howell:

I love that so much. Every day I meet with people going through divorce, and two questions come up again and again: custody and what to do with the marital home. Our mission at Fresh Starts is to reduce anxiety where we can—and real estate is a huge part of that.

So, Amy, what’s the process? If someone owns a home with their soon-to-be ex, how do they decide to sell, choose a realtor, and actually go through with the sale?

Amy Slate:

Great question. First, take a step back and look at your situation holistically—from financial, emotional, and logistical perspectives. These all impact the decision to sell. Having someone like me to talk things through can really reduce anxiety. Divorce is overwhelming, and adding a home sale on top of it is a lot. That’s why it’s crucial to find a real estate expert who understands divorce and can walk you through the options.

Olivia Howell:

Totally. And it’s not like there’s one central place to find all the answers—everything is so case-specific, from mortgage terms to who’s on the deed. Let’s say a couple is divorcing and needs a realtor. Do both parties have to agree on who to hire?

Amy Slate:

It depends. If they’re amicable, sure, they can agree on a realtor. If not, lawyers or even a judge might get involved to appoint someone. Ideally, one person brings a realtor into the conversation, and everyone meets to ensure they’re on the same page. It’s important that both parties feel included and informed. This is an emotional and complex process—without the divorce. Add divorce, and it’s even more layered.

Olivia Howell:

Which is why having someone neutral, like you, is so valuable. Once you’re hired, what should someone expect? What are the first steps?

Amy Slate:

I typically visit the home and, if possible, meet with both spouses. If one person isn’t comfortable being present, I make sure everything is well-documented and shared equally. Everyone needs to feel informed and heard.

Then we do a room-by-room walkthrough to determine what improvements could help the home sell faster and for more money. I create a categorized list: non-negotiables (like patching holes or cleaning up the yard), nice-to-haves (like staging), and optional items. I also bring in my network—cleaners, stagers, handypeople—so the clients aren’t overwhelmed trying to do everything themselves.

Olivia Howell:

Yes, we had to repaint our whole house in neutral colors when we sold. And that support system makes such a difference. But a lot of women tell me they consider selling without a realtor to “save money.” What do you say to that?

Amy Slate:

It’s common. But the data shows that sellers using a realtor usually net more money, even after commissions. Realtors market better, negotiate stronger deals, and make the home look its best. Also—do you really want to manage open houses, contracts, negotiations, and legal details on your own? Especially while navigating a divorce?

Olivia Howell:

Exactly. It’s more than just a home sale—it’s tied to the legal, financial, and emotional threads of the divorce. So where do you work, and how do you work with clients?

Amy Slate:

I’m based in Boston and licensed in both Massachusetts and Florida. I mostly work in Greater Boston but do travel to Florida as needed. I pride myself on being a good listener, someone who really sees the emotional undercurrents while handling the logistics.

There’s a study that shows women going through divorce experience cognitive decline—they’re overwhelmed, distracted, and mentally exhausted. I understand that, and I do everything I can to take the real estate burden off their plate.

Olivia Howell:

I’m sure you walk into a room and immediately sense the emotional dynamics.

Amy Slate:

It’s a blessing and a curse—I can be in a restaurant and pick up on everyone’s vibes! But that’s also why I do this work. Divorce is emotional, even for those who think they’re “fine.” I want to help make the process easier and more manageable.

Olivia Howell:

That’s exactly why we created Fresh Starts. Divorce support requires a team—realtors, attorneys, mortgage pros, estate planners—you need them all. So, if someone is considering divorce but hasn’t said anything yet, can they talk to a realtor confidentially?

Amy Slate:

Absolutely. As a licensed realtor, I follow a code of ethics and confidentiality. You can have a private conversation just to explore your options. And because I work in the divorce space, I also have a vetted network. For example, I might suggest a forensic accountant if needed.

Olivia Howell:

I love that. Final question: What words of wisdom do you have for someone listening who is in the thick of it?

Amy Slate:

Take it one step at a time. I’m a list-maker, but in my own divorce, the lists just overwhelmed me. So now I tell people—start small. Build your team. You cannot and should not do it alone. Whether it’s professionals or trusted friends, lean on others. That’s what they’re there for.

Olivia Howell:

That’s our favorite advice too. Thank you, Amy, for being part of the Fresh Starts community and supporting women through these major life transitions. If you want to connect with Amy, visit FreshStartsRegistry.com or her website, The Breakup Broker. All her info is linked in the show notes.

Divorce is often a turning point—not just in relationships, but in careers and financial independence. In this episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Melissa Cossette, founder and CEO of Max Event, to talk about how women can take control of their futures by starting a business in the event industry. Whether you're looking for a career pivot, a flexible work-life balance, or a passion-driven income stream, Melissa shares how her Business Builder Program helps women turn their love for event planning into a thriving business.

Melissa breaks down why so many women, especially single moms, feel stuck in unfulfilling jobs and how entrepreneurship can offer a fresh start. She dives into the confidence-building process, the biggest mistakes new business owners make, and how her program provides hands-on coaching, expert guidance, and step-by-step business support. With a strong emphasis on mindset, overcoming imposter syndrome, and pricing your services with confidence, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone thinking about starting their own business after divorce.

If you’ve been feeling "not ready" to take the leap, Melissa shares why there's never a perfect time—but now is always the right time to invest in yourself. Whether you’ve been planning every party for friends and family for years or you’re simply looking for a career shift that brings joy and financial independence, this episode is packed with motivation, actionable advice, and real talk about what it takes to build a business.

Learn more about Melissa here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/maxevent

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What do you do after you sell the house in your divorce? Do you buy again? Rent? Invest in property somewhere totally new? In this practical and empowering episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell welcomes back Fresh Starts Expert Melissa Zimbelman—veteran real estate broker and property manager—to unpack the real questions people ask when it’s time to financially rebuild post-divorce.

Melissa shares her 20+ years of real estate insight to help newly divorced individuals (especially women) make smart, secure decisions with settlement money. From deciding whether to rent or buy, to understanding capital gains taxes, inheritance options, and why your CPA, trust attorney, and financial planner should be your new dream team—this episode is packed with must-know info.

Whether you’re thinking about buying an investment property out of state, setting up a rental unit in your backyard, or wondering if you should go in on a vacation home with friends (spoiler: think twice!), Melissa covers it all. She even breaks down how to hire a great property manager, how to avoid financial traps, and how to turn post-divorce real estate into a path toward long-term wealth and freedom.

Learn more about Melissa here: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/luxe-international-realty-property-management

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Episode Transcript: Investing After Divorce with Melissa Zimbelman

Olivia Howell: Hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and of course, a little bit of laughter—because divorce happens, and then you start fresh. We’re here again with one of our amazing Fresh Starts Experts, Melissa Zimbelman. I brought her back specifically because I get this question all the time during divorce consults: "What should I do with the money from selling the house?" So, Melissa, who are you, where are you, and what do you do?

Melissa Zimbelman: Hey! My name is Melissa Zimbelman. I live in Las Vegas, Nevada, and I’ve been in real estate and property management for over 23 years. We work with clients buying, selling, renting, and investing in properties—including internationally. My husband and I even own a home in Spain! So we’re seeing more people consider investing for their future outside the U.S. Thanks for having me back!

Olivia Howell: Of course. So here's the question: After selling the house in a divorce, what are the best options? Do you rent? Buy? Purchase and rent it out? Maybe even rent out a room in your home? What advice do you have for someone—often a woman—ready to invest in herself or in real estate?

Melissa Zimbelman: Great question. First, get professional support—a CPA, a trust attorney, and a financial planner. You need that “triangle of support” before making any decisions. One client might get $200K and should invest $30K into stocks or a money market for safety, while another might need to show a tax loss. Diversification is key, even if I love real estate.

Also, understand the tax implications—capital gains, estate planning, etc. Consult someone local to your state. Fresh Starts has amazing CDFA and tax professionals who can help.

Olivia Howell: Yes! It’s not just about the house sale—it’s also things like health insurance. I remember in New York, after a certain number of home sales, taxes kick in hard.

Melissa Zimbelman: Exactly. So once you’ve figured out what you’re working with, consider your options: You could add a tiny house or ADU in your backyard and rent it. A lot of women ask me about renting a room in their home. My advice? Be extremely cautious. Always run background checks—everyone seems charming until they don’t.

You can also invest out-of-state where housing and property taxes are cheaper. In Las Vegas, for example, 50% of homes are rentals, making it a great market. Hiring a trusted property manager is key—ask lots of questions and get clear on every potential fee. Never just go for the cheapest option.

Olivia Howell: You blew my mind when you said I could buy a property outside New York and manage it from afar.

Melissa Zimbelman: Absolutely. That’s what we do with our property in Spain. A good property manager handles everything—from maintenance to taxes—while we use it twice a year. If you’re thinking about retiring in another state, buy now, rent it out, and write off two annual visits.

Some folks even go in on vacation properties with friends, but be careful. If you’re not married, courts can’t intervene if things go sideways. It’s a financial relationship—so choose wisely.

Olivia Howell: That makes so much sense. Say someone has $50K for a down payment—what happens next?

Melissa Zimbelman: Work with a property manager and your financial planner to determine what kind of property fits your goals. For example, you might buy a $500K property that rents for $3,000/month. After expenses, you net $150/month plus equity over time. Just make sure to have a slush fund set aside for maintenance emergencies.

Olivia Howell: Got it. And it’s not always monthly fees for property managers?

Melissa Zimbelman: Correct. Usually, there’s a small startup fee and a monthly percentage of the collected rent. We hold $250 in an emergency fund for you—that’s your money. You don’t pay until a tenant is in place.

Olivia Howell: That’s such a smart way to make your money work for you.

Melissa Zimbelman: Yes! With the right property in the right market, it could cash flow monthly and appreciate in value. Even tiny homes or converted shipping containers are becoming rentals. You just need to research what’s allowed in your area.

Olivia Howell: Love the idea of a “single mom tiny house community”—so creative. Thank you, Melissa, for all of this incredible insight.

Melissa Zimbelman: Thank you! Most people build generational wealth through real estate—it doesn’t have to be huge or fancy. Just start smart, ask questions, and let it ride.

If you've ever wondered what happens when divorce, pregnancy, and postpartum collide—this episode is for you. In this eye-opening conversation on Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Jessica Hill, founder of The Parent Collective, to talk about the intersection of mental health, motherhood, and navigating major life transitions. From the isolation of the fourth trimester to the unexpected grief that can come with separating from a partner during pregnancy, this conversation is raw, real, and full of the kind of support so many people need but rarely find.

Jessica shares her powerful insights from years of supporting expectant and new parents through her nationally expanding platform, The Parent Collective. With classes designed to build community, offer practical education, and reduce overwhelm, her work is especially meaningful for single mothers—whether by choice or circumstance—who are looking for connection and clarity during a transformative time.

Olivia and Jessica also dive deep into how our culture still stigmatizes divorce, especially when it happens during parenthood. They challenge the outdated narratives that expect women to “power through” alone and offer solutions for how to build your support system, ask for help, and intentionally create the village every parent deserves. Whether you’re newly pregnant and planning to parent solo, in the middle of a divorce, or navigating postpartum recovery without your partner, this episode offers validation, actionable support, and a reminder that you don’t have to do it all by yourself.

Perfect for anyone navigating divorce while pregnant or postpartum, considering single motherhood, or looking to build a strong foundation as a new parent—this episode of Divorce Happens is filled with empathy, empowerment, and expert insight.

Learn more about Jessica Hill and The Parent Collective: https://www.freshstartsregistry.com/resourceguide/the-parent-collective

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Olivia Howell:

Hello, hello, and welcome back to Divorce Happens, the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because as we know—divorce happens… and then you start fresh.

Today, I’m joined by one of our amazing Fresh Starts Experts to talk about a really important topic: mental health during pregnancy, postpartum, and all the life transitions in between. Jessica, I’m so happy you’re here! Can you introduce yourself to our listeners?

Jessica Hill:

Hi everyone, and thank you so much for having me, Olivia. My name is Jessica Hill and I’m the founder of The Parent Collective. We offer prenatal education that’s designed to help expectant parents build community through learning.

We group our participants by neighborhood and due date, which helps them walk through the journey with people who are nearby and in the same stage. The goal is that people leave our classes with knowledge and a built-in support system.

Olivia:

That’s such a brilliant model. I remember The Parent Collective from many years ago—you were truly one of the pioneers in creating these kinds of community-based classes for new parents.

What’s really relevant here is that, after all these years supporting families, you’ve probably seen how little we still talk about divorce during pregnancy or the postpartum period. There’s so much stigma, and so much silence, especially when you're trying to redefine your life while becoming a parent.

Jessica:

Absolutely. We’ve supported a wide range of parents—divorced, solo by choice, and everything in between. For those who envisioned a partner by their side during postpartum, it can feel like a total upheaval when that vision changes.

When you're going through divorce and preparing for parenthood, you have to be extra intentional about building your support network. It’s already a massive transition. And when you’re doing it solo, emotionally or physically, you need to create that “village” intentionally and early on.

Olivia:

That’s such a great point. And that village doesn’t always have to be a romantic partner—it can be a sister, a best friend, a doula, or someone else who cares about you. I love how The Parent Collective gives people permission to build support systems that work for them.

Jessica:

Exactly. We always encourage people to bring someone to class who’s going to be a part of their postpartum support network—even if it’s not the baby’s other parent. When that person goes through the class with you, they’re equipped to notice things like postpartum anxiety or shifts in your mood. They can check in on you in a more informed and meaningful way.

Olivia:

I love that. Honestly, when I had my kids, it wasn’t my then-partner who noticed my mental health was declining—it was my sister. So I completely agree—it’s about finding your people.

Let’s talk more about what The Parent Collective offers. If someone’s listening and they’re not in a relationship, or they're going through a divorce, what does your programming look like for them?

Jessica:

At its heart, The Parent Collective is a four-week, in-person prenatal education series. We match participants by due date and neighborhood so they can connect with other local parents in the same stage.

We cover late pregnancy, labor and delivery, baby care, feeding, and the postpartum experience—including what it looks like emotionally and physically. The focus is on building confidence and community without overwhelming people with too much information.

Olivia:

That’s so needed—especially compared to those marathon hospital classes where you walk out totally overwhelmed and glassy-eyed.

Jessica:

Exactly! Our classes are designed to start important conversations—with your provider, your support person, and your wider community.

We also offer virtual options, like Labor & Delivery Prep, Breast & Bottle Feeding, Newborn Care, Postpartum Prep, First Aid, and Mastering Milestones. Some are webinars; some are more interactive and community-based.

Olivia:

Amazing. And if someone’s going through divorce, or solo parenting by choice, they can still join and bring whoever they feel safe with?

Jessica:

Definitely. Bring your best friend, your sister—whoever is going to be with you in the delivery room or in those first few months. It’s so helpful for them to be on the same page and speak the same language.

Olivia:

That makes so much sense. It’s about building a support system that works for you—which is what we’re all about at Fresh Starts, too. Now, tell us what’s coming up for The Parent Collective!

Jessica:

We’ve been expanding this year and now offer in-person classes in cities across the U.S.—including Philadelphia, Miami, San Francisco, Houston, Seattle, Manhattan, and outside Detroit. These are all mom-powered locations built by people who believe in what we’re doing.

Olivia:

I love that! You’re a national organization now. Not a local “mom and pop” anymore—you’re supporting people across the country.

Before we wrap, Jessica, if someone is listening to this and they’re going through a divorce while pregnant or postpartum, what words of encouragement would you offer?

Jessica:

You are not meant to do this alone. It’s okay to put yourself out there and find your people. Whether it’s through The Parent Collective, your library’s new parent group, mom-and-baby yoga, or even stroller walks—there are people out there who will meet you in this season.

Motherhood is already isolating. Going through it while navigating divorce adds another layer. But community is out there. You just have to take one small step.

Olivia:

So true. And if you’re wondering how to take that step—reach out to The Parent Collective. They’ll connect you with the right class and the right people for your stage of pregnancy and your situation.

Jessica, thank you so much for being here. You’re doing incredible work, and we’re so lucky to have you as part of the Fresh Starts expert network.

In this inspiring episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell chats with Melissa Rogers, professional matchmaker, dating coach, and vibrant voice of post-divorce empowerment. Melissa shares her story of moving through divorce and stepping into a version of herself that’s wiser, freer, and more self-assured. Having lived all over the U.S. and now based in El Paso, Texas, Melissa brings insight not only from her personal experience but from helping others find love after loss.

Melissa unpacks the three powerful lessons she learned from her divorce: 1) there’s no award for staying miserable; 2) control what you can, release what you can’t—especially when co-parenting; and 3) divorce is not failure. With humor and grace, she explains how being complicit in her own sadness kept her stuck—and how reclaiming her agency changed everything. She reminds us that when we stop setting ourselves on fire to keep others warm, we finally start living.

If you’re navigating the pain of divorce, wondering what comes next, or feeling like a “failure,” Melissa’s words will light you up with hope. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to reclaim joy, autonomy, and possibility after the end of a marriage.

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Olivia Howell:

Hello, hello! Welcome back to Divorce Happens—the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because as you know, divorce happens… and then you start fresh. I'm here today with our friend Melissa. Melissa, who are you, what do you do, where are you from—all the things!

Melissa Rogers:

Hi! I’m Melissa Rogers. I currently live in El Paso, Texas, but I’ve lived all over the U.S.—the Midwest, including Chicago, Minneapolis, and Wisconsin; New York City; Savannah, Georgia... I’ve truly been everywhere, which has been exciting! I’m a professional matchmaker and dating coach, which is a really fun job—and honestly, I’m even better at it now that I’ve been divorced. It’s been a journey, and I’ve gained so much new knowledge that’s helped me support others.

Olivia Howell:

I love that so much. One of my favorite things about this podcast is talking to people who have been through the process of divorce and hearing what they’ve learned. So Melissa, what are three things that you learned from getting divorced?

Melissa Rogers:

I’ve thought a lot about this—and the lessons are simple, but powerful. The first thing I learned is that I am not okay being complicit. In many marriages, the relationship ends long before the paperwork is filed. I see this with my clients, too—someone will say they’ve been divorced for three years, but in reality, they emotionally checked out six years ago. I always remind people: there’s no award for being the most complicit, for staying in a marriage that’s making you sad, just because you “signed up” for it. Once I realized that I have a choice in where my future is headed, everything changed. If your partner isn’t the person you want to call when something amazing—or awful—happens, that’s a sign. If it doesn’t set you on fire, you need to dream bigger.

Olivia Howell:

Yes! That’s so important.

Melissa Rogers:

The second lesson was about control. A lot of successful women who listen to this podcast probably relate—we're Type A, we love structure, we’re control freaks. And when you share kids with your ex, you still want control: why are they wearing that? Why would you give them those shoes? But I had to learn to release that. Co-parenting is a whole new world, and I had to let go of the version of me that thought I always knew best. It was a hard but necessary evolution.

Olivia Howell:

Yes, that's so real. Okay—what's the third lesson?

Melissa Rogers:

The last thing I had to come to terms with is that divorce isn’t failure. Divorce doesn’t mean you’re damaged goods. In my line of work, when I was married to the first person I ever loved, I thought, “This is it, I’ve won the jackpot.” But now? I honestly think divorced people are better at dating! They've gone through hell and still say, “I’m ready to get hurt again.” That takes courage. And just because someone says “I do” doesn’t mean they can—or will. People change, and sometimes what was true then isn’t true anymore. That’s okay.

Olivia Howell:

That’s such a good perspective. For someone listening who is in the middle of a divorce, what words of encouragement would you leave them with?

Melissa Rogers:

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. If you're staying “for the kids,” remember—they’ll thrive more in a happy household, even if it’s two separate homes. One solid, loving home that you control is better than none. Also: this isn’t your practice life. You’re not getting a do-over. So don’t stay just because you're afraid you're too far along in life to start over. To put it in golf terms—I’m on the back nine of life, and I’m loving it. It’s more thrilling, more fun, and so empowering to know I’m in control now.

Olivia Howell:

I love that so much. Thank you for your honesty and authenticity. I know your words are going to give someone listening a lot of hope today. Thanks for being here, Melissa.

Melissa Rogers:

Thanks for having me. I really hope it helps someone out there.

In this powerful episode of Divorce Happens, Olivia Howell sits down with Cindy DiTiberio—writer, ghostwriter, and author of the bestselling Substack The Mother Lode—to unpack the raw truths and hard-won wisdom that come with divorce. Cindy shares the three biggest lessons she learned through her own divorce, and nothing is off the table: finances, post-nups, boundaries, and reclaiming your power.

Cindy opens up about the moment she realized just how capable she truly is—especially in taking back control of her financial life after years of handing it over in her marriage. From doing her own taxes to uncovering the invisible labor of money management, she shares how divorce forced her to research, advocate, and rise. We also dig into why postnuptial agreements should be non-negotiable, and how they can radically change the power dynamics in a marriage.

Finally, Cindy shares the revolutionary impact of setting boundaries. Divorce, she says, taught her that she didn’t have to accept treatment that didn’t feel good—and that realization transformed all of her relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who's ever doubted their strength or felt stuck in outdated expectations.

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Olivia Howell:

Hello, hello, and welcome back to Divorce Happens—the podcast where we support you before, during, and after divorce with education, inspiration, and a little bit of laughter. Because as we know: divorce happens, and then you start fresh. Today, I’m joined by one of our friends here at Fresh Starts—Cindy! Cindy, can you tell us who you are and what you do?

Cindy DiTiberio:

Hi! I’m Cindy DiTiberio. I’m a writer and the creator of the bestselling Substack newsletter The Mother Load, where I unpack motherhood, marriage, and divorce. I’m currently working on my own book, and I also collaborate with others as a ghostwriter to help them tell their stories. I love what Fresh Starts is doing—Olivia has been key in my own journey, and I’ve used the experts in the network. I’m just so grateful for all the support.

Olivia Howell:

Thank you! We’re so happy to have you. One of my favorite segments on this show is talking to real people—real humans who’ve gone through divorce—about what they’ve learned. So, Cindy, what are three of the biggest lessons you learned from your divorce?

Cindy DiTiberio:

The first thing that came to mind is just how capable I am. As women, we’re often conditioned to give away our power, especially when it comes to money. During my marriage, I handed over all the financial responsibilities to my ex because he worked in finance—it just made sense at the time. But once we divorced, I was suddenly in charge of everything, and it was terrifying... but also incredibly empowering. I realized quickly: I can do this. I’m doing my own taxes, organizing my documents, thinking about deductions. I’m capable.

I think one of the biggest mistakes I made in my marriage was not being a collaborative partner in understanding our financial picture—our taxes, mortgage, accounts. When I had to figure it all out myself, I discovered I was really good at research. I can find anything I need to know, and now I’ve taken that same energy into learning about my finances. We are all capable—it’s just that the patriarchy teaches us to give our power away. But we can take it back at any time, whether we’re divorcing or not.

Olivia Howell:

Yes! What you’re describing is so common in marriages—so many of us just say, “Okay, you handle it,” and we get stuck. You write about this so beautifully, and your research in The Mother Load is so insightful. I was literally talking about you the other day and how you explain the challenges women face when trying to rent or buy a home post-divorce—especially as freelancers or part-time workers. I’ve learned so much from your work, and I hope you know how inspiring your story is.

Cindy DiTiberio:

Thank you, that means so much. The second big thing I learned was about postnuptial agreements. I didn’t even know what one was until I went through my divorce. Now, I’m incredibly passionate about them. I recently collaborated with Eve Rodsky and Fair Play, along with Aaron Thomas (aka The Prenup Guy), to create a guide to prenups and postnups.

Postnups could’ve saved me so much time, money, and energy. These agreements bring everything out on the table—your money, your accounts, your division of labor. They force conversations we often avoid in marriage: Who’s doing what? Is it equitable? Are both partners being valued? If you can’t even have these conversations, that’s a red flag. And when you’re in the middle of a contentious divorce, all the goodwill is gone, which makes it even harder to be generous or fair. Having a postnup early on can help avoid that.

Olivia Howell:

Absolutely. The inability to talk about money is such a warning sign.

Cindy DiTiberio:

It really is. These documents are protective, but they also serve as a tool to make marriages stronger. They codify expectations and labor. For instance, if one partner steps back in their career, a postnup can outline spousal support or protect the higher earner from paying alimony when labor wasn’t shared equitably. It’s about recognizing and honoring all forms of labor, both paid and unpaid.

Olivia Howell:

Okay—what’s the final lesson you learned from your divorce?

Cindy DiTiberio:

The third one has been the most transformational. Divorce taught me that I deserve to be treated well. I don’t have to keep accepting bad treatment just because it’s familiar or because it’s “family.” There’s something so revolutionary in saying, “I don’t like how I’m being treated—and I’m not going to take it anymore.” That mindset has expanded beyond my marriage into all my relationships. Now, if someone’s behavior doesn’t feel right, I ask myself: Do I really want to keep tolerating this? Or is it time to set some boundaries?

We’re taught to just “let it go,” especially with spouses or family, but accepting poor treatment takes a toll. Learning to draw the line has been a huge gift. I no longer stay in spaces where I’m not being respected—and that shift has changed my life.

Olivia Howell:

I love that. It’s so powerful and so true. Where can people find your work and follow along with your journey?

Cindy DiTiberio:

You can find me on Instagram at @cindy.ditiberio, and my Substack is The Mother Load. Just search “The Mother Load Substack,” and it’ll pop right up. That’s where I’m unpacking all of these conversations every week.

Olivia Howell:

We’ll link everything in the show notes! Cindy has amazing conversations happening over on Instagram and Substack, so definitely give her a follow and subscribe. Her work digs into everything we care about here at Fresh Starts. Thank you for being here, Cindy. You’re helping so many people see that it’s possible to come out the other side stronger, wiser, and more empowered.

Cindy DiTiberio:

Thank you so much for having me!

Divorce comes with emotional weight—but also with a mountain of paperwork. In this episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell is joined by professional organizer Leslie Kilgour from Get It Straight to break down how you can stay sane and on top of your life during divorce by staying organized. From legal documents to shared passwords to medical receipts, Leslie shares practical tips for managing it all.

Whether you're splitting bills, co-parenting, or setting up new accounts, Leslie explains how to get a grip on the paperwork chaos. She offers a roadmap for managing one month at a time, using password keeper apps, and simplifying physical mail and digital storage. Her wisdom doesn’t just apply to divorce—it’s useful in all major life transitions. Organization, Leslie says, isn’t about perfection—it’s about removing friction during an already stressful time.

Plus, Leslie reminds listeners of the importance of empathy. If it’s safe and possible, remember that you once loved your partner. Communication and organization together can ease tension, save you thousands in legal fees, and create a path toward healing. If the paperwork is too much to tackle alone, hiring an organizer—even virtually—can be a game changer.

What if you could get divorced online, affordably, without unnecessary trauma—and move on with your life faster? In this eye-opening episode of Divorce Happens, host Olivia Howell sits down with Liz Pharo, CEO of Divorce.com, to talk about disrupting the traditional (and expensive) divorce system. Liz shares how Divorce.com is making divorce simpler, faster, and more empowering—especially for people who feel stuck financially or emotionally.

From breaking down the difference between kitchen table divorces, mediation, and litigation, to explaining how Divorce.com walks you through a custom questionnaire and files your paperwork for you, this episode is packed with real, accessible support. Olivia and Liz also dive into the emotional side of divorce, the impact on families, and how creating a smoother, less aggressive process actually leads to better co-parenting and post-divorce recovery.

If you're in the early stages of divorce and don’t know where to turn—or if you just want to avoid spending $20,000+ on legal fees—this conversation will change how you see your options. Liz also shares wise words for anyone navigating the hard days: you will get through this. Tune in, take notes, and know you are not alone.