In this episode, I take you from finding out it was over to forming my strategy for leaving and keeping the house. I leave no detail out and give you full access to what I did to separate myself from what was happening and what I wanted to happen. You learn about what I wanted, what she wanted, and how all that information defined the exit strategy without lawyers or turmoil in the midst of an emotional hurricane. 

Overall, this shows you how quickly things change when hope is no longer alive. It shares what you have power over and what you can do to not be a victim of someone else’s choices which involve your life and sanity. It shows you what I did to have my divorce be an opportunity for me and not a burden. But, most importantly it reveals...

In this episode, I reflect on the moment when it all began, the first memory of when my spirit noticed something was off and the matrix had a glitch. I share about how I was told that she wanted to have a baby with me up until the house went under her name and I was married on paper. I reflect on how I blamed myself for everything as if it was my fault for trying, while all the clues in her language and behavior said otherwise. From how she spoke of her daughter stifling her career to the sleepover study nights at her friend’s house that happened more frequently than I care to admit. Some could say she didn’t want to be there, but who want to leave a man that cooked, did the dishes, and took care of your daughter while you slept “at your friend's house”. 

All this and more in this episode. Like when the earthquake hit and she was nowhere to be...

Hi! My name is Peter Maestrey and I am an accomplished filmmaker, a Podcaster, and a Divorce Coach. When this journey began, I looked at what the world had to offer me as a man going through a divorce and found nothing of value. Everyone was selling me something, but not what I needed. So, I decided to transform and educate myself and others. I logged my experience and distinguished what worked and what didn’t and began speaking about it. I learned so much about myself through others that I decided to begin listening on a bigger scale. It was healing to be a listener, both for me and the guests. Not many of us were acknowledged for what we endured, so when someone asks us to talk about it, I’ve learned that it becomes refreshing to let it out. 

Abbie Weiss, whom I turned over the microphone in this episode to is an accomplished transformational coach and human being. She is a dear friend and someone whom I have been developing my story with so that it could be shared with the world. It is with Abbie that this interview was born. It was in the very kitchen, telling the story of where I stood when my divorce became a reality that has us here today with you. You can find Abbie at www.AbbieWeiss.com and you should find her. Now back to the story.

I was with my ex for a total of 3 years and I do not regret any part of it, nor do I deny myself the pleasant memories of when we were together. Each day has a glimpse of what is possible for me and my future because of the coaching I have received and the many stories shared with me about what people endure. 

In this episode and in this interview I will reveal myself to you and what I went through. How I created my marriage and then how I created my divorce. But in order to start, I want to invite you to how it began. When I was a little boy I loved Disney and Peter Pan. It was the idea of never growing up and having a Wendy where I would build mine from my childhood.  I was to be Peter Pan and Wendy was going to be my boo. It was awesome. Then, one day on September 11th, 2016 I met who I thought was Wendy. And this is where the story takes off and I had to grow up.

In this episode we learn about the man and what he did to cope.  He tells us about what he learned, what he would do differently and what his new outlook is on life. He shares some good advice and gives us hope as listeners. When you listen to David Paul, remind yourself that he is a 70 plus year old man, married for 43 years who is recently divorced and talks about life after divorce as a new beginning. It is inspiring, bold and beautiful to know we have access to David's story, enjoy!

In this episode we explore the length of the divorce. How they lived together and never saw each other, even on the days they went to court. David talks about how she hired a high priced lawyer and how he had to separate home and work life to get through the day. He quickly learned the importance of having a good lawyer and asking the right question when you hire one. “No matter how much you prepare for something, it’s like, reality hit, it’s happening.”  

In this episode, David explains how his ex took early retirement while he continued to work and how the gradual progression of complaints and unrest slowly chipped away at the core of their marriage. He sensed something, but kept on. Then, one day while checking the accounts, 80k was gone. He informs us how in India, where he is from when you get married, two become one. He didn’t expect it, but nonetheless it happened. He talks about the importance of being involved in the finances. He also shares how he was served when the divorce became a reality. 

Meet David T. Paul. He is a Tax Accountant in the Los Angeles area with over 50 years of business experience and now divorced after 42 years of marriage. He is over 70 years of age and just recently became single again. In this interview we learn a great deal about what to do, and what to expect from divorce. David tells us from his experience what it was like adapting to the change. His advice is that if you have many assets, you should hire a great attorney and consult with your accountant to better understand what your options are.  He explains how to plan and what you should consider doing before you begin the process. 

David’s personal divorce began 5 years prior to the divorce being final. An extremely long time to endure, but necessary because of the circumstances. He walks us through the many obstacles and what he had to relearn, starting with finding a new home to live in and adjusting to being single again.  

Meet Carrie, A Florida girl rooted in Los Angeles who prefers beach chairs over fancy couches. She is a mother of two beautiful girls and a TV Producer who made divorce and all the elements that come with it an opportunity to help others. As she says “Living in a big city, being financially independent, being a single mom. All of those things in the first six months seemed just insurmountable.” We will learn how she had a lack of self confidence and a lack of feeling worthy, and a lack of being enough all mixed into what became her starting point. She tells us how losing the people that were close to her erased having an emotional support system. 

She attributes part of her loneliness in dealing with life after divorce to the fact that it wasn’t talked about. Instead, It was this shameful thing where she was some kind of failure. As she began to voice her story, support became more readily volunteered. By the end of this episode she poses a sincere question, which is “When you get married you imagine that you are going to live happily ever after, but what happens when ever after isn’t so happy?.” 

In this episode Carrie says “The hardest thing for me in this was not knowing what I wanted. The biggest struggle was not having direction, I felt very lost. That is what motivated me searching for new friendships and learning.” she explains how when you are vulnerable, you open yourself up to criticism. She adds “I wish i would’ve taken more ownership of my life and myself and not been so sacrificial in all of it.” She shares how she didn’t do the things she could’ve done to make herself happy.  

Carrie talks about how she likes who she is and how she is not afraid of speaking her mind or of being vulnerable. She shares how writing letters to the people who hurt her was healing for her, but she did not share it with them. She wrote only for the sake of purging. She talks about how her mom passing and the divorce happening at the same time had her feel like a wounded animal, wanting to go back home to Florida.  

She shared how her lawyer gave her the best advice. The lawyer said...