You've spent years abandoning yourself to keep the peace. The guilt you feel when you finally speak the truth? That's not a sign you're doing something wrong, it's a sign you're finally coming home.

Real emotional healing doesn't start with gratitude journals or "just moving on." It starts when you stop hiding the parts of yourself you buried to be good, easy, strong, or lovable.

In this conversation, Cathy Heller and Hope Firsel explore how healing from divorce, relationship change, grief, and personal transformation can become a path back to your true self when you're willing to face what you feel rather than bury it.

This is for you if: 

You're navigating life after divorce or a major relationship change 

You feel guilty every time you tell the truth about what you need 

You're exhausted from keeping the peace at your own expense 

The Universe has a crush on you! Turn on your radio and hear the most gorgeous music.
If you are just getting started, learn how to tune your radio at Cathy's Circle. Until midnight on June 19, it’s $19 for 19 days.

 • Join Cathy's Circle ⁠https://www.cathyheller.com/cathys-circle/⁠

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Join Sitting On Gold, my 12-week group coaching experience https://cathyheller.com/sog/

What if everything you have been waiting for is not out there somewhere but already tuned into a frequency you have not yet learned to receive? In this special session I am sharing the foundational teaching I come back to again and again: your mind is wired for survival and your soul is wired for abundance, and the only thing standing between you and the life you were born for is learning the difference between the two.

We talk about the radio analogy and what it really means to change your broadcast, why becoming is actually about unbecoming everything that was never you, and how to start practicing receiving before the evidence shows up. I also walk you through five journal prompts to help you declare what you are choosing, describe the version of you who already has it, and clear the signal that has been blocking what was always meant for you.

 • Join me live for 8 days: https://cathyheller.com/born

 • Join Sitting On Gold, my 12-week group coaching experience https://cathyheller.com/sog/

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If you have ever pretzeled yourself to keep the peace, avoided a hard conversation, or woken up wondering how you got so far from yourself, this episode is for you. I sat down with human connection expert and author Mark Groves to talk about codependency, self abandonment, shame, and what it actually looks like to stop leaving yourself to belong to other people. We get into why telling the truth is the most radical act of self reclamation, how to know when you have outgrown an adaptive strategy, and why the boundary that feels like it will break everything is usually the thing that sets both people free.

 • Join me live for 8 days https://cathyheller.samcart.com/products/born-for-this

 • Follow Mark Groves on Instagram @createthelove

 • Visit Mark at https://www.createthelove.com/

 • Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 https://cathyheller.com/summit/

 • Join Cathy's Circle https://www.cathyheller.com/cathys-circle/

 • Follow Cathy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller/

 • Want to work with Cathy? https://www.cathyheller.com/start-here/

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

1:38 - How Mark Groves Became a Human Connection Expert

3:44 - The Hardest Conversation He Ever Had (And Why It Led Him Back to Himself)

5:16 - Cathy's Codependency Wake-Up Call: "I Need to Be in All Seven Places"

7:03 - Why Belonging Wins Over Authenticity Every Time (And What to Do About It)

11:43 - Why Women Especially Struggle to Ask for What They Need

13:10 - "I Leave Me to Be With People Because I'm Afraid They'll Leave Me"

17:52 - The Dinner Party Where Two Strangers Admitted They Were Addicts — And It Was the Best Night Ever

21:21 - How to Get Into Your Shame Instead of Running From It

23:50 - The Meditation That Changed Everything: Welcoming Home Your Younger Self

27:09 - Going Back to Meet Your Seven-Year-Old Self

35:44 - The Biggest Way We Self-Sabotage (It's Not What You Think)

37:29 - Why Receiving Love Can Feel More Terrifying Than Losing It

40:11 - What to Do When You Ask Yourself What You Want and the Answer Is "I Don't Know"

45:39 - Stop Trying to Heal Other People — Inspiration Is Born From Self-Transformation

53:17 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 ⁠https://cathyheller.com/summit/

I also share some of my favorite stories about divine timing, including how getting lost in Orlando after missing a person I drove hours to see ended up changing the entire direction of my life, how missing a train by two minutes may have saved me from a derailment, and what happened the night I paid for a stranger's first date after losing my dad.

This one is about what it looks like to stop scanning for what's wrong and start trusting that you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

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2:01 - When the Life You Built No Longer Feels Aligned: Three Things to Do

5:53 - How Do You Trust Life When It Unfolds Differently Than You Prayed For?

8:08 - The First 10 Minutes of Your Day Are Xeroxed to Be the Rest of It

10:40 - The Sushi Restaurant, the Widow & the Divine Wink After Losing Her Dad

16:22 - Why Your Soul Doesn't Want Success — It Wants Significance

35:18 - The Woman at the Car Dealership & How One Conversation Changed Her Day

38:08 - No One Dies Alone: The Story That Proves Divine Order Is Real

43:15 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 ⁠cathyheller.com/summit⁠

What if the moments that feel like setbacks are actually the most perfectly orchestrated ones of your life? In this solo episode I'm sharing three ideas that I keep coming back to: breaking old identities, taking courageous action, and choosing certainty over logic. I also share some of my favorite stories about divine timing, including how getting lost in Orlando after missing a person I drove hours to see ended up changing the entire direction of my life, how missing a train by two minutes may have saved me from a derailment, and what happened the night I paid for a stranger's first date after losing my dad. This one is about what it looks like to stop scanning for what's wrong and start trusting that you are always exactly where you are supposed to be.

• Ready to stop holding back? My 12-week group coaching experience - https://cathyheller.com/sitting-on-gold/

 • Join Cathy's Circle ⁠https://www.cathyheller.com/cathys-circle/⁠

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 • Want to work with Cathy? ⁠https://www.cathyheller.com/start-here/

Timestamps:

0:00 - Intro

2:01 - When the Life You Built No Longer Feels Aligned: Three Things to Do

5:53 - How Do You Trust Life When It Unfolds Differently Than You Prayed For?

8:08 - The First 10 Minutes of Your Day Are Xeroxed to Be the Rest of It

10:40 - The Sushi Restaurant, the Widow & the Divine Wink After Losing Her Dad

16:22 - Why Your Soul Doesn't Want Success — It Wants Significance

22:06 - The Moment That Redirected Her Entire Life (Getting Lost in Orlando)

33:46 - Why Achieving Everything You Wanted Still Leaves You Empty

35:18 - The Woman at the Car Dealership & How One Conversation Changed Her Day

38:08 - No One Dies Alone: The Story That Proves Divine Order Is Real

43:15 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

• Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 cathyheller.com/summit

How can you stop working so hard from your mind, and move into your most abundant timeline by following the wisdom of your heart? In this powerful session, Cathy breaks down the essential morning practice of meeting with your soul before the world tells you who to be. You’ll also learn how to plug into your internal divine CFO, manifest delight and surprise every day, live on assignment with your soul, and update your internal operating system to finally receive the miracles waiting for you in escrow.

- Join us in LA on Aug. 2-3 for the Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download! cathyheller.com/summit

*Important Announcement: Episodes will be coming out on Thursdays from now on!

What if your brain is actually wired to connect with God, and your spiritual life is the missing key to your health and healing? Dr. Lisa Miller, psychologist, Columbia professor and bestselling author is back to explore the science of spirituality and what happens in the brain when we awaken to a relationship with the Divine. She shares the MRI research on the "spiritual brain," how love and faith transform our biology, why imagination is a divine antenna for downloads and creativity, and what it means to live an awakened life.

- Join us in LA on Aug. 2-3 for Cathy's summit! cathyheller.com/summit

- Read The Awakened Brain by Dr. Lisa Miller https://www.lisamillerphd.com/

- Follow Dr. Lisa Miller on Instagram @dr.lisamiller

- Previous episode with Dr. Lisa Miller https://cathyheller.com/2023/07/dr-lisa-miller-on-how-to-tap-into-your-awakened-brain-embark-on-a-spiritual-adventure/

What if the hardest thing you’ve ever faced was actually your doorway to miracles, purpose, and a deeper experience of love? Amy Purdy, Paralympic medalist, bestselling author, and speaker opens up about the second life-altering injury that brought years of chronic pain, 10 surgeries during COVID, and a complete breakdown of her identity - plus the astonishing miracle that saved her leg. She reveals how a list of 21 truths turned into her new book Bounce Forward, how she chose love in the midst of a near-death experience, and how presence, surrender, and love can turn our deepest challenges into a truly meaningful, miraculous life.
- Apply for Cathy's Mastermind - early bird pricing ends May 15th https://cathyheller.com/mastermind-august-2026-july-2027/
- Get Amy's new book, Bounce Forward: 21 Tools to Live a Life Beyond Limits https://amypurdy.com/bounce-forward-book/
- Follow Amy on Instagram @amypurdygurl

How do you actually date, glow up, and trust God’s breadcrumbs in your 30s and 40s (and beyond)? Cathy sits down with her friends Sabrina Soto and Zoe Kelsey for a behind the scenes girlfriends conversation about dating younger men, making big identity shifts, the difference between taking action from desperation vs. aligned energy, and finally refusing to over-function and people-please your way through love and work.

- Sign up for Cathy's live masterclass on the energy of receiving more, April 22 @ 7 am PT | 10 am ET cathyheller.com/masterclass

- Follow Sabrina Soto @sabrina_soto and Zoe Kelsey @weshinewell on Instagram