The Cathy Heller Podcast

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What happens when keeping the peace starts costing you your relationship with yourself?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with coach, psychotherapist, and Institute for Coaching Mastery founder Alyssa Nobriga to talk about relationships, triggers, people-pleasing, and what it actually takes to create deeper love without abandoning yourself in the process.

Alyssa shares her four stages of love and explains why relationship triggers do not necessarily mean something is wrong. They can reveal the places inside us that still need our attention. She also explains how speaking from vulnerable truth instead of blame can completely change a difficult conversation, especially when one person feels like they are growing faster than the other.

Cathy opens up about her own relationships, including the fear she felt telling her former partner the truth about what she needed and the realization that she had spent years protecting other people instead of being fully honest. Alyssa shares a vulnerable story from her own marriage about finally grieving a past relationship and how allowing herself to feel what she had been avoiding opened her heart more fully to her husband.

They also connect the same patterns to business. Cathy and Alyssa explore how the need to be liked can make us overfunction, avoid rejection, soften our point of view, and become the bottleneck in our own growth. The work is not only learning a better strategy. It is becoming free enough to be seen, tell the truth, and let the right people choose you.

This episode is for you if you are afraid of outgrowing a relationship, constantly manage other people’s feelings, struggle to say what you really need, or know that your fear of being judged is keeping you smaller than you want to be.

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Alyssa Nobriga
Founder and CEO of the Institute for Coaching Mastery

Website: https://www.alyssanobriga.com/

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What if you already understand the problem, but understanding it is not actually changing how you feel?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with Samantha Skelly, founder of Pause Breathwork, to talk about why insight alone does not always create transformation and what can happen when we stop trying to think our way through everything and actually allow ourselves to feel.

Samantha shares how her own struggles with an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, and anxiety led her to breathwork after years of trying to change through mindset work alone. She explains why she believes deeper change requires us to build a different relationship with our emotions, our bodies, and the parts of ourselves we have learned to suppress.

Cathy also shares a deeply personal experience from a seven-day retreat where she reenacted a moment from childhood and finally allowed herself to feel the emotional weight she had been carrying for years. Together, Cathy and Samantha explore why we resist uncomfortable feelings, how that resistance can quietly shape our choices, and what becomes possible when we stop fighting ourselves.

The conversation then becomes an experience as Samantha guides Cathy and the room through a breathwork practice designed to help participants slow down, reconnect with their bodies, and make space for whatever they are feeling.

This episode is for you if you have read the books, done the therapy, understand your patterns, and still wonder why knowing better has not necessarily made you feel different.

Samantha Skelly

Founder of Pause BreathworkWebsite: https://www.samanthaskelly.com/

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What if you already know the answer, but the noise in your head keeps drowning it out?

In this live conversation, Cathy sits down with speaker and coach Rudi Riekstins to explore the difference between fear, familiar mental patterns, and the quieter internal signals we often call intuition. Rudi shares his idea of the “still point,” a place beneath the mental noise where he believes we can become more aware of what feels expansive and what feels restrictive.

Rudi also tells the remarkable story of being told at 18 that he would never find true love, carrying that prediction for years, and eventually deciding he would no longer let someone else’s story determine what was possible for him. He shares what happened when he later met the woman he had somehow felt certain was coming into his life.

Cathy and Rudi talk about why familiar patterns can be so hard to leave, what it looks like to create space before reacting, and why constantly looking outside yourself for the answer can make it harder to hear what you already know. Cathy closes the conversation with a reminder to make time for the most important meeting of the day: the one where you get quiet enough to listen to yourself, your soul, and God.

This episode is for you if you overthink decisions, struggle to trust yourself, or feel like everyone else’s opinions have gotten louder than your own inner knowing.

Rudi Riekstins

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What if nothing is terribly wrong with your life, but something still feels missing?

Cathy sits down with Ben Nemtin, co-founder of The Buried Life and author of What Do You Want to Do Before You Die?, for a conversation about the dreams we bury, why waiting for motivation keeps us stuck, and how to start building a life that actually feels like your own.

Ben shares how a period of depression led him and his friends to write a list of 100 things they wanted to do before they died, eventually turning that experiment into a movement. He explains why purpose does not have to be one huge calling, why taking action can create motivation, and why the smallest possible step is often enough to start moving toward the things that make you feel more alive.

Cathy also opens up about how losing her dad changed the way she looked at her own life, why she ultimately chose to leave the life she had built in Los Angeles, and the honest conversation she finally had with her father shortly before he died. Together, Cathy and Ben explore regret, fear of judgment, letting go of control, and what can happen when you stop waiting for a crisis to give yourself permission to change.

This episode is for you if your life looks fine on paper but you keep wondering whether there is something more, if you have lost touch with what you actually want, or if fear and practicality keep talking you out of taking the first step.

Ben Nemtin

Co-founder of The Buried Life

Instagram: @bennemtin

The Bucket List Journal: Available on Amazon

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What if the fear keeping you small was built at a time when you didn’t know what you were capable of?

In this live conversation, Cathy is joined by executive and communication coach Lauren Weinstein to talk about confidence, visibility, limiting beliefs, fear of judgment, and perfectionism. Lauren shares the elephant metaphor from her TEDx talk and explains how old beliefs can keep us playing small even after we’ve outgrown them.

Cathy also shares stories about Matthew McConaughey and Christina Perri as reminders that being seen is not about performing perfectly. It is about showing up, contributing what is yours to give, and trusting yourself enough to begin.

Lauren explains why confidence is built through action and repetition. The people we admire became great because they were willing to start small, be imperfect, and get the reps.

This episode is for you if you are ready to stop overthinking what other people think, move through your fear of visibility, and let yourself be seen before you feel completely ready.

Lauren Weinstein

Resonate Coaching

Instagram: @weinstein_lauren

TEDx Talk: Don’t Believe Everything You Think

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Why do the same patterns keep showing up in your relationships, money, career, and self-worth, even when you consciously want something different?

Cathy sits down with manifestation mentor Ariana Del Rosario, also known as CosmicAry, to talk about the identity and nervous system patterns underneath the life we create.

Ariana breaks down her mirror principle, why changing the person, job, or circumstance doesn’t always change the pattern, and how childhood beliefs and emotional wounds can shape what feels safe to receive. She also shares how she went from making $500 a month and sleeping on a yoga mat to building a thriving business by making what she calls identity-level choices.

Cathy opens up about her own fear of being fully seen in love and the childhood experience that taught her she wasn’t enough.

This episode is for anyone who knows what they want but keeps getting pulled back into the same patterns, and is ready to stop choosing from fear and start living from a deeper sense of trust, safety, and self-worth.

Ariana Del Rosario / CosmicAry

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cosmicary 

Awakening Academy: https://stan.store/cosmicary/p/awakening-academy 

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What if the patterns you keep noticing in your life are trying to tell you something?

Cathy sits down with bestselling author and numerologist Kaitlyn Kaerhart to explore how numerology can help us understand our life path, purpose, timing, relationships, money, and the patterns we repeat.

Kaitlyn explains life path numbers, personal year cycles, and why looking back at what was happening in your life nine years ago can reveal surprising patterns. She also breaks down angel numbers like 111, 222, and 444, and shares how understanding her own numbers helped her rebuild after a devastating rock bottom.

Cathy opens up about getting dropped from two record deals, realizing that her real purpose was using her voice in an entirely different way, and the recurring desire for home, roots, and family that she had never fully understood.

This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, uncertain about their purpose, or curious whether the same themes keep finding their way back into their life for a reason.

Kaitlyn KaerhartWebsite: https://kaitlynkaerhart.com/Instagram: @kaerhartBook: You Are Cosmic Code: Essential Numerology

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What if the same qualities that helped you become successful are making it harder to receive the relationship you actually want?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with relationship coach Joel Monteleone for a deeply personal conversation about high-achieving women, hyper-independence, trust, dating, and what healthy masculine and feminine dynamics actually look like in a real relationship.

Joel explains why successful women can accidentally approach dating the same way they approach work: analyzing the problem, trying to figure out what they’re doing wrong, and looking for the perfect solution. But connection often asks for something very different. It asks us to be present, honest, playful, and willing to let another person actually know us.

Cathy opens up about how her own experiences taught her to associate independence with safety, why receiving a huge gesture of love from her former husband once made her panic, and the realization that letting another person take care of you creates intimacy because it requires trust.

They also talk about the stories we inherit about men and relationships, why our interpretation of an experience is not always the same as what actually happened, and how taking responsibility for your patterns is different from blaming yourself.

Joel and Cathy unpack the current conversation around “masculine men,” feminine energy, and the soft girl era, and why a healthy relationship is less about performing rigid roles and more about creating a dynamic where both people can lead, support, give, and receive.

This episode is for you if you’re successful in so many areas of your life but relationships still feel harder than they should, you find yourself overthinking dating, you struggle to let people take care of you, or you’re ready to create more trust and intimacy without becoming less powerful.

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What if the ambition, independence, and ability to “handle everything” that people admire about you are also protecting a much younger part of you that never felt fully safe, seen, or worthy?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole for a deeply personal conversation about the Father Wound and the invisible ways it can shape our relationships, careers, self-worth, and ability to receive.

Terri shares how she spent years believing she was simply ambitious until a therapist asked whether she was running toward something or running away from something. That question helped her see how much of her achievement, overfunctioning, and high-functioning codependency was connected to a deeper belief that her worth depended on what she could accomplish or give to other people.

Terri walks through the process of identifying your own Father Wound Blueprint, honoring what happened without vilifying your father, learning to ask for and receive help, and allowing compassion for your parents’ humanity to emerge without using their pain to minimize your own. She also explains why you do not need to confront your father, or even have him alive, in order to do this work.

This episode is for you if you are exhausted from always being the capable one, you struggle to ask for help or let people show up for you, you notice yourself repeating painful relationship patterns, or you are ready to understand where your drive to achieve and prove yourself may actually come from.

Terri’s book Father Wound explores these patterns and the process of reclaiming worth, boundaries, and relational power.

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What if feeling healthier, more alive, and more connected does not require changing your entire life at once, but simply making the next choice that aligns with the highest version of you?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with her friend Sanam Ghiyam for a conversation about the intersection of physical health, spirituality, desire, and what it really means to thrive. Sanam has spent years optimizing her own health and sharing what she learns with the people around her, and together she and Cathy explore why taking care of your body and deepening your spiritual life may be more connected than we realize.

They talk about the simple foundations Sanam returns to again and again, including sleep, resistance training, and nourishing food, as well as the role that peptides and GLP-1s can play when used thoughtfully with medical guidance. But the conversation goes much deeper than health hacks. Cathy and Sanam explore what it means to live with certainty without needing to control the outcome, why your desires may be pointing you toward the next version of yourself, and how sharing what you receive creates more abundance for everyone around you.

They also talk about starting small instead of trying to overhaul your life overnight, why who you surround yourself with matters, and how a few minutes of gratitude can completely change what you notice. Cathy shares a powerful story about asking God and her late father for guidance and receiving an answer in a way she never could have predicted.

This episode is for you if you feel overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice about health and longevity, you want to feel stronger and more energized as you get older, you are learning how to trust your desires without becoming attached to the outcome, or you want to become more available to the guidance, synchronicities, and blessings that may already be surrounding you. 

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