20% of the population has a highly sensitive personality according to Elaine Aron.

The so-called Sensory Processing Sensitivity causes a heightened perception of stimuli.

The processing of stimuli in the brain is also intensified.

As a result, highly sensitive people go through life with a high level of sensitivity.

And therefore also through dating life.

Have you ever had the feeling in your life that no partner really fits? (zoom)

And do your friends keep telling you that you're too picky? (zoom)

Well, then today I have 5 reasons why dating is so hard for HSPs:

1) Strong awareness of needs 

Particularly sensitive people are very clear about what their needs are. As a result, they know exactly what they need and want and what not. Also, when choosing a partner ;-)

2) Desire to be deeply understood

HSPs have deep relationships. If you are highly sensitive yourself, you may have experienced the following: You meet someone who understands and respects you on a completely different level. It just instantly hits you. This deep understanding of each other is rare, but once experienced, you would never want a relationship without it.

3) Very fine aesthetic appreciation

A high sense of aesthetics is important for many highly sensitive people. They know exactly what they find aesthetically attractive and what they do not. There is a fine line between external attractiveness and potential partners. Especially body smells and tastes, pheromones, facial features, voice pitch or body shape are perceived as particularly sensitive by HSPs.

4) Being a loner

Often highly sensitive people are rather loners. This is not necessarily due to their introversion, but many have learned that they often overtax others with their needs.

That's why they think carefully about who they enter into a relationship with and when.

Such people often say: I would rather stay alone all my life than enter into a relationship that doesn't quite meet my needs.

5) Living a secluded life

Two thirds of all highly sensitive people are introverts. Those who live a more withdrawn life also have less contact with other people. This reduces the likelihood of meeting a potential partner. Especially if the demands are high.

I would like to add that there are of course also many “normally or not overly sensitive” people who are also very sensitive and selective in their search for a partner. However, high sensitivity can intensify this phenomenon.

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