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The need to be alone is felt by many of us.

But is it because there are suddenly a lot of introverts among us?

Or is it because many of us use isolation to cope with our distrust in other people and the world?

In other words: Isn’t isolation just another sign of a learned avoidant attachment style?

In today’s episode, I’d like to find that out.

So we compare avoidance and introversion

I talk you through 5 signs it’s actually avoidance, not introversion

And in the end, we look for an answer to the question, if we NEED or more LIKE to be alone and what we can do about it.

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Shadow Work Episode: https://youtu.be/xPSEl9sOd9I?si=zwGwdZGhOBD_SIk4

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma Paper: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

The Muse Article: https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-scientific-answer-that-explains-why-introverts-need-and-cherish-their-space

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:31 Introversion

02:30 Avoidance

04:33 The Need To Be Alone

11:15 Do Introverts Need Alone Time?

15:12 Sign 1: You Believe That People & Relationships Mean Pain

17:37 Sign 2: Other People Trigger You Emotionally

18:21 Sign 3: You Can’t Set Healthy Boundaries

19:26 Sign 4: You Are A Self- Or Autoregulator

20:31 Sign 5: You Feel Panic If There Is No Place To Withdraw

20:59 Solutions

23:26 Final Thoughts

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.