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Do you feel, think, and behave the same way around other people as you do when you are alone?

Or do you feel the need to pretend, to play a role and act very differently than normal?

This behavior could be a result of toxic shame, that may hold back your true authentic self and chains you to an exhausting role-play you have to perform on a daily basis.

Especially insecurely attached people and CPTSD survivors are often affected by toxic shame.

But, they are often not aware, that they behave out of a shame-bound self and identity.

This is why, in today’s episode, we will explore and understand what toxic shame actually is.

I will share 5 typical signs of toxic shame with you.

And in the end, I will give you a 3-step solution plan on how you can finally break that cycle of toxic shame and start healing your wounds.

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Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/@TimFletcher

Heidie Priebe: https://www.youtube.com/@heidipriebe1

Toxic Shame Persona by Tim Fletcher: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=OGEV5odgbyj0G-KT

Re-Regulation Tools Episode: https://youtu.be/i05BWtgjYRw?si=miV_L3NIbbTqXHsU

Dissociation Episode: https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=b1RNIGTpEuCQlrJf

Limerence Episode: https://youtu.be/LZ-IFevq90o?si=tFtBoRjvXRPBAhRl

Codependency Episode: https://youtu.be/OSeR88YWwhU?si=vljpHGm7mCtcN6Xj

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:41 What Is Shame?

04:18 What Is Toxic Shame?

15:56 Toxic Shame And The Central Nervous System

18:55 5 Signs That You Suffer From Toxic Shame

19:29 Sign 1: You Regularly Lose The Connection With Yourself

21:55 Sign 2: You Avoid Close Relationships

22:27 Sign 3: You Often React Defensive & Guarded

25:15 Sign 4: You Are Confusing Between Your True And Your Persona Self

26:47 Sign 5: You Have Addictive Behaviors

28:08 How To Break The Cycle

34:38 Final Thoughts

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.