UNDERSTANDABLE

E241 - 10 Reasons Why We Isolate: Complex Trauma & Isolation


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If you can relate to my story and you also sometimes meet people who say that isolation is unhealthy and wrong, please send them this video here.

They have to understand, that for people like us, who are introverts, highly sensitive, traumatized or neurodivergent other people are the trigger.

Other people are the source of the wound and the overstimulation and overwhelm we experience.

And isolation is a way to help us to re-regulate.

For better understanding, in today’s video, I have put together 10 reasons, why we isolate and need time alone.

I try to explain every single reason in a compassionate and understandable way.



► Links and Resources:

The 4 Attachment Styles Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA

Polyvagal Theory Episode: https://youtu.be/2iT8Msp8Vx0

Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA

Toxic Shame Episode: https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI



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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Why I Was Isolating For My Whole Life

03:43 Reason 1: We Want Safety, Stability & Peace!

06:46 Reason 2: A “Narcissist” Destroyed Us

09:01 Reason 3: We Are Auto-Regulators & Self-Soothers (Avoidant Attachment)

11:14 Reason 4: Our Attachment-Style Is Disorganized/Chaotic

13:52 Reason 5: We Have Missing Boundaries

17:57 Reason 6: We Feel Chronically Dysregulated And Hypervigilant

21:56 Reason 7: We Are Introverts

23:39 Reason 8: We Are Highly Sensitive

25:44 Reason 9: We Are Neurodivergent (Autism/ADHD Etc.)

27:52 Reason 10: We Are Depressed

31:22 Final Thoughts



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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about CPTSD & attachment theory for highly sensitive & neurodivergent people.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.


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