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Over the past decade, I ended five long-term relationships.

And each time, I convinced myself I was better off alone.

But what I didn’t realize back then was this:

That my relationships didn’t work wasn’t about my partners.

It wasn’t even really about me.

It was unresolved childhood trauma, quietly hijacking my gut feelings, sabotaging my relationships, and shaping how I showed up in love.

In today’s video, I want to uncover how early emotional wounds act like a hidden puppet master in our relationships…

What’s truly behind your attachment style…

And how you can finally break the cycle of painful patterns and partners that never feel safe.

Ready for some real “aha” moments?

► Links and Resources:

Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=dkhPhvMPJxzTZj14

I Overcame My Avoidant Attachment Style Episode:

https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:01 How Trauma Sabotaged My Relationships

04:11 How Trauma Shapes Love

05:44 How Trauma Hijacks Your Emotions

05:51 Hijacked By Traum: Your Emotions

08:42 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Behaviour

09:53 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Attachment Style

11:09 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Value Compass

12:48 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Identity

13:26 The Cycle

17:13 How To Break The Cycle

17:38 Step 1: Create Awareness For What's Going On

19:53 Step 2: Understand Your Attachment Style

21:41 Step 3: Stop Chasing Only What Feels Familiar

23:58 Step 4: Learn The Skills For Healthy Love

26:09 Final Thoughts

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.