UNDERSTANDABLE

E293 - The #1 Reason You Never "Feel Good Enough"


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There is one reason, why so many of us are feeling not good enough.

No matter how much you achieve or how many people tell you otherwise, you still sometimes just want to disappear, because you're feeling so degraded and thinskinned.

But the thing is: That voice inside you that keeps saying, ‘You’re not enough’… it didn’t start with you.

You weren’t born believing that. It was planted there — and it’s been shaping the way you see yourself ever since.

And in today's video, we’re going to look at where that belief really comes from, what toxic shame actually is, how it can quietly control every area of your life without you even realizing it… and most importantly, what you can do to finally break free from it.


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Toxic Shame Episode:

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:05 Where “I’m Not Good Enough” Comes From

03:48 Toxic Shame: The Root Of It All

10:04 Why You Keep Ending Up In The Same Pain

11:33 How To Stop Feeling “Not Good Enough”

12:17 Step 1: Realize: It Was Never Your Fault!

13:01 Step 2: Replace Self-Criticism With Compassion

14:33 Step 3: Train Yourself To Interrupt The Cycle As Often As Possible

15:25 Step 4 : Create New Relationship Experiences

16:30 Step 5: Use Re-Regulation-Tools And Resources


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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