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Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 10 signs it’s a trauma bond and not real love.

But I won’t just throw these signs at you, I want you to truly understand the background psychology of a trauma bond.

This is why I take you into the roller coaster relationship of Mary.

We will see how a trauma-bonded relationship forms, how it builds up, and then slowly but gradually crashes into emotional suffering, codependency and addiction - sign by sign.

Plus, in the end, we will also explore what real love actually might look like.

► Links and Resources:

Limerence Episode:

https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=kSFn2nNBgBf6Mx3k

Trauma Bond Article: https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/

Codependency Series by Tim Fletcher:

https://youtu.be/yesXC_ibRKE?si=r4JO6JGdscfuJU0c

People Pleasing and Healthy Conflict Video: https://youtu.be/ZhExIeU3Bys?si=6pxiypHRDxaAldEW

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:48 What Is A Trauma Bond?

04:40 Sign 1: The Honeymoon Phase (Love Bombing)

06:44 Sign 2: Unwritten Rules

08:52 Sign 3: Honesty Is Dangerous

13:17 Sign 4: Gaslighting

14:37 Sign 5: Double Standards

15:46 Sign 6: Enmeshment And Codependency

19:34 Sign 7: Cause For Pain, Source For Healing

21:44 Sign 8: Emotional Responsibility

24:00 Sign 9: Abuse Escalation

29:15 Sign 10: Addiction (The Crash)

31:19 What Is Love?

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.