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Episode 21: Heather Monahan

In this episode:

• Finding your confidence
• Eliminating the negativity around you
• Allowing yourself to take off
• Practicing confidence to create confidence
• Tips to get yourself fired up

Heather Monahan is a best-selling author, keynote speaker with the Harry Walker Agency entrepreneur and founder of Boss In Heels.  Having worked nearly 20 years in Corporate America, Heather Monahan is one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim her spot in the C-suite.  Heather’s a Glass Ceiling Award winner, named one of the most Influential Women in Radio in 2017 and Thrive Global named her a Limit Breaking Female Founder in 2018.  She’s also a member of Florida International University’s Advisory Council to further serve as a mentor and leader in the South Florida Community.

I am so excited for you to hear today’s episode with powerhouse Heather Monahan. In this episode, we deep dive into how to actually build confidence as someone just trying to make your mark and show up to the world in your most authentic way. Heather shares so much incredible, tangible advice that we can actually implement right now, today, to move our lives forward & build lives that we are really obsessed with. “Don’t give up, take action.”

PUMP-UP JAM:

• I Love Myself by Kendrick Lamar

Quotes:

“Firing the villains from your life is a key way to allow yourself to take off.”

“Write down on a piece of paper, I love myself, I am enough, I trust in myself, I listen to myself and act on it, I am worth more than what I am getting, I am changing. Whatever your truth that you want to be real, write them down.”

“Fear is a liar - it’s not real. You’ve only created this for yourself in your mind.”

“When you are feeling scared that’s a green light, which means go and go faster, you’re doing it.”

Resources:

• www.heathermonahan.com
• Get a copy of her book! Confidence Creator by Heather Monahan
• Connect with Heather on Instagram: @heathermonahan
• Get yourself a 

Episode 20: Comparison

In this episode:

• Comparison is inevitable – know what YOU want
• The highlight reel vs reality
• Using those that came before as evidence
• Learning from what triggers you
• Controlling what you can - YOURSELF

In today’s episode, we are talking COMPARISON. In specific, comparison in regards to social media. We all know that comparison is inevitable in this social media driven world where we can scroll through hundreds of highlight reels and unfortunately, we sometimes forget reality. Today I wanted to talk about 5 tips that I have if you struggle with comparison or if someone that you know does. Here’s the breakdown:

1. Know what YOU want – that’s what matters most.
2. Use other people’s experience as EVIDENCE that it CAN BE DONE.
3. Ask yourself better questions.
4. SCHEDULE off the grid unplugged time.
5. Unfollow the people that trigger you.

“Girl I want you to live a life that you are freaking OBSESSED with. I do not want some sallysue293 on Instagram to be the reason that you’re holding yourself back and staying in your own damn way of pursuing your goals and this beautiful vision that you have for your life.”

Quotes:

“Just because she has more likes on a picture, has nothing to do with her being better than you at anything.”

“Let’s peel back what the real goal is here. I hope that the real goal is to be happy and fulfilled in life not just for the internet.”

“At the end of the day, if you know your path and your goals and your priorities, that’s what matters.”

“If you catch yourself comparing and then in turn doubting yourself, ask yourself WHY you catch yourself wishing that you had something that she has.”

Resources:

• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline
• If we aren't connected yet be sure to come hang with me on Instagram @kaciafitzgerald and @empowerHERpodcast or online at www.kaciafitzgerald.com
• Topic or speaker suggestions? Shoot us an email: [email protected]

Episode 19: Interview with Melisa Celikel

In this episode:

• Vision setting & smart goals
• Decluttering your life & home
• Mindset behind getting organized
• Living in the present
• Limiting beliefs around clutter

Melisa Celikel is the owner of Let's Get You Organized, San Diego's Premier Professional Organizing Company.

Let's Get You Organized operates on the three core values of Respect, Collaboration, and Active Listening to help scattered shopaholics develop positive habits, take action, and make realistic choices in implementing their home organization systems. Melisa and her team strategically implement decluttering solutions and work to reduce chaos & disorganization for each in-home client. Virtual Clutter Coaching and Aspiring Professional Organizer Mentorship Programs are also offered for non-local clients.

On the show today we have Melisa Celikel who is a professional organizer and I was BLOWN AWAY by how much MINDSET plays a role in getting and staying organized. Melisa not only gives us tangible tips for getting more organized to live a less cluttered and chaotic life, but also talks about doing more of a deep dive into mindset around things like lack or scarcity or things that have happened in our lives that cause us to hold onto things that are no longer serving us. I can’t wait for you all to soak up what Melisa has to offer & I’m pumped to hear what you think!

“Go deeper than the superficial stuff that’s gonna come up… start to get to a place of soul and understanding what your soul really wants in this earthly life.”

PUMP-UP JAM:

• Let It Go from Frozen
• Wu-Tang Clan

Quotes:

“You’re living for the now, you’re living with what you have. It’s simplified, it’s efficient, you’re living a productive organized life instead of a life of cluttered chaos.”

“Really taking a holistic view of your life and stepping back, and asking yourself what do I want.”

“Of course you’re gonna leave people behind in your life because you’re gonna keep up-leveling and you’re gonna keep calling yourself to more, and you’re gonna still be reaching your potential in greatness.”

“Stop living for other people, what do you want?”

Resources:

• Be sure to follow Melisa on Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, and the LGYO Bl

Episode 18: Conflict Prevention

In this episode:

• Fight or flight mentality
• Different life experiences & perspectives
• Choosing curiosity over defensiveness
• Is the story true or are your emotions driving
• The Power of Vulnerability

I am SO excited you are here today because we are talking about a really important topic: preventing conflict. It’s a little bit of a different take on conflict resolution or dealing with negativity but is a lot more about the REAL TIME reactions during conflict. We always get to CHOOSE how we react or handle situations & because we are all about ACTION, I’m going to break down a few steps for you:

1. Choose to LEARN – choose CURIOSITY
   2.  Ask yourself if the STORY is true? Or are your EMOTIONS driving it?
   3.  Brené Brown – read her books especially "Power of Vulnerability" 

Quotes:

“Is this story you’re creating even true?”

“I got so damn curious I put myself, to the best of my ability that I could, in her shoes, and I thought how can I make sense of this from her lens.”

“What an opportunity that I would have missed to learn something if I would have shut her down. An opportunity to learn something about myself, to become a better communicator, to more effectively lead.”

“Every single person that we meet knows something we don’t, and has a completely different life experience and perspective. And we get to choose, always choose, to learn.”

Resources:

• The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown
• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline
• If we aren't connected yet be sure to come hang with me on Instagram @kaciafitzgerald and @empowerHERpodcast or online at www.kaciafitzgerald.com
• Topic or speaker suggestions? Shoot us an email: [email protected]

Episode 17: Kelly Roach

In this episode:

• Productivity hacks
• Being grateful while also wanting more
• Abundance mindset vs Scarcity mindset
• Turning a disadvantage into an advantage
• Power of multiple streams of income

Kelly Roach is known as THE BUSINESS CATALYST, helping elite business owners become game changers in their field and achieve million dollar + breakthroughs in their business. As a former Fortune 500 executive who built and led record-breaking teams in 17 locations around the US, Kelly's programs and consulting encompass billion dollar corporate strategies combined with the speed and agility of the most powerful online strategies of today. Kelly is a featured expert on ABC, NBC, Good Day, The CW and in some of the world's leading publications such as Inc. and Forbes where she shares the principles of her best-selling books and top podcast, Unstoppable Success Radio. Kelly is committed to ongoing philanthropic work to bring clean drinking water to those who do not have access and is the co-founder of Give Her Courage, a movement to instill courage and confidence in the girls of our future from the start.

I am SO excited to share today’s episode with Kelly Roach with you all! We are chatting about a brand new topic & it’s one that I think is SO freaking important: money mindset and financial awareness. Kelly is a POWERHOUSE coach who brings the FIRE for this entire episode! Whether you are an entrepreneur or just a 20 or 30 something trying to figure it all out like the rest of us, there is so much content that will resonate with you today. Can’t wait to hear what you think!

“The things that are keeping you stuck, are only the boundaries that you’re setting for yourself.”

PUMP-UP JAM:

• Beyoncé

Quotes:

“Sometimes we’re trying to come up with this magical, beautiful, perfect idea, and it keeps people stuck in indecision for so long when usually it’s literally right in front of you.”

“The most easy, obvious answer is usually the right one.”

“Starting when it’s imperfect and just committing to enjoying the process, is actually one of the most important parts.”

“I made the excuse that I had a disadvantage and that I couldn’t achieve my potential because I was working fultime. And that held me back.”

“There’s some kind of thing in your life that you think is your greatest disadvantage, and its why you can’t achieve your dreams and what you really want, that you’ve been letting stand in your way, when really, I’m promising you, that is your biggest advantage.”

“If you’re desiring more, it means that you were blessed and you were given the potential to create more, for a reason.”

“Most people quit everything they do, before they ever get any results from it.”

Resources:

• Subscribe to Kelly’s podcast: Unstoppable Success Radio

Episode 16: Throwing out the TIMELINE & the "SHOULDS" 

In this episode:

• Seasons of life that “should” be a certain way
• Forgetting about timelines
• Why we need to stop shaming each other
• Trusting your gut & worrying less
• Don’t stand in your OWN way

Today we are talking about the TIMELINE & all those “shoulds” that are associated with certain stages of life.

Society and the people around us put totally unnecessary pressure to be at a certain place or have certain things by a specific age, and I am calling BS on it all. There is NO timeline that you “should” follow. Your life is YOURS and that is it. And of course, because I am here to help with ACTION & TANGIBLE take aways, here are three things I know for certain that have helped me overcome the feelings we often have in this stage of life:

1. 99% of the time what we worry about is not actually going to happen
2. You were not given a vision for your life that is not yours to have
3. Along the way, things will go wrong, but they likely weren’t even what we worried about

Quotes:

“Screw the damn checklist of you should be doing XYZ by blank age that society pushes on us.”

“99% of the time what we worry about is not actually going to happen.”

“If you show up to life as authentically as you can and you say yes to random things that excite you or pull at your heart strings, the universe or God or whatever you believe in, will help you get there.”

“Why not make the most of every single day, and throw the damn should and the timeline that you’ve created for yourself, and honestly girl for others, out the damn window.”

“Don’t be the only thing standing in your way.”

Resources:

• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline
• If we aren't connected yet be sure to come hang with me on Instagram @kaciafitzgerald and @empowerHERpodcast or online at www.kaciafitzgerald.com

Topic or speaker suggestions? Shoot us an email: [email protected]

Episode 15: Rachel Wright

In this episode:

• Relationship education
• Resolving & communicating through conflict
• Understanding communication differences
• Acknowledge, Explain & Offer
• Confirmation biases

Psychotherapist and Therapeutic Relationship Coach, Rachel Wright is recognized as one of the freshest voices on modern and millennial relationships. She is the co-founder of Wright Wellness Center where, together with her husband and team, she is on a mission to help people have better sex, relationships, and mental health, through a growing catalog of masterclasses, online programs, resources and a supportive online community. Rachel is also a sex educator, speaker, and writer, and the co-host of the Bachelor-themed podcast The Wright Reasons that hosts a weekly discussion about all things The Bachelor through the lens of healthy relationships. She has been featured widely in the media, including Cosmopolitan, InStyle, Women’s Health, NBC News Radio, PsychologyToday, MindBodyGreen, Bustle, and dozens of other outlets.

In today’s episode, I got to talk with Rachel about all things relationships & communication, and boy did she bring the FIRE. She’s been referred to as someone “bridging the gap between a self-help book and a therapist's couch,” is refreshingly funny, charismatic and she adds SO MUCH valuable information to this episode.

“Be kind to yourself. No matter where you are, no matter who you’re with. Whether you wanted to be with someone else or you love who you’re with… no matter what is going on, be kind to yourself.”

PUMP-UP JAM:

• I’d Rather Be Me by Barrett Wilbert Weed

Quotes:

“We can reach our goals & it’s okay for those goals to change.”

“We avoid conversations with our partners about really important things because we are so afraid we are going to crash our relationship.”

“Every time you try to win a fight in your relationship, your relationship is losing.”

“The shoulding on ourselves that we do on a daily basis, is one of the worst things that we can do for ourselves.”

“It is so amazing, to realize that we get to continually learn about our partners, and that’s a gift!”

“There is no such thing as perfect, there is just now.”

“At the end of the day, you are modeling how you want people to treat you by how you treat you.”

Resources:

• Follow Rachel on Instagram at @thewright_rachel and @wrightwellnesscenter
• Rachel has provided tons of FREE content for us including the Update Date Game!! Check it out here: 

Episode 14: Tips to Get Your Happy On

In this episode:

• Becoming self aware 
• Using personality tests (like Enneagram) to know yourself better
• Choosing happiness every day
• Trusting that life is rigged in your favor

Today’s topic is one of my absolute FAVORITES: happiness.

I hear it ALL the time, “Kacia, are you REALLY that happy all the time?” The truth is, of course I am human that has bad days, but the MAJORITY of the time, I would say YES, I am a happier than average person! Of course we are all about TOOLS & ACTION here, so I wanted to share some of the things that I have done & do on a regular basis to make HAPPINESS a part of my daily routine. Can’t wait to hear what you think!

#1- I’M HAPPY BECAUSE IM SELF AWARE

#2- UNDERSTANDING that you can CHOOSE to look at EVENTS as NEUTRAL & we CREATE the MEANING

#3- The UTTER BELIEF that LIFE is RIGGED IN OUR FAVOR.

Quotes:

“What do I need right now, to be a full complete happy person?”

“Being self-aware means, you can’t put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.”

“Every time something happens to me, I create a meaning that serves me.”

“We’ve got lives to change & a huge, happy, fulfilling, rich, full, abundant life to live. We don’t have time to create meanings that don’t serve us.”

“If you like where you’re at now and any aspect of your life, you’ve gotta be grateful for the path that got you there.”

Resources:

• The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
• Interview with SaraJane Case on using the Enneagram Test to take ACTION & become more SELF AWARE
• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline

If we aren't connected yet be sure to come hang with me on Instagram @kaciafitzgerald and @empowerHERpodcast or online atwww.kaciafitzgerald.com

Episode 13: SaraJane Case

In this episode:

• Basic overview of Enneagram types
• How to stop procrastinating based on your type
• New Years resolutions for your type
• Understanding others in your life

SaraJane Case is a writer, coach and speaker based in Asheville, NC. She works with women wanting to build the life of their dreams through her membership community - Brave Collective as well as through her work with the enneagram. She has two podcasts Brave Radio & Enneagram & Coffee!

I am seriously PUMPED for you all to hear today’s episode with SaraJane!

She is an expert on all things Enneagram and it is just FASCINATING to hear her perspective on these 9 different personality types.

We talk about how each type addresses things like procrastination & dealing with both stress and rest states.

SaraJane gives some tangible ideas for simple “New Year’s Resolutions” for each type to put into practice in order to be their BEST & HAPPIEST selves, as well as how to get to know the types (& needs) of your loved ones.

“Time will keep moving and if you don’t stop and really decide that this is the time you’re going to start, this is the time you’re going to put action to the ideas that you have, you might find yourself 30 years down the road not having hit that 10 year goal.”

PUMP-UP JAM:

• Yoga/Meditation playlist on Spotify 

Quotes:

“Once you understand the motivations of the people in your life you can no longer judge them for their actions.”

“Resolution and mediation comes from simply understanding, and the willingness to seek understanding.”

“How can you take care of yourself today so that you can go back to the part of you that you really love.”

“It allows you to communicate with the people who love you what is real for you and what is not.”

“If I can just wait, and just breathe and trust that my mojo is gonna come back, it always comes back.”

Resources:

• Connect with SaraJane on Instagram @sarajanecase and @enneagramandcoffee
• If you want to learn more about the enneagram with Sarajane, you can join her free webinar at www.sarajanecase.com/enneagram
• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline

If we aren't connected yet be sure to come

Episode 12: What if you just GO FOR IT? 

In this episode:

• What will you MISS OUT on if you DON’T do something?
• Impact potential
• Playing it ALL the way out
• What if it DID all work out?
• Making a game-plan

Today’s episode is short, but it is SAUCY.

We are talking about OPPORTUNITY COST and what you could MISS OUT on if you DON’T go after that “thing” that’s been on your mind. Maybe it’s starting an Etsy shop, or a new blog, or starting that side hustle. Whatever YOUR thing is, what are you leaving on the table if you DON’T try it out AND what could happen if you DO? And because you know I am ALL about action, try out these 3 ACTION STEPS:

1. Pick your thing – that thing in your gut – & play it ALL the way out. What’s the BEST that could happen?
2. What is holding you back? Write it down. Look for ALL of the reasons to DISPROVE the logic that you “can’t.”
3. DECIDE. Share it with someone. Stop waiting & take some ACTION.

** You may notice right around minute 5:30 me saying to leave a review on AMAZON.. I have no idea what I am talking about, please go leave a review on iTunes... we’re takin messy action here ;) **

Quotes:

“We don’t think about the HAPPINESS that we COULD have if we did do the thing.”

“Just push the doubt away, kick it to the curb, & GO FOR IT.”

“What’s the number one excuse that keeps coming up in your head of why you aren’t doing that thing? Why you aren’t going full out?”

“That resiliency that you were given to get through that struggle? That’s a GIFT.”

“Why. Not. Me.”

Resources:

• Check out the episode Purpose Driven Action
• Get yourself a Mini Trampoline

If we aren't connected yet be sure to come hang with me on Instagram @kaciafitzgerald and @empowerHERpodcast or online at www.kaciafitzgerald.com