The Rising Beyond Podcast

Ep 156: How to Reclaim Your Identity After Coercive Control and Narcissistic Abuse


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Ever look in the mirror and think, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?

If you've survived a coercive, abusive relationship — or are still dealing with the chaos of post-separation abuse — that feeling isn’t just common, it’s expected. You’ve been in survival mode for so long that things like identity, purpose, and values may feel like luxuries you can’t afford.

But what if reconnecting with your values is exactly what helps you move forward.

In this episode Sybil gets real about what happens to your sense of self after abuse — and how you can begin to reclaim it, even if you're still living in the storm of post-separation chaos. She’ll walk you through how your values got buried (or used against you), why reconnecting with them is not optional for healing, and a powerful exercise that helps uncover what truly matters to you.

This is not about reinventing yourself — it’s about remembering who you are.

You'll Learn:

  • Why your values were likely distorted or silenced during the abuse
  • How moral injury shows up when you're forced to act against your beliefs
  • What your current pain might reveal about your deepest values
  • A powerful journaling exercise to help you reconnect with your truth
  • How to start living by your values again — even in tiny ways — and why that changes everything


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