Shame is the bread and butter of a narcissistic and abusive partner.  It prevents you from leaving the relationship by decreasing your self-worth and maintaining the secrecy of the abuse.

Our lizard brains are constantly looking out for signs of danger vs safety and will have us behave in ways to maintain as much safety in any given situation, even if it doesn’t feel congruent with your value system.  As a way to manage the state of cognitive dissonance, your brain may also focus on the positive times with your partner rather than the abuse.  So, the behaviors we do make sense in the situation and may not feel positive to you now that you are out or as you are evaluating your role in the relationship.

In this episode, you will learn ways to start to decrease the shame you hold that is stalling your healing process.  

• Stop comparing your current self that understands how abusive relationships work with the before you
• Start challenging your shameful thoughts 
• Reframe the behaviors that feel shameful as survival strategies
• Sharing your shame stories with safe people

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